I made this advice column to help kids and teens with their problems. I have personally had deal with siblings, friends, parents, school, and basically anything and everything else. I know what it feels like to be upset when life gives me crap. I assure you guys, the advice I give will not be like, "When life gives you lemons, make lemonade!" No. I don't believe in that bull. I'll give advice that will help guide you and maybe help you make the right choice. The advice I'll give would be realistic and straight forward. No nonsense. I remember hating it when adults told me to look on the positive side of things when I was upset, I mean, what the hell? It's so hard to look at some crappy situation positively. Like when my grandma died, how the hell am I supposed to look positively at that? Couldn't you guys just let me mourn and leave me alone? But a teacher who was just like am I now gave me some advice that actually helped. She told me some things that helped me cope with the loss. Unfortunately, I haven't seen her since grade five. Oh yeah, one more thing, I do not appreciate stupid questions because there ARE such things as stupid questions. So don't be asking for homework help or anything like that. kkthanx
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ok i have these to friends a and b there both guys there fighting over this 1 girl (c) and a)wants to fight b) a) drew this picture of himself and b) b was on the floor and a was up in the air with his fist up punching b then above a it said die he handed to 1 of his friends d and d showed me i took it from d and folded it up and put it in my pocket i then took it to the princeipl do u think that was a good idea (link)
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Whoa whoa whoa... that was hard for me to read. (I had to read it aloud to understand.)
I think it was an awesome idea, just get rid of that drawing and make sure B doesn't see it. It might hurt his feelings if he saw it and he might retaliate by doing something he might regret later on. Tell the guys to stop being so immature and foolish; throwing away their friendship for a girl. Let the girl decide who she wants (though she might not want either). Don't get involved unless it's totally necessary (as in them doing something they shouldn't be). You don't want them angry at you over some fight THEY had.
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I dont know why but i think i may be losing my friendships with my friends. A lot of my friends aren't talking to me anymore and when i try to talk, they ignore me. This never happened before and i dont know why or how this started. It started a few months ago in my freshman year at high school and just keeps increasing with more friends as time goes on. Many of the friends i had before are now just acting different around me. They seem to dislike me and keep distance with me. If i try to talk, they just say nothing. I dont know what to do and im scared about this situation. They used to text me, talk all the time, and we used to hang out and now its stopped. Whenever i try to hang out with them, they are always with the other people there and if i try to talk they just answer and get back to the other kids. I feel really depressed and i dont know why this is happening. They act like they dont like me when i'm around and even ignore me. They act like i'm invisible or as if i'm not there. I need advice on this and want to get back to how everything was before. I dont know what is wrong with me, or why they are like how they are. I really want to fix this so please give any advice you have. (link)
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If they are doing this to you, it's probably because you've done something wrong, or they just don't wanna hang out with you anymore. If they are using this approach, maybe they're not your true friends.
My advice to you would be to make new friends, or try to talk to them. Talk to them about how you feel and demand an explanation. No one deserves to be treated this way.
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Right. So I have this guy friend who's basically only sexually attracted to me. I mean he's cool and all and we're friends but he'll talk about how he wants to have sex with me and stuff. I've told him I'm not dating people right now because I'm just taking a break to focus on the more important aspects of my life. He knows I won't date him but we're really close so he invited me to this date thing the football players are having. They're projecting a movie onto the side of our school or something and it's supposed to be really cool and all the football players are gonna be there... well he asked me and I kinda want to go because I like meeting new people and I've been a hermit lately because of all our end of school testing and my needing to study. So it'd be a break from that and I think it'd be fun. However, I'm afraid if I go there, two things could possibly happen;
1) I could be leading this guy on because he thinks it'll be a date
2) The other guys wont talk to me because the guy that i'm going with will probably brag about bringing me or something and tell them that I like him :/ which I don't... and I really just want to go to meet some new people...
So... do yo think I should go or not? I don't want to lead this guy on but I want to meet other guys :) thanks in advance! (link)
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Well, I definitely think you should go. That's what you WANT to do, right? Besides, there are football guys there.
Just sit down and talk to your friend that you're not interested in dating him, but make sure he gets that through his thick skull! Tell him that you will be attending the event as his friend, not date.
My advice to you, just talk to him about it and if he's a good guy, or more important, your friend, he'll understand.
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