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Hey all, I'm 16 (wow does it feel weird writing that!) and I feel I can help people if they need advice, especially in the mental health areas since I've had some experience in matters such as that. Don't be afraid to ask! I will try my best to help you.
I live in the UK- England to be more precise. I love shopping, swimming- anything that is fun really. I am a bubbly person (nominated most bubbly on the year book!) although I can also be quite. I'm generally caring and kind- not to sound bigheaded!
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Ok here it goes. Me and my bff have been bestfriends for a little over a year. Yes we have our fights and such but one of us apologizes and we get over it. Well the other day i was having a crappy day and kind of took it out on her because usually i can trust her to not take it to the extreme or freak out. Well later on i had realized what i did and apologized for it and she went off saying i take her for granted and im selfish and all these other things. Well we didnt talk for the rest of the day and for most of today. But then she randomly IMed me like nothing had happend and like she hadnt said anything. I read her online journal and she said that she wasnt going to apologize because she didnt do or say anything wrong. But i think she did. maybe not as much what she said but how she said it. I dont know if i should tell her how i feel and talk with her about it risking her getting mad about it. or should i just hold it in and forget about it?
please help
If you hold it in and forget about it things could bubble up inside and cause a much larger row between you. In relationships it is much better to air your feelings. It seems as if she has some feelings to air herself.
I wouldn't do this over IM, writing or even the phone. I would speak to her face to face as this way things can't be taken so much the wrong way since you can see how the other person means what they say.
Do this in a peaceful place- not clustered and just try to talk it out. DON'T attack her as this will put her on the defensive. Ask her how she feels too. Tell her that you value your friendship and reinforce that you are sorry for how you acted before and say that you felt hurt by her words. Ask her why she said it? You may be offended but at least you can understand and work to make things better.
Don't leave it though; the chances are it will come up again if you do.
Good luck
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