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Okay, so I'm going into 8th grade after Summer this year, and I want to make new friends. Problem is -- I have one particular friend that makes it hard. Really hard.

Like she'll get really mad whenever she hears I've gotten together or made other plans with other friends (even if it's my cousins!) and insist or invite herself to come with.

But she's friends with this other girl that I'm also friends with, and we were all supposedly close through 7th grade. I've been friends with the girl that makes it hard to make friends (Let's call her A) since halfway through kindergarten!

The thing is, that A thinks we're still BFFs, and no matter how many times I try to tell her, I get the same result. She's like "No I don't!", we get into the occassional fight, then get back together. But this time I don't wanna get back together. I never really did. It's not that she's a bad person or anything... it's just that I can't be friends without her holding me back. I know I must sound really unloyal but I want a new group of friends, and fast! In time for 8th grade.

Luckily -- There's a possibility we won't be going to the same highschool. I'm willing to wait and all, because once I get there it'll be GREAT, but I just don't know what to do. What if we do end up going to the same highschool? Odds are we wouldn't have many classes together anyway.

Evidently I just need new friends, you don't know my past with her... and it's come to light that I really need to tell her. I can't just expect her to know why -- but how do I tell her?

How do I tell her the friendship should be cut off?
How can I branch out for friends in 8th grade?
(I go to a Private School so it's pretty small and not a lot of people, mostly just the same people that think I'm weird I think)
I want 8th grade to be perfect, I really do. So how can I make it that way?

--Many thanks! (link)
Tell her that you NEED some space away from her, that she's being clingy. She's most likely afraid of losing you as a friend, and this is her way of coping. She needs to know how you feel. You don't have to brake the friendship if you really like her as a friend. Just tell her you ARE going to hang out w/ other people,and if she doesn't understand, I would brake the friendship, for good. If its to the point where your HOPING that you have different schools so she won't be around, just say you need your space, desperetly. Tell her to leave you ALONE. GO FIND NEW FRIENDS.
It might be tough, but do you want your freedom?


what should i get my best friend for her birthday?
specifics:
-shes turning 17
-and i dont want to get her something like a friendship neclace or braclet, something else.
any ideas? thanks! (link)
What kind of things does she like? I imagine anyone would like a giftcard or some money, but since she is your best friend, try to think of something thoughtful. Anything that would remind her of times you guys have hung out, or done something silly would be the perfect thing. It doesn't have to be anything expensive, just meaningful.




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