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Yes it may not seem like it but i am a girl. I do not think of myself as pretty but some ppl may say differnt. I guess u can ask me about nething but hw cuz i ahve trouble with my own. I might be able to help u with ure luv life but thats b/c i like to help ppl :). I have never had a b/f but if u have ne questions about ures or r a cute boi in middle river, talk to me plz. jk. but i seriously woulden't mind. well ask me for edvise if u have ne questions. bye for now!!!

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16/female.

Let me just start out by saying that I am a STRONG believer of gay marriage, and I have absolutely NO problem with homosexuals in the slightest.

One of my friends is a lesbian, and I love her because she's amazing, she really is. But, lately she's been really touchy feely. She writes me notes saying, "I know you're in denial, I know you're conservative & straight, but you should atleast experiment & give it a try." I AM straight, I was born it, so I can't just change and be a lesbian, that's what I think & feel. I'm not attracted to her at all.

She'll like come up to me in the halls at school, and hug me and kiss my neck and shove me up against a locker, and it seriously is beginning to look like I'm a lesbian.

When she does this, I just say, "Nooo! STOP IT" Like, I don't know if she takes it seriously or not, but when I say stop she does. So, today on AIM, we were talking, and this was our conversation:

Her: I'm going to look hot tomorrow in school.
Me: Ahah, Whyy??
Her: I got new clothes.
Her: Kiss me?
Her: :)
Me: Ahh, that's nice! :)
Me: lol, No thanks.
Her: No thanks, what the fuck?
Her: Why did you say that?
Me: To the whole "kiss me" thing.
Her: Whatever.
Me: HEY! don't!!
Her: Don't what?
Me: Be mean. :(
Her: You did this yourself.
Her: It's your fault.
* BLOCKS ME *

Ahhh, so. I just would like to know if this is any of my fault at all. I'm not LEADING her on, I wouldn't even know how to do that. I'm dating a guy & I'm really attracted to him & she knows that. But she'll always say that I need to experiment with her & stuff, and it's just really weird for me.

Thanks in advance. :]

well i am a few years younger than you(hope you dont mind) but i would like to give this a shot. i think that you should go to skool and tell her to stop getting the rong ideas, you dont like her and you dont want to experiment. if you still want her to be your friend than just tell her that you 2 are just friends b/c your straight. if she doesn't understand it wont matter as long as she leaves you alone.


i hope this works for however you want it to work!!! :)

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Well at first my friend was asking me who i like but then i said i dont wanna tell her but im just gonna tell her bestfriend-shes my aquintance and my other friend is good friend. they are both good at keeping secrets but i didnt tell my other good friend because she used to like him so im unconfortable to tell her. But she doesnt know why i dont want to tell her. one day when i was trying to talk to my friend cause she didnt wanna talk to me cause i didnt tell her who i like and i tried to talk to her and i said"you hate me huh? you dont talk to me anymore i said it in a joking way and she was like" i dont hate you i just dont have anything to talk about" and i was like wtf and then when after lunch when i had a class with her she just said my name and said hi to me but that was it
what do you think about this situation? do you think shes mad at me for not telling who i like?

well your friend probably feels kinda hurt so shes not mad at yo she just wants to no. i would tell her like give her clues or sumthing. tell her that if you tell her who you like she will get emotional. if she takes it in a bad way then try to give her other examples to why you cant tell her.

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Ok, i have my best friend, lets call her (kristy) ans i have another friend, lets call her (shannon). Ok, well i always have had kristy as my best friend but ever since last year shannon has kinda made me feel like the third wheel. Ok, well she wont let me sit by kristy at lunch anymore cuz i used to everyday. Now, kristy has kinda left me for her and she hangs out with all these different people now. I have the same freinds she has but all the friends like her so much better. When me and kristy go to places together and stuff, like basketball games at our school all of our friends will say hi to her but not me. They think she is just so facinating. When she takes me to some of the games she always talks to other people and not to me and none of the other girls will talk to me cuz they already have kristy. When they have a secret they always tell kristy and not me and all sorts of things like that. I am tired of being ignored by other people. Kristy never hardly pays any attention to me. When its just me and her she does but not when people are around. All my other friends are just interested in her now and i am feeling so left out. They always ask her to go places with them (more of shannon than anyone)when i am standing right there. Sometimes shannon will wait for kristy when she gets off the bus and i ride the same bus kristy does and if kristy is not on the bus, shannon will say "Where's rikki" as soon as she sees me getting off the bus. She dosent even say hi first. It looks like kristy dosent need me anymore but all my other friends always hang around her now. Sometimes when i am tell kristy something (story and just talking to her), if kristy sees one of her friends she will just leave me standing there in the middle of a sentence and go talk to her friend. I have tried to talk to her but she dosent listen. She's just to popular to do that. Whenever we go to the computer lab at school, she always has other firends sitting by her and i have to sit 3 or 4 seats down from them and i hera them laughing and giggling and having a good time and i am not. please help me on what to do because this is the biggest thing i have ever needed advice on because it has been happening for a very long time. thank you so much, you dont know what it means to me.

ok well it sounds like you are going trough wat i go through to. Just to say this, if ure so called friends are making you feel left out, the next time they try to talk to you, say "i dont need u nemore becuz i can have better friends even if all my old frineds think ure cool even though ure not". i have done this before and it might seem really akward wen you say it but you dont have to lusten to me, i just like to try to help people like you.

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