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Q: alright this girl lets say her name is sara has been my best friend for awhile,but lately she has another best friend. i am not mad about it beause every one can have more than one best friend, but the thing is that now we don't talk as much and she is always putting her other friend in her profiles and always hanging out with her but she never does any of that with me. i still consider her my friend but she is not my best friend. do you think i should tell her or just keep it to myself?

... been there sweety! I think you should let her know. Tell her exactly what you told me only leave out should i tell her or keep it to myself. haha! You know me and my best friend used to be unseprable but then a new friend of hers came into the picture. Took me away but still shes still my best friend and she still calls me her best friend.Even though we dont tlak as much. Also ive done the same thing as well with my friend kim and i feel bad but sometimes you just have more in common with another person i still love her to death and i still call her my best friend b/c ill always have her back. Let her know how you feel with out makin it seem like u want her to choose between yall two. I hope i was somewat of help....
Teresita

Q: okay so today i went to my bff's jackie (we'll call her) and we went to her nfs house jo (we'll call him) so jackie and i went to jos house and he had some friends over and the're all kinda into a bad crowd and i really don't fit in with them or do the stuff they do. well they had these bomb things they made and there all swearing and hidding and r all talkin that "omg the f-in cops r gonna come! lets go into the woods" and so then i was gettin all scared so i really wanted to leae but i didnt wanna go with out jackie so i was droping hints like crazy tell her that i wanted to go. but i knoe she wanted to stay with jo so i kinda held off for awhile.. but then when the threw the first explosive that was it i just left and so jackie came with me.. i really wanted to cry bcuz i knoe thats the kinda crowd i knoe im not supposed to b in and i don't knoe y i ever hung out with them in the first place. did i do the right thing? even though all of jos friends and prolly jackie think im a goodie goodie or a wimp! how to i ever talk to them again with out them making fun of me??

THEY SHOULDNT MAKE FUN OF YOU... U did the right thing. If your friend "jackie" makes fun of you then shes not a true friend... if you feel uncomfterable in a situation like that then you should leave. Never do nethin you dont wanna do! and you should of pulled your friend "jackie" aside and told her that you wanted to leave
her bein a friend she should of said ok thats cool lets go!
Teresita

Q: My BESTfriend.. Let's call her *Liza. She is anorexic, i didn't know this before.. i just thought she was super skinny. But she left her diary over my house, and i just read some of it. She's been anorexic for almost two years, it's crazy. She doesn't know that i know yet.. so i'm scared to try and help her! Do you have any ideas on how i can tell her that i know and try to get her to stop. Cause i'm soo scared that something bad is gonna happen to her, Please, pretty please.. someone help me. Thank you so much, sorry it's so long.

Signed,
Very Scared!

This is a scary thing.. and a terrible position to be in considering that a diary is something very private and u violated that! But something wanted u to read her diary so you can find this information out and help her. Tell her parents a counseler at school someone in higher athority. she probably needs ur help or is too deep into wat shes doing that she doesnt relize how serious this situation is! Get some help.. this isnt a light subject she could die from this and i dont think you want to just see her suffer like that... get her some help! she might be mad at first but she'll thank you later... what you should do is tell her how good she looks and complement her alot but once in a while add like a comment like this "... "liza" why are you loosing soo much weight you've had this gorgeous body" ... get her some help please...
Teresita

Q: my friend is so annyong and i dont know how to get ride of her and she is allways comin up to me and bossin my around and she has such a nasty mind and i have no idear wher she gets it from but she blamin a lot o nasty stuff on me like i went on a nasty website wat the hell is the matter with her mind i cant get rid of her because she is allway like commin up to my door and askin my mom where i am an d just lets her in and then she like she the fuckin boss tellin me what to do like its her fuckin house and i am fuckin fed up wit her shit n if i say i dont want to be her friend she will just keep comen back i did not say anny think or what i said dose not matter i mean how the fuck can i get ridd of her or stop her from bossin e around and or stop her from from blamin these nasty things on me plz help PS I ONLY RATE FIRST 9

WOW.... it sounds like ur really angry! you shouldnt let things like this bottle up ITS NOT GOOD... believe me! Well first of all you should tell your "friend" that she shouldnt treat u like crap! Also about her comin over tell your mom that you dont really like her cause shes really bossy and u dont like that bein a mom she'll understand. Tell your friend that if she doesnt start treatin you with the respect you desirve that you will stop bein friends with her... i know i wasnt much help on this one im sorry...

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Hay... i might be a stranger to you but im not a stranger to giving out advice. A couple of my friends actually call me Dr. Phil. I try my best to help in any problem that you might have so just email me and I'll be more than happy to help!!!
Teresita aka Sita