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About 3 months ago me and my ex broke up. We had only gone out a little over a month and he broke up with me cause of some other girl he liked. But we managed to still be good friends and we hang out and stuff, but with groupd of people not alone. Well the other day he got a new girlfriend, and its been making me really sad. Cause ya see i guess im still not fully over it all. I am 16 and he was my first boyfriend so it was like big to me (not to sound obsessed or whatever) but we had a good relationship everyone said so. I wasnt in love with him cause we didnt go out long enough but i guess just wished it lasted. So how can i help myself get over him. Thanks. (link)
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I, as well as many other girls, can completely relate to your situation. I went through a very similar thing over the summer, and I was heartbroken when he broke up with me. Eventually, after going through a little too much dark chocolate and pep talks from my friends, I realized that I was above all that. Why pine over a stupid boy? We should be fine as we are without a boyfriend in our life! Many girls see themselves as "incomplete" (or something similar to it) without a boyfriend or a boy in their life. They give their boyfriends a bit of themselves in the relationship, and when it's over, they feel as though they've lost a part of themselves in the process. What you need to do is think of yourself as a whole person - all by yourself: 100% without a boy. You've got amazing friends, looks, brains, a sense of humor.. just think about it! Why would you even need a boy? Remind yourself of the positives in your life, and you'll forget all about boys. Fill up your schedule with parties, events, and school, and surround yourself with people and activities you love until it's brimming with things to do and people to see. Pour yourself into school! Read a great book! Find a sport you love! Join a club! Host a party! Volunteer at your church, temple, or an animal shelter! Find lots of things to do to make your life productive and fun. Before you know it, your planner will be full, your grades will be up, and you'll forget all about him. Then you can go on from there more satisfied and confident with yourself.
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okay well me and one of my friends just recently got into a fight about a bunch of stuff.. well me and her have tried to talk about it but when i try to talk to her, this other girl ALWAYS gets into the middle of the conversation and ruins me and her tryin to ptch things up, and THAT is part of the problem. well, the rest of the problems are that she is going out with my ex boyfriend, she swears that every guy likes her , and for that she thinks that she is better than everyone else, ((but what she doesnt know is that they all talk shit about her behind her back)), and, she swears to god that this girl (no name) is her BEST FRIEND but yet ive been there through EVERYTHING (like when she was kicked out, i was there, and when she has problems, im there etc)and now, she doesnt realize it, but she has lost ALL of her friends for being such a bitch and thinking that she is better.. how do i get her to listen to me so that we can solve our problems??? (link)
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first, realize that you're above that stupid drama. don't let her-or anyone!- get to you and once you figure that out, you can talk to her. talk to her in person- if you do it online (NO!) everyone could see what you were saying with the click of a button and it wouldn't be as personal. you also don't know who you would be talking to! the phone is a little better, but you still can't tell about conference calls, speaker phone, etc. talk to her in person- first of all, that would intimidate her and make her listen and realize that you mean BUSINESS. then you can just tell her how you feel- if you really care about your friendship, you should let her know exactly what's up- slightly brutal, maybe, but don't make it like it's brutal or like it's sugarcoated. try to solve it and be productive, and work together to stop the problems. if she doesn't listen, whatever, screw her, and get on with your life. you have friends and if she doesn't listen, that's her own fault.
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