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Q: so me and two of my friends have this tradition where every year we ditch the last friday of may and go to the beach. and another one of our friends in under the impresion thats part of this (which she isnt) and its nothing personal but we wanna keep it just the 3 of us, and shes already started asking like "are we still on for the ebach fruday" and telling people about it. what do i do?
tell her like it is. you just want it to be the 3 of you because it's been like that for years. let her know that it's nothing against her and also she has no right to tell other people. sorry. hope i helped a little

Q: I am home for summer from college and all my frieds, and when i say all i mean literally all my close girlfriends, have gotten boyfriends and it seems they dont want to have anything to do with me because i am single. I am happy for them but i have been spending all my time alone for the past week and a half. I could get a boyfriend too but i dont want to settle id rather wait for the right person becuase i dont think i need to have a boyfriend to be happy( The guys my friends date are really mean to them but its a whole other story). the point is that i dont understand why none of my friends want to put any effort to see me!
they're taking you for granted. they think that no matter what, you'll always be there for them. but they want to keep they're boyfriend so they're hoping that you'll understand. i lost my best friend because of this. it's your choice to either forget about them or be there for them when their hearts are broken.

Q: Im 16f and live in a small town. I had a kidney transplant when I was seven, and have spent many years in the hospital. I have only had one true friend because of this, and she dumped me for my brother. Now I am a loner once again like I was before I met my 'so called friend'. We did EVERYTHING together and she even said we were best friends. I guess my brother is easy to flirt with or something. He is a total jerk to everyone in my family. We can't stand him most of the time, because of his drinking and attitude. I just hate that she dumped me as a friend for him, and now I have to see her everyday at school knowing she betrayed me, and seeing her when i come home because she comes over every night to be with him.. its just heartbreaking to know that I had one friend, and she chose my brother over me. What do I do? I've talked to her, tried meeting new people but since its a small town, its same ol' same ol', everyone already has their true friend in my school, and im the odd one out. Im not ugly or anything, its just people dont accept me as much because i dont smoke so i dont socialize with smokers, and im just not into going to after school parties and such. I have a job, can afford my own stuff, have good grades.. im just not having an easy time in my life when it comes to friends. It would be different if she just dumped me and I had another friend I could be with, you know? But I don't. So im a loner again. I feel as if the only way I will keep up a positive attitude is if I have someone I can do anything with, talk to about anything, someone who I know will be there for me, who cares for me, who makes me laugh. Someone who is a true friend. Without one, I am nothing.
yeah..no problem..sorry it took me so long to answer..i haven't checked this for a while..my email is pa_hua_xiong@hotmail.com , i wasn't sure how else i could give it to you..hopefully you get this.

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