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Q: This takes a little explaining.. High school drama stinks..
I had this really great guy friend, we'll call him David, and one day in October 2006 I realized that I felt more than friendship for him. I was totally in love with him. I told him on New Year's Eve and it really seemed like he had the same feelings and we started hanging out and stuff and we were pretty much "unofficially" going out. Another girl at school, we'll call Brook, who has a very bad reputation and is not not to be mean but is not at all attractive, liked him a lot as well. I found out on Valentine's Day last year that they were officially going out. I was crushed and depressed. David and I were no longer friends and she rubbed it in my face that she got him and I didn't. They dated, but never communicated at all, they only text messaged, nothing else, until right after school started back this year and she broke up with him for another guy I liked, we'll call Pablo. She started dating him, so David and I had slowly gotten our friendship back and he fell for me. I made sure he had no feelings for Brook, and he assured me he didn't. We started going out and had an amazing relationship. We spent all our free time togther and fell in love so fast. It was amazing and we both loved each other so much and had even talked seriously about a future.. All in the six weeks we went out.. One morning he said "we need to talk" and he took me in the hall at school and he had realized that he was still in love with Brook and he had just used me to make her jealous. He had called her the night before and told her and she was breaking up with Pablo the same day. The next day David and Brooke were back together. Me, David, and Pablo are all Christians. David has put on a huge front and is being extremely immature about everything, and his whole life has turned into an act. He could be an absolutely amazing person, but has made some horrible descisions and gotten caught up with Brook. I think they're having sex as well. David always wanted more from me, but I never realized that. I'm still kinda friends with David because I'm still in love with him. Does anybody have any advice whatsoever for this? I love David and it's killing me to see him throw himself away like this. He always has the most sad and lost look in his eyes, and he's completely lost. I want to do anything I can to help him, but I really don't know what to do. I kinda also still have feelings for Pablo and things between us might work out soon. Any advice whatsoever would help! My life is so messed up and I really need some advice on helping it get back on track. I'm spending tons of time in prayer for everybody in this situation, and I just need direction.
Thank you so much!

2 words
ignore him
he is not worth it,
if he led you on like that them you should forget abotu him
i know that that might be hard to do but its worth it.

~♥cherry♥~

Q: is it wrong to hang out with my best friends boy friend when she is not there even though we were friends before they started going out...

if you are just friends i see nothing wrong with it.
but yet maybe your friend thinks something might happen between you 2... then you should set her down and tell her that you dont care for him like that... you are just friends....
any real friend would understand that!

i hope this helps
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Q: my bff and i are really tight but there is one problem..
i never know what to get her for christmas!! i want to get her something personal, but not home-made. or maybe more than one thing.
please give all suggestions. i have about 35 dollars to spend if that helps.

well i have teo things in mind

you could go and have pictures done together (if to expensive then grab a camerea and take pictures yourself)
then you can frame that!!!!

and two

you could make a sweet basket, like chocaltate covered stuff!!

hope this helps
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Q: yea...btw how is she not acting like a good friend? and whats your last name b/c i cant add you in myspace because they wont let me

law.. thats my last name

Q: ic ic oh and the last she said to me in myspace was "life's unfair, it's complicated, it works in was we wish it didnt. but don't be sad, i can feel you trying to drift away....makes parting away easier, but then could u really stand the fact of separating knowing htat you guys are distant or parting knowin u guys had last good memories together? but makes going away harder.... " that was it we stoppped talking after this and she asked me why i was avoiding her and stuff she knew i was avoiding her because she was moving and i think she did the same thing...= / what do you think about this? sorry if i annoy you with my questions = /
PS:she knew that i was avoiding her and she was saying" you dont wanna get close to me because im moving huh?" and she said"how come you dont talk to me? its like we're distant friends" and i keep saying"no your just thinking too much" and stuff = /

ohh ic.... i am sorry.. i didn't know about that part

well.... loosing someone is hard... but once she calms down about moving she should talk to you again. well... thats how i believe.... i am sorry

and know you are not bugging me... lol

i am just speechless.... she is not acting like a good friend.. but if you guys were really close friends she will not forget you and i bet that you guys will be talking soon! You should leave her a myspace comment saying how you feel

also i have myspace.... what is your username for myspace??

mine is "daydreaming" without the "" its set to private and my email is mariah0731@hotmail.com

Q: she left already = / and i havent talk to her since last day of school which is last month do you think we're still friends?

yes... i believe you still are friends....even though things might be hard right now... she must be having a heartache just like you... i mean just think if you were in her place... she is leaving her old house, her old school, and even her friends... yes she will have a new house,school and friends but you can never be replaced. never

Q: my friend is moving soon and i avoided her for a while because i was really sad that shes moving but when we talk a little and when i say bye i hug her so tight like shes leaving tommrow and she says"dont worry im not going anywhere yet...." and next day i talked to her a lil bit and i was gonna hug her like as we always do but she just turned around and refused to hug me and slowly stopped talking to me after this what do you guys think about this situation?

thank you for answering my question but before i IMed her but she didnt respond me or anything so i gave up try talking to her and usually we always talk on AIM when im online but since i avoided her and everything we dont anymore and i havent talk to her for a month now...it hurts = / what do you think about this? = /

awww... i am soooo sorry abou this

but you just have to let her know that it may be a while before you see her again and that you want to spend the last days better than ever.... once you start talking to her again you should take her to do something amazingly fun

awwww i am sorry....

i believe that you should tell her that yes you are sad that she is moving but she doesnt want to see you go so that you were advoiding her becuase you want her to leave without her seeing you sad.
I have had this happen, but i told her that i couldn't see her moving truck pulling away so we spent the whole day before having nothing but fun liek we used too when we were little... lol

i hope that this advice works... please comment and rate me!!! Thank you

Q: 15/f

Theres this one girl, at my school who is amazinnggg, she is like sooo popular, and so pretty, i mean shes absoulty gorgeous, and shes so nice, unlike all of her friends, but still. and were kinda friends, kinda. but shes just soo nice. i mean for her birthday, her mom bought her all this stuff, and then gave her like 5000 dollars, and she went to the mall and like bought all these clothes, and gave them to the poor! shes always thinking of others, and she just so sweet! i just want to be just like her. i mean honestly, i dont know how she can be the way she is. i mean shes like the richest girl in our town, and she doesnt act like it at all, shes always thinking of others. and shes really smart, and i mean, i just want to be like her. how can i? shes like a freaking saint, she doesnt talk behind anyones back, shes not stuck up, bbut thne yet she has so much confidence in herself in everything she does.

I WANT TO BE JUST LIKE HER.
how?

wow... she must sound really nice

but i am just curious... why do you want to be like her?? I know that she is pretty, nice, smart, and caring but she is her own person. So I think that you should be your own person too!

I am not sure if this help you but seriously I really think that EVERYONE needs to be different in their own ways. But part of being unique is making your own desicions. So if you really want to do this if i were you i would show this to her. It may sound weird but trust me she would love it. But do it in a letter and dont let her "friends"see it!

i hope this advice worked. Please rate me and comment me... Thank you

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I am 13 and am in 8th grade! I love giving advice. I also love it when people rate and comment me! I am 110% dedicated to the Lord! I am a christian!!! I am also in love with someone right now!! *You know who you are*