I'm a honest and considerate person. I've been told I have good values and common sense. I like to help people and will do my best to give you advice without being rude or insulting. If I think you need professional help, I will say so. I think I would be best with the following categories:1.) Marriage and Relationships 2.)Parenting 3.) General advice about life
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I have this friend, who told me that she thought she might like this guy, and added him to her 'list' of guys. There were maybe 3 guys that were on her list of people she could potentially like. I knew all of them, and found out that one of the guys was in my homeroom and one of my classes. I was supportive of my friend's feelings for all the guys on her list, and kept away from them, but I found myself sort of attracted to this one guy. I started to like him, and my friend found out. I felt (and still feel) horrible, and apologized in person, over aim, over the phone and i wrote a really long letter, but she ignored me every time. She also brought a bunch of my other friends into it and they took her side, and pretty much stopped talking to me. they were my four best friends, and now they hardly even look my way. i don't know what else to do, so i've sort of just...given up. but i couldn't help it, i felt terrible, and tried really hard to make it up to her...is it so much my fault that i deserve to lose those friends?
by the way: i'm a freshman in high school, girl, 15. (link)
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I think this is a really dumb thing for your friend to be upset about. It's not like she liked one guy and you went after him, there were three. Did she really think she was going to have three boyfriends? What if none of them were interested in her? Nobody owns anyone else, and you can't help who you like and don't like. You probably should've told her upfront that you liked the guy and if he liked you, then that would be even more of a reason to tell. But there were still two other guys on the list. I think that this is just silly, and she should get over herself. If she is willing to break up a friendship over something so petty, maybe she wasn't that good a friend in the first place. What's done is done. Move on and find some new and more mature friends. Just so you know, friends are more important than boyfriends. Keep that in mind.
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My friend just spread a rumor saying i wanted to have sex with my cousin who everyone knows b/c he's my age. I want to just beat my "friend" up or cuss her out, but i know that's not the right thing to do. Anyone have any suggestions? and DONT tell me to just talk to her. I want to say something that'll make her wish she never messed with me! (link)
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Well, she must have some reason she wants to hurt you. Sit her down and ask her what is the problem and why does she want to hurt you. Real friends don't do things like that. If she refuses to acknowlege she did anything wrong, and insists that the rumor is true, get your cousin to talk to her too and tell her that if she doesn't tell everyone that the rumor was not true, that you both will together and it will make her look like a fool. Don't let her intimidate you. Be strong. I'm sure your cousin is just as embarrased as you about this disgusting rumor. If you have anything on her, you might threaten to bring it up if she doesn't stop the rumor herself. Good luck!
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hi i have just turned 20 yrs old and thanx for your reply. (link)
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I'm sorry, but what question did I answer for you? I need more information.
Duh, I just realized you were the one with the immature friend. Never mind. Well, now I know. At that age, I probably assumed guys in their 30's would be mature too. Even my husband who is 35, acts childish sometimes. Go figure!
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hi i receievd your answer thnx but it wasn't really that great help i'm sorry but you know the guy he is 10 yrs older and his friend so would they still be immature at that age? well let me know but i must say you have been right about some things you wrote but thanx for replying (link)
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Age has nothing to do with maturity. Some people grow up very young, and some people never grow up no matter how old they get. That's just the way it is. When you are older, and have more life experience, you will realise this. If you need more proof, though, I'll give you an example. My husband has a friend that is 10 yrs older than him, and he is very immature. He's in his 40's, and has never had a stable relationship, and isn't very responsible. He tries, and in some ways he is a very nice person, but because of life circumstances, he never really grew up. He lived in many foster homes growing up , so I think that has something to do with it. He never had a good role model. Maybe that is the case with these two guys. Not necessarily the foster kid thing, but they may not have had good role models either. What are their parents like, if you met them? If you don't mind me asking, how old are you? Write me back when you can. You can email me at nicegirl90247@yahoo.com
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i have this friend who is only a male friend,we have known each other for couple of months but recently we talked and he said that i remind him of his x-girlfriends and that he replies it's like being married to you, why did he say that? i know i was nagging him today that he doesnt take me serious of what i say.Then i said
i just want you to act seriouly then taking a mock out of everything i say its not a joke and this is when he said to another guy in front of me so basically he said it to my face,that it's just like being married to you i can feel it?
but the other guy just got invovled by saying no it's not like that and both giggling and smiling while this friend was looking at me why did he mention this and said that
i remind him of his ex-girlfriend then i remind
him of someone else but didnt said who while he had a smirk on his face and he said something like in a joke way you need a relationship counselling then i said no wonder why you have had soo many girfriends and no wonder why they have dumped you then he laughs
and tries to deny him self that he was the one to dump the girlfriend he had during his past.
not only that pupil says that i have a spanish look and then he said no i think they mean you have a latino temper? i mean why did he say that but he said it in a knid of pleasent way not in a horrible way but he always say it to me as a joke way or a teasing way why does he,i mean before he says i joke with you to see your reaction because i love the way you take it or something like that he said.
please relpy qiuck as possible thank u for ur help by susie. (link)
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This guy sounds very immature. He loves to "push your buttons" If you're not familiar with that expression, it means "to aggravate and annoy you on purpose for his own enjoyment." He likes seeing you get angry. He is not treating you with respect, and I doubt he ever will, unless he decides to "grow up". It sounds like his friend is just as immature as him. Find someone who is more mature and will treat you the way you want and deserve to be treated. Tell him to grow up and act his age or don't bother calling or coming around anymore. If he cares, he'll get the message, if not, it's his loss, not yours. Play it cool, and try not to show that he bothers you so much. Good luck!
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hi my name is angel and i want to know if this person really likes me in another way then friends because were good friends and i'm confused i mean we talked to each other all the time but he says things that sounds like you look really nice in that and your'e such a sex symbol and you are really atractive person thts why guys like you and lovely and caring mature person.
And he always touches me and say's we have good sociable time and can imagine to see each other bumping in 10 yrs time etc...
And he looks at me deep down my eyes and he says sometimes say i look smart when i'm always tend to any way.
and he teases me alot and jokes with me why? i mean we only know each other for couple of months just as friends and don't really do any thing like outings etc...
so please help me out because i'm confused wat his feeling about me, even though we don't chat to each other about this because it's not easy as he is quite older then me. (link)
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I agree with koshi. He's been taking "seducing lessons" or maybe it just comes naturally for him. At any rate he's got one he** of an ego! He's playing "devil" to your "angel". (pun intended) Be careful with this one!
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