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Q: most of my friends are girls ima guy. one of my very good friends probly my best and i became friends not to long ago and it went straight up from there. we were both home sick all this week so far. we talked the whole time i was awake. i helpd her plan her birthday and she always texts me the chainmail sayin i love you or stuff like that how much she cares for me. i care for her alot to i just dont picture us dating were the kind of friends that are super close and very flirty but just not relationship kinda people. shes also having a very hard time with this other guy. after hearing all hes done to her i hate him. but i just dont really know what to do. i dont want to hurt her shes been hurt enough in one week than most people are in a life time. him and her fighting then being friends again have been going on for about a year. her bdays on valintines day what should i do or say to her. id die if she would get more hurt after i kill the guy who hurt her. but i just dont love her romantically i say just friends but we care and flirt with eachother way to much. what do i do?

First of all, you can't get too involved with her situation with the other guy. Yeah, he is probably a douche, but she has something for him. If you get involved in a three-way triangle it'll end up disastrous.
Secondly, be there for her. Talk to her, listen, and give her your input. That's as involved as you can get with her problem without trouble.
For her birthday/Valentine's Day, maybe a flower? Rose or something of that nature. Nothing really fancy, but something to show that you care.
If you don't love her romantically, there's nothing wrong with it. Not seeing a relationship with her in your future doesn't mean it's not possible. Only time will tell, so just let whatever happens happen.
As for the present, just be someone she can turn to, and see where things go from there.
Sorry for the long winded answer, but I hope it helps!

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If you don't want to give her a flower, like the other person said you can try a teddy bear or chocolate. Be creative!