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Q: 17/f my best friend is anorexic, she has been since last summer it's really bad. She looks like a Skelton and it's really gross. She probably weighs 80 pounds. She is lifeless and boring and always in bad moods. Before this crazy diet she did she was the funnest craziest girl I ever met. I'm considering telling my guidance counselor because I'm really afraid she is going to die. What do you think I should do? I know I can't control her, but I'm not going to watch her die either. People have given me multiple anorexic warning sheets to give her. It's just really bad and I don't know what to do

Tell someone with authority who can physically help her! You're helping her, just be caring and finding someone to help her cope with her anorexia. Give her those anorexic warning sheets. Try bringing up the topic of conversation with her to see what's going on in her mind. If she's in denial, tell someone! Tell her parents, tell your counselor, tell anyone who can do something. The worst thing you could do is sit while she starves herself to death. Good luck and I hope she gets better.

Q: Well, me and a couple friends are planning a halloween party. We've got music, decorations, and food down, but I was just wondering what we should do there to keep the party going. We're all aged 15 by the way.
Thanks.

play games. not silly little kid games like hide n seek n whatnot. i mean games like, spin the bottle. and dare and 7 mins. in heaven. stuff like that. it's real entertaining. and other kids that don't wanna play can just sit and talk to each other. it's their fault if they wanna miss out on the fun.

Q: i wish i had 1 best friend that i could share all my secrets with, and that would be like better than all my other friends and stuff. but most of my friends are just good friends and stuff.. but what do you consider to be best friend material? idk if we're more than good friends yet.. even the ones i've known forever. or maybe they are, but like i still dont think i've found someone that like completely blew me away and that i'd totally know is my best best friend. :/ how do i get one? How do i find one? im always hoping for a new kid in the neighborhood or in my class at school and that we'd click and become best friends. -sigh- what should i do?

13/f

you can't really find best friends. They just come. like me and my best friend, we just clicked after my other friend introduced us to each other. I consider best friend material like, someone that i could share ALL my secrets to and they wouldn't tell a single soul. We can call each other like weird/retarded/bad names and we'd just laugh at each other afterwards, and not get like really mad at each other. :] People would look at us and know we were best friends. We do everything together. We agree on almost anything. Stuff like that. you know? well, i really hope i helped. :]

Q: When you walk into a room and your friends are in the middle of an interesting conversation and they see you but don't speak to you when you stop to speak to them; is that normal and would you feel embarrased if it happened to you?

Do you mean when you walk up to your friends and they are talking about something and then they just get quiet all of a sudden when you get there?
If that is what you mean than, that happens to me alot. :] I'd say it's normal. I wouldn't feel so embarrassed because it happens to everyone. I usually just go in and sit there until we all start talking about something else. Or, i would start talking about something that would spark up a new conversation.
I hope this helped you. :]
-Lizzie

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