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last minute i decided to have a birthday party. everyone i love is getting together to go to this cool club sort of place. My friend, lets call her Orchid, and her boyfriend Tom (now ex) were invited. They broke up bitterly. I think Orchid blamed me, even though i had nothing to do with it. Orchid's friend Bee was also invited. The invite and RSVP was after the breakup. Tom said of course he'll come. Orchid said ok, and so did Bee over the phone. Tom and Orchids parents varified they could come. Bee convieniently said she was out right now and that her mother was working. Then that her mother was sleeping, all of which she said online. Bee kept saying that she was worried that Orchid and Tom would fight. I said that both had a choice to say no. She kept going on about how she doesnt want them to fight and stuff. I said it doesnt have to do with her. Bee was typing unusually slow, so I think she was either with Orchid and were thinking together of what to write or that she was copy/pasteing the whole conforsation.
Now the night before, when I went over orchids house for her to sign something about the party, she didnt let me in. she opened the door a half inch and didnt even smile at me. Bee was there as well, but seemed nicer. I called Orchid to ask her why she was acting "all weird" andgoing on, that if shes mad she doesnt have to come. She said it was just bad chinese food.

Then today rolled around. Finally my mom got fed up (because we need to know how many r definitely going for transportation reasons) and called Bee's mom. She was home, and awake unlike Bee said. Bee's mom said it was fine, that her daughter can go and that her daughter was out with a "friend"
Orchid hasnt called me. When I called her she said, "we can hang out tomorrow. tomorrows tomorrow so i'll call u then" Tomorrows here and she didnt call me. she said that shes worried that I will feel uncomfortable that herself and Tom wont be talking. I said i dont care, to just keep their mouths shut and enjoy the music. She was like "sure Tori (my now fake name) nothing will happen". she said 'sure' like she was writing me off or something. I cant explain it, but it just didnt sound right.
Orchid also said "for my party when Bee was mad at Lea (another one of my friends) I didn't invite lea cause I didnt want to start trouble." I said that their wont be any trouble to start.
My thoughts: i think Bee and Orchid are going to pull out the last second and r just looking at my party as a game. OR that they r using me to see the band and for the free entry ticket (my mom is paying for everyone to enter).

btw, another one of my friends... lets call him Rob, said no to the invite. I found out later that he, Orchid and Bee were pranking one of my friends all night. Now Rob decided that he wanted to go. I lied and said I couldnt get him a ticket because throughout this drama he has been mean to me. Orchid at one point screamed at me (over the boyfriend thing that was about 4 days ago) so loud i couldnt make out what she was saying. Bee called me bad names. I had nothing to do with Orchids and Toms breakup (as Tom knows) Orchid agreed this was a 'misunderstanding' but didnt sound sincere. I think Orchid just wants to blame someone so she decided to blame me.

Question: if orchid and bee do show up, i think they'll cause trouble and team off. I want to just uninvite them at this point, but I dont want to be mean. I dont know what to do. And believe me, I may have writen alot but I just skimmed the topping of the drama thats been going on for the past week.

i'm turning 15 and i'm a girl. i wrote alot so u can get a clear understanding of whats going on.

Dear "Tori",

You're 15 so I promise the drama will die down soon. =] (I'm almost 16 and I only have issues every once in awhile! =)

Here's my opinion: Rob, Orchid, and Bee are not your friends. You shouldn't hang around them. I'm not saying ignore them, but you shouldn't invite them to do things or make it a habit of talking to them. They sound like they like making peoples' lives miserable.. don't let them do that to yours.

As for the whole party issue uninvite them. Tell them that you don't like the way they treat you and that you wouldn't like them to come to your party. You have to say this nicely and with respect of course, and don't lie. Lying makes everything worse. But don't worry. You aren't being mean! You are just trying to keep your special day special! Nobody can blame you for that.

If you're scared at what Bee and Orchid are going to say, don't worry about it. You don't want them as your friends anyways, so what does their opnioin matter to you? It shouldn't. You are who you are! You're a great person so don't worry about them. They'll eventually grow up.

Sorry I know this is getting kind of long... BUT... don't worry hon... I know this is pretty hard stuff to do, but you need to be honest with yourself. Don't let people push you or your feelings around like that. You'll look back in ten years and you won't even care about those 2 girls anyways. Do what you feel is right, and take some chances for yourself girl. =]

By the way happy 15th Birthday! I hope your special day goes well, and remeber: Have fun! =]

With love,
Amanda

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I think you should just let this "friendship" go. It obviously isn't going to work out, and your only in 7th grade! You shouldn't be dealing with this stuff. You have more friends? Hang out with them. Your time in 7th grade should be filled with happy memories. Good luck! ~*AmAnDa*~

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hey just wanted tp say u give great adive

Thankyou very much! That means a lot to me! ~*AmAnDa*~

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Just tell him. What other way is there? The only thing to be scared of is rejection, but it won't take that long to get over that. You guys will still have your friendship and he just might come around someday. (especially knowing how you feel) ~*AmAnDa*~

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I think you both need to talk to eachother and apologize. Try to consider eachothers feelings. You may find that it will help a lot. ~*AmAnDa*~

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ok...i have turned into a complete and total prep..my family had ALOT of money...i get 100 every 2 weeks for allowence...and next month, i am getting a brand new SL55 AMG mercedes-benz...
but only my family knows about it...i dont want to tell anyone else, but people are starting to find out...my old friends have started calling me a "rich bitch" just because of the colthes i wear...and they completly kicked me out of the clique...so i started hanging out with the other "rich kids" and they are really nice...everyone thinks that they are evil, just because they have money...next semester, my parents are sending me to a private school..which i also havent told anyone about...and tuition alone is 18,000 per year, let alone books and uniforms...people are turning their backs on me just because i have money, and i am dreading to find out how many of my friends are going to leave me after they find out how much money i actually have..i feel really sad that my friends are leaving me just because i have alot of money...i could understand if i was bragging about it, but i havent told anyone...what do i do?

Well if your really concerned you might want to think about asking your parents to not send you to that school. That could really break your friendships with all of them. Try talking to your other friends and tell them your sorry if you bragged about it. Alo include that its really not your fault on how sucessfully your parents are doing but you should also try to go back to being the normal you your friends loved. I hope I helped! ~*AmAnDa*~

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14/f my friend got mad at me because of something i said. i didnt mean for it to hurt her at all, and actually i dont think its rude in any way at all. i told her i was sorry and she refuses to talk to me now. what should i do

Oh gosh. This stuff's really hard. You might need to give her time to recooperate from the hurt she feels. Just try to let her know you're sorry and that you're still there for her. Good luck. ~*AmAnDa*~

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I have this friend and she is really nice on weekend
But when we have school she id do mean to me and using bad words. She sometimes can be nice but not
all the time. Help me


Rachel

You don't need that in your life. Get a new friend, not a conditional one. ~*AmAnDa*~

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ok.i have this friend and there was a party one weekend.of course,I partied it up. But there were guys that i did stuff with. I didnt tell anyone BUT my friend. I requested that she not tell anyone about it.Then she told me the guys and 1 of my friends hated me because of a cake fight.I later found out that none of them said that. I got mad at her so she decided to tell EVERYONE about me night. When I first confronted her,she denied it. But when I asked her again she took the blame.She told me she did it because i was mad at her.I dont think I should forgive her.Can anyone help me?
Signed,
Angry Friend

I know you're very angry and I honestly have no clue if your into a religion or not, but in the bible it say to forgive each person 70 times 7. 490 times. The best you can do for your friend and yourself is pray. God rwally answers prayers. I've seen so many miracles. Just one this very day as well. So pray. Pray for your loves ones, and for your enemies even harder because they are the ones who are probably the most hurt.

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