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Ok, before I start, I'm almost 14 and I'm female.
Well, lately, I've gotten into a lot of fights with some of my friends. They keep saying they're gonna change, but the same stuff starts all over again (ex. Swearing, Negativity, Talking about People, etc.). Earlier this week, someone called me a liar for telling this one guy the truth about him, and both of them don't believe me. I also found out one of the girls who was supposed to be my best friend talked about me behind my back. My closest friend keeps telling me she'll get over her crush who's treated her friends kinda badly, but she just goes back to liking him again. The guy who called me a liar also told her that I was a bad friend who said bad things about her, but I would NEVER do that 'cause she's been an amazing friend to me. I'm at the point where I'm usually by myself and get called a "loner" 'cause I don't want to be around those people. I don't know what to do! I'd really appreciate the help! (link)
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Well, even you can see that they have maturing to do. if you can, you should talk with them and try to fix things. However, if their actions are so repetitive, it's good to step back. If you're really sick of all of this, you shouldn't be afraid to be a loner. Good friends are ones that can be trusted. If it's not that way, then it's almost better to be alone.
Anyway, it would be refreshing for you to find new friends.
These things take time, because people change over time.. And it takes time to make new friends. So be patient, and keep trying your best to avoid their negativity (or even avoid them altogether). Don't let these old "friends" govern your social life and make you frustrated.
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Things are just spriling out of control right now. I had a group of friends but two of them got into a fight, therefore one of them left to go to another group and the other one is now hanging out with just her boyfriend. The others are just there, but i dont feel as comfortable to hang out with them anymore. They are mostly with themselves now. That just leaves me! I don't have a lot of other friends, other then them. I just came to this High School hardly knowing anyone. What i need advice on is how can i make new friends to hang out at lunchtime and stuff? I am not popular at all..and frankly thats what its all about in high school unfortuntely. I feel so lonely and "lower on the social ladder". Its hard and i really need some advice. Any advice is appreciated. Thank you
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I'm a loner in High School too..
Ugh get rid of the idea of a "social ladder".. There's really no ladder; just people who think they're better than others..
Anyway, it is awkward to go up to a group of strangers and just become friends. It doesn't work that way.. I think that friends happen over time. So, just continue what you're doing; be aware of the people in your classes, join in conversations.. Join clubs, do things you're interested in.. Do new things.
Also, you can focus on the people you see everyday but don't really know..
Everyone says this, but "being yourself" is very beneficial- so continue doing it!!
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i thought that i was good friends with dani but she urged her best friend to sleep with my boyfriend. then lied to me about it and hangs out with my boyfriend and lies to me about that too. now, i find out that she talks bad about me behind my back to anyone that will listen. i dont even know what to say to these people. how should i handle this? i need to stick up for myself, i have spent WAY to many years being walked on. (link)
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I would simply tell her how you felt about all of it. She might have an explanation, especially if you haven't really talked about it.
If you talk to her and there's no resolution, or continues to treat you with disrespect, then you should avoid her (and any other people who are treating you badly). You shouldn't have to "stick up" for yourself when it comes to friends; you should feel like you can trust them.
If trust isn't there, then why are you?
And, if your "friends" are doing things with your own boyfriend, don't forget that he may be at fault too.
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