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Hey guys! It's Kathleen! I'm 14 and I'm going to FMHS! I love answering this kind of thing, and I love giving advice to whoever needs it! I might not always tell you the right thing to do, but I think I'm pretty good at it. So, ask me something, and I'll answer you A.SA.P.! Later!

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see the thing is i have alot of friends but not one best friend i can do everything with. i want my one friend to be my bff but i dunno how, its really confusing and even tho i have friends i feel so alone.....help please

... becoming best friends isn't something that you make happen, it's something that just kind of appears over time. No one just starts out best friends, you make a friend, then you get so close that you just know you're best friends. And, best friends don't DO everything together, they're just always there for each other and know each other. If you've known this girl for a long time you probably are best friends. And don't worry about being friends or best friends. It's pretty much the same in the end.

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ok I will try to explain this the best way I can without it sounding confusing! lol.

Earlier this year I started to like this guy. It was just an innocent crush at first until I really started to have feeling for him. He knew I liked him too. That freaked me out a little so I shied away from him when I saw him because I wanted to avoid the akward situation. Well I guess that wasn't the best thing to do because next thing I know he has a girlfriend. I was pretty upset but I wasn't going to die or anything because you know it only last a matter of time. So I waited until they broke up, which they did. Now was my chance! Exept for one thing... One of my best friends likes him and he likes her back and now they are going out. What am I supposed to do! I don't want to act all happy for her because I am not. Plus now that they are going out I will be having to see a lot more of him because chances are my friend will bring him along anywhere she goes. Am I just not meant to go out with him! Help!

He and your friend will break up eventually. This happened with my friends only a few weeks ago. Tell your friend you'd like to keep your friendship and their relationship seperate. IM me on TobleroneKiddo if you need more help!

And- did your friend KNOW you liked him before going out with him?

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im really jealous of one of my friends. weve been friends forever and i still luv her alot, but im finding myselfe jealous of HER luv life. i dont know if theres anything i can do to help that or not cuz she doesnt have a boyfrind or nething but i always feel like im in a competition to see who gets noticed by the boys. i dont think that i am normally very attractive, and if i do look decent on sum days, that one friend ALWAYS looks better then me ..am i thinkin about this too hard. meybe i should just relax..but i dont know what to do.

Well, I'd say that you shouldn't worry so much about looking good or being attractive or whatever. If whatever boy you like is worth it, he'll like you for your personality and stuff and not just whatever clothes or make-up you wear. If you're really stuck on being attractive, I'd ask your friend on how she looks so good every day... I really wouldn't worry too much about this, though.

Plus, most boys usually don't notice what you're wearing anyways. XD

Good luck!

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well, i've had this one friend for like, almost a year, and in that year a lot's happened. we were best friends at one point, but she was always mean to me. now she's not very mean to me at all, but it just seems like our relationship's kinda changed. like, i feel like i really don't like her when she's not around, but (and this may seem like, really weird) when i'm with her, it's like we're really great friends again! it's so weird, cuz she keeps asking me if i still consider her my best friend, and i always say yes, but i just don't feel like she is anymore. i just wanna be friends with her, but not best friends. because i have other best friends who she gets mad at me for hanging out with instead of being with her. how do i tell her that i wanna be friends, but not best friends?

- help!

Well, I'd say you should tell her this stuff... Maybe you've just grown apart like a lot of people do at this age. Plan something fun with her, and then afterwards tell her about what you think of your friendship. Try to spend time with her, and treat her with respect. Friends come and go, but you still need to be there for her when she needs it. You might change your mind about who's your "best friend" and who's not, so just stay steady and confront her about how you're feeling. IM me- TobleroneKiddo, if you need more help. Good luck!

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