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If you have had relationship that did not go so well what are somethings to have a good relationship with a male. I'm 13 and am a young lady.

im kind of confused by your question, but i think i know what you mean. are you trying to say what are some good things to look for in a good guy kinda thing?

well if thats what your trying to ask, the most important thing to look for in a guy is an amazing heart. dont go for the boys that are the cutest most popular guys, go for the ones that you connect with. dont just start liking a guy for no reason before you talk to him, that just wont work out.

some good things to look for once you start talking to a guy is a good sense of humor( he needs to be able to take a joke and also make them), a good heart (he has to care about you and everyone else so that he wont screw you over in the end), flexible( as in he lets you do what you want, and doesnt try to control you or who you hang out with), someone thats not a player( you dont want him going behind your back with your friends or anyone else), and a good relationship with his family(its amazing to have a guy thats really close to his mom or sisters, it shows he can connect with female), and trust and honesty is most important(if he cant trust you, leave him before things get serious because you dont want him to alwyas say "i dont believe you did this...blah blah" and you want him to be honest with you about anything, there cant be lying when you put all of your love into someone).

the other most imporant thing is to find a guy that likes the same things as you, and not to pretend to like things just to impress him. just be yourself and he will like you for the way you are, and he wont want to hurt you. if you pretend to be something your not, your already breaking the honesty thing, so the relationship would never work, you want trust and all of this stuff from him, you have to do the same for him.

i hope that helps you a little bit :D

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boyfriend cheated on my with my best friend. (now ex best friend)
so on her myspace, she mentions in her about me; my NAME && calls me 2 faced.
and shes the one who effin kissed my boy.
s0o my question is, why should she right my name? for some reason she turned everyone against me "making is my fault or something" I MEAN WTF.
ugh

wow what a bitch, its kind of good that she did that so now you see what a horrible person she is.

first of all, break up with your boyfriend. hes just as bad as she is.

then dont worry aobut your friend spreading stuff like that, if they ask you just say that shes lying and tell them the truth, if they believe you they are true friends. just dont talk crap about her, because then youll be as bad as her. just talk plainly about it, and then they will be like woah her best friend is the bitch, not her.

hope that helps a little :D

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For about a year now me and my step sister have not been on the greatest of terms. we used to be really good freinds until middle school came along and she turned in to the snobby prep i couldn't even talk to. I feel like she doesn't treat me as a freind but more like her enemie i think it might be because o f my changes to with freinds and hobbbies we have grown apart i need help on finding out how to make that freindship agian

just come clean with her. sit her down and tell her that you miss the times you had together and you feel like youve grown apart. tell her you want the friendship you used to have back. she will understand and tell her thats shes changed so much and its hard for you to come out in the open. just tell her how you feel.

hope that helps a little :]

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15 female

this is really long and i'm sorry !

okay so my friend Derek was having people over to swim one day but my friend Melissa was over that hes never met before and i asked if it would be okay if i brought her along with me since she was spending the night. He had no problem with it so we went over there to swim along with a few other friends.

i introduced Melissa to everyone there. after a while Derek and Melissa started flirting a lot. and i didn't really think much of it because when i first met Derek he acted the same way towards me. plus i was glad Melissa was getting along with people there.

Then that night Derek called Melissa to talk cause he was really bored and hyper. They ended up talking for about 2 hours.

Two days later the exact same thing happened. we went over to Derek's to swim ( because he has people over a lot ) and again Melissa was at my house and i asked if it was okay if she came along again. of coarse he had to problem with it. They flirted a lot again. When we got home Derek told me to tell Melissa to call him. They only talked for a little because he was really tired and didn't sleep the night before. Now today we were supposed to hang out again but we couldn't because stuff came up. They have been talking on the phone all day..

The thing is - Derek has a girlfriend and they have been going out for 6 months. Derek's girlfriend has been on vacation for the past 3 weeks thats why she hasn't been around. I know he loves her a lottt. but for some reason when him and Melissa were in the middle of talking on the phone his girlfriend calls him and he flashes over and they only talk for 5 minutes. Then he says he will call her back later (but doesn't tell her why) then he calls Melissa right back and they keep talking foreverrr. Then im like "shouldn't you be calling your girlfriend back now ?" and hes just like "shhhhhhh"

Then they were talking on aim. She admitted to him that she likes him. Hes like you know i have a girlfriend ive been going out with her for 6 months and i like her a lot! and shes like yeah i know. hes like you are fun to be around you are cool funny nice and hot...lol but i do have a girl friend and i like you but i have a girlfriend and i like her a lottt.

Derek's girlfriend and i are good friends i don't want her to hate me because of this. its not like i meant for this to happen. i really don't want things to get out of hand.

i feel really bad for introducing them. i dont know if i should tell melissa to stop talking to derek or what ? im afriad if they do keep talking as much as they have been derek will begin to like melissa even more. and maybe go for her instead.

someone please help.

hmm wow. this is very complicated here. first let me tell you, its not your fault at all. if derek is flirting with all these girls, maybe he and his current girlfriend arent even meant to be. maybe he is looking for someone else, but doesnt want to break her heart, so maybe this is doing something good. its better that derek would break up with his girlfriend, instead of "cheating" on her by flirting with melissa and other girls. if he talks to melissa for 2 hours and his girlfriend for 5 minutes, you can tell who he cares about more. he has seen melissa more than his girlfriend in the past three months, yet he wants to talk to melissa more. i think you should tell derek that he should tell his girlfriend about the problem or you will. you need to tell her what you told everyone on here. tell her that you never meant for anything to happen, it just all happened on coincidence. and if she hates you for something like this. she isnt a real good friend now is she? maybe six months is too long for their relationship to last, maybe its time for it to end and for them to find other people. he may really really like his girlfriend a lot, but if he really really cared about her, he wouldnt be flirting and talking to girls for hours. sorry this is really long, but i hope i helped :]

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