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ok lets see im 15 yrs old.my nationality is greek and i've been boxin for about 2 years now(temporarily stopped but im going back)... my two passions are giving people advice and writing poetry...i dont discriminate against anyone and i will always be open with a ear to listen and a hand to guide as much as i possibly can...if ever anyone needs to a ask a question no matter what it is you can always ask me...i hope my advice is helpful to everyone and i hope everybody feel free to keep it real and write what they wanna write(evrybody has they own opinions so if yall dont like my advice yall can be real about it cause i'll only better myself by takin others criticism)so get at your greek princess...
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ok, i have a friend who has been getting beat by her parents since she could walk maybe even before that but because of it she's been doing drugs, cutting, she doesn't eat, she can't sleep, she drinks and smokes she just does anything to get away from it she's been in and out of hospitals her whole life because she's hurt herself or because her dad has hurt her I think he's even raped her. I call her all the time to make sure she's ok and i called her one time and she was either drunk or high i don't know which one but she was out of it and when she's like that it's the only time she's open about how she feels and she tells me everything that's going on i feel bad and i try to stop her from saying too much but i think it's better that she tells me rather than someone else but anyways i've convinced her to try and get helped and she went to the cops and DSS and the school and everyone but no one will help her because she's done some stupid things so they believe her father over her. She's given up completely she's stopped trying all together it's like she doesn't care anymore she always says she's fine and doesn't want help but she needs help i'm afraid she's really going to hurt herself or he's going to end up killing her but no one will help her. who could i talk to to get her help and how do i keep her from hurting herself until i can find her some real help?...i'm sorry it's so long but i'm really worried about her
I am so glad you care enough about your friend to try and help her and im even happier you came to me for advice...now this is a serious issue as you can see and its really complex to. this issue needs alot of attention and if its not taken care of your friend might seriously hurt herself or her parents might hurt her and that is an experience no one should have to indure...so my advice to you is incourage your friend to talk to you about this issue because she needs to know someone is their for her even if she denies that anything is wrong with her still let her know your there continiously because deep down inside for her thats exactly what she needs even if she does not show it...next i found a couple of hotlines you can call but since i was not sure where you lived i wasnt able to find numbers that might be in your area so what you can do is call each place and tell them what area you live in and most likley they can redirect you to a place nearest your area:
_ABUSE HOTLINES_
ABUSED WOMENS HOTLINE---215-885-5020
CHILD ABUSE PREVENTION---215-831-8877
DOMESTIC ABUSE PROJECT OF DELAWARE COUNTY--610-565-6272
YOUTH CRISIT--1-800-448-4663
also if your friend has a drinking or drug proble i though you might want to get her help for that to so i found you a number:
RELATIVES AND FRIENDS OF ADDICTED LOVED ONES--800-678-4989
your friend is not alone in what shes going through but i know she feels as though she is i can understand why she just gave up because the struggle she has gone through has been hard enough for her and people turning her away just made her loose all hope so she figures that she'll just go about her life living it how she's been living it and i know she denies it because for one she does not know how to express what shes going through and two she probably figures that if she doesnt talk about it her problem might eventually go away...now when you talk to your friend about this issue the worst thing you can do is tell her that the things shes doing is wrong, instead of telling her shes wrong in how she goes about handeling her situation explain to her other things she could do instead of what shes doing because telling someone that they are wrong for what they do only makes them feel as though you dont understand them, explain to your friend the consequenses or outcome of what will happen to her if she keeps doing what shes doing but dont make her feel as though she is wrong cause that will only make her feel worse,explain to her that she has alot to live for even if she doesnt realize it now.also what you wanna tell your friend is that you are there for her even if you told her before she needs to hear it more than once. another thing you should keep in mind is when shes expressing herself never cut her short or try to say anything wait till she is done talking to try and give her advice because sometimes all people want and need is someone to listen to them and if you cut her off before shes done that might make her shut done and thats not good.so all in all, all you can do for your friend is try and get her help from others and lend a ear to listen and a helping hand as much as you have the ability to, shes lucky she has a friend like you and believe me she needs you to stay strong and to keep her strong. theres only so much you can do but keep your head up and incourage your friend not to give up. it might be a long road but things will eventually get better even though they might not seem as though they are(you cant let one bad experience make you give up or quit cause if you do then you'll loose in this world...things are always gonna be hard but that doesnt mean you cant suceed)hope my advice helped!!!
Theres a girl at my school (not my friend but i talk to her) and her boyfriend recently broke up with her. She's heart broken and feels that she isn't good enough. Now she wont eat..shes refusing to eat and its scaring everyone. She is dropping pounds by the second and is always depressed. I really want to help her, but I don't know her family personally enough to tell them. Should I let her suffer? i would feel wrong not telling anyone.
listen this is a serious problem that your friend is going through...i am so glad that you are trying to help her dont let her just suffer because no girl deserve to suffer like that over some stupid ass, selfish, uncaring, no good for nothing little ass boy..now sice you dont know her parents that we'll thats not a help but i dont think it would be a good idea to tell her parents anyway..you need to have a long talk with her matter of fact i care so much about this cause it hits close to home for me so email me at danumba1brat@msn.com and we can talk about it more cause it might not be enough for you to just tell her since she might think you dont understand cause trust me she might not listen to you... but all in all just talk to her about it and let her know that that your there for her..let her know she can do better...and let her know that even though shes hurting now and she might not think its gonna be ok tell her that it is..tell her that there is people that care about her and dont wanna see her going through this...i hope i helped
ok me and my ex just broke up a little while a go and im fine with it becuase i later found out that he was cheating on me but i still feel like i love him so what should i do.................
alright the best advice i can give you is to tell you that you need to get over him i know just saying you need to get over him is easy to say but hard to do cause trust me i been through it and it hurts more than people can imagine but you dont wanna be the fool in this game cause if he finds out you still have feelings for him he'll just use you and hurt you over and over again... he'll know hes got you right where he wants you...you gotta be strong and realize that you dont need him...hes obviously got over you so stop stressin over him...why are you gonna spend all your time showin love and affection to someone who's not gonna show it back...let him live his life with his new girl and just remember that he's obviously not on your level yet cause if he was he would be a man and admit his mistake that he had made when yall was together...remember only little boys have to cheat because their insecure about their own selves.. a man is what you need but dont think its easy to find cause its not...your gonna come across a lot of little boys in your life tryin to play big boy games so keep your guard up and even if things look bad right now cause trust me they will for a while hang in there and you'll eventually be cool...just let him do him and forget about him you can do beter sweetie i know you can...so go about your business and dont shed no tears...hope i helped
My(used to be)best friend meghan who now I don't like anymore is flirting with my other friend Alex (who I used to go out with but now he's a really big crush)and she knows I like him alot and if I talked to her about it she would just take it he wrong way like she did last time I tried and I don't know how to get her to stop cuz it really upsets me and I think she knows why I'm mad at her but she just i/ms me asking why I'm mad and pretends like she doesn't know and I think her and my friend Julie were talking about it and meghan asked her to ask me what was wrong and that made me mad too! And I don't wanna be meghan's friend for so many reasons but I just can't deal with her flirting with Alex then denying she likes him and saying she likes this other kid. What should I do?
ok look if shes really your friend she wouldnt lie to you and also if she knew what she was doing was making you feel some type of way she would stop...so what you need to do is tell her straight up that even if she doesnt like him she always flirts with and that makes you feel some type of way and if shes your true friend she will take into consideration what you tell her and she'll stop it really doesnt matter what she says to you after you tell her it just matters that you tell her everything you have to say and then go from there...if shes your true friend everything will eventually work out just fine if she's not your true friend and doesnt take your feelings into consideration then forget her...hope i helped
I have a boy friend and my perants are cool with it but then my friend said that he was going to ask me on a date my parents say that I can't date till I drive what should I do
we'll thats a tough question so my advice to you is to do whats in your heart whatever you do you know there is going to be consequences so think before you act be sure whatever you choose you are ready to deal with all the consequences i wish i could give you a straight answer but honestly this is a decision you have to make for yourself just be sure your ready to go with the flow and do what you feel inside.. this is a decision that none but you can make...i hope i was helpful
alright this might be long so be prepared.
last year i was friends with like EVERYONE but this year people are telling me how much i've changed and stuff. i didn't even notice it until they told me. now it seems like i'm pushing everyone away and i honestly don't mean to. it's like i can be fine talking to a person one second, then all the sudden i'll remember something they did and i'm annoyed. a couple minutes ago i was listing the people i talk to regularly and stuff, and i think i only got up to like 20 people and theres 600 students in my grade. it seems like im being a fake person than what i really am and lately i've been kind of depressed like everythings going wrong. so i guess my question really is what are some ways i can get back to my original self and maybe regain some of my friends that i used to have
first to start off let me tell you that everyone goes through a time in there life in where they feel as though everthing is going wrong and believe me this wont be the last time you may experience this feeling it natural to go through this everyone does...all you can do is be yourself everyone changes some for the better and some for the worse but we all change its a part of life like it or not..all you can do is be yourself it doesnt matter what anyone else wants you to be just be you dont change for anyone but yourself...your true friends will stay by you no matter how you act(not to say they wont tell you things about yourself you might not want to hear)so to end it just be you and though things might not be going that great now eventually things will change..hope i helped!