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in one of my classes we got into groups of four (the teacher picked) and i got paired with two popular girls and this guy that i've KNOWN since last year, and i wouldn't call him one of my friends. he was being such a babe and dividing us into like do our own thing so we get more done. he does the first problem on the paper, and one of the girls goes, "omg... that is so wrong! you are so stupid" and she really hurts his feelings i felt so bad for him

Alright well that was kind of long and I didnt need that much of an explanation. But its his life. You cant go through your life sticking up for everyone. Maybe next time you can tell them to keep the fuckin gay ass remarks to themselves right when they say them.

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My friend Alex told me he didn't like his girlfriend Katie anymore. I asked why and he said it was 'cause he hadn't seen her all summer. I was like "well that's okay, you guys'll get back together at school." The later he told me he just didn't have feelings for her anymore (still summer). I told him he hadn't seen her and to just wait 'till school before he broke up with her or anything like that. Then later he told me he took his other friend's advice and broke up with her. At first he said Katie took it well, but then later Alex told me she IMed him saying she was gonna kick his ass at school. Now he's pissed off at ME for, in his words "not telling me clearly enough what to do." BUT I told him not to break up with her! How do I make him realize it's his own fault and not mine without just... well... accusing him of it being his fault? I RATE VERY WELL!!!!

Just repeat that you told him NOT to break up with her. He's eventually gunna be like OH SHOOT she did tell me not to break up with her. He shouldn't even be mad at you anyway, because it was his choice to break up with her anyway. Whether someone else told him to do it or not - a part of him had to have wanted to break up with her. So tell him that. Be like "Alex, although someone told you to break up with her, you wouldn't have done it if somewhere in your heart you didnt feel it was the right thing to do. So dont be mad at anyone for any advice they gave you."

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