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Hey guys, Im Erika. I am looking into studying psychology in college. I am VERY GOOD at giving advice. I have been through many things in my life. I am currently in a relationship. i know A LOT about relationships, because I've been in one for many years. giving advice is something i deeply enjoy doing, because i love helping other with their problems and i can relate easily to other people.
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(sorry if this turns out to be long il do my best to explain in a nutshell)
Okay,so im getting a little annoyed right now at how my best friend treats guys..
So its like she often wishes how shes in a relationship and wants a boyfriend etc and she ALWAYS attracts theese really lovely lovely guys,but yet she always has to find something wrong with them or a reason not to go out with them she gets bored quickly and messes them about,yet then still complains about not having a boyfriend its like shes oblivous to this.
The most recent guy she told me a few weeks ago how she really liked him,So today we went to the park and he text her and said he would come up to meet her and bring a few friends and she agreed yet when she saw him coming she was like"ugh I dont want to meet up with him" and made me do a detour to avoid them! he texted her then asking whats up she didnt reply,we saw him later down town,she blanks him.
shes not a shy type at all so its not that,she just doesnt know whether shes coming or going.
I don't know what to do because I often get friendly with some of the guys she likes and they always ask me whats the deal should I say it to her?
I don't want to come off jealous,which I will admit I am a little bit that she gets all this male attention and treats the guys like sh*t. people tell me I have a much nicer personality then her and im prettier and all this,yet I cant understand why I cant attract all theese really nice guys that she does?I attract the wrong types!?(which my friend finds funny) is it me?
am I doing something wrong?
should I talk to her about this or let it go.. If so what do I say? I feel like im never going to get a decent guy like all the ones she gets that she turns away
Thanks for any advice sorry if this is long and seems stupid!
seriously. we are both in the same position! when my bestfriend finally gets a good guy, she throws him away and when he doesnt like her anymore she goes after him. and she always complains!
i mean im always straightup with her. bestfriends should be able to call eachother out on what they do. she calls me out all the time, but not in a bad way. tell her like its kinda mean what she does and say it doesnt make sense. just try to convince her that like she keeps pushing guys away and stuff. my bestfriend is extremely hard-headed, so i know where your coming from.
and nooo its not you! maybe you just dont flirt enough! texting always helps like attract and stuff. if your prettier, dont worrry :] everythingshould turnout just fine
So, one of my good friends has been going out with this girl, who is presumably insane.
The first time he had broken up with her, she jumped in front of a truck, and later keyed his car (Mustang GT).
He's going out with her again, but her jealousy is starting to affect our friendship.
She has this idea that everyone is out to steal her boyfriend, and basically restricts him from most of his friends.
Another friend of mine, a girl, had been talking to his girlfriend. She was accusing my friend of talking shit about her boyfriend, and when questioned, the she told her that the only person she's been talking about him to, was me.
So without asking me about it, his girlfriend runs off and tells him that I've been talking shit.
I just recently figured this out (A matter of hours ago). This would be an explanation of why he had stopped talking to me, well, about a week or so ago.
But the problem is, I have no way of contacting him. He's ignoring my calls and texts, and I rarely see him now.
I have no clue what to do. I've considered talking to his roommate (Also a friend of mine) and asking him to talk to my buddy about it, but I'm not sure how that would turn out.
I'm desperate to get my friend back. Please help.
HAHA wow yeah she sounds crazy!
i really think that you should talk to his roommate about it so that he can talk to your friend...im sure that should help. because like you can get the roommate to ask the guy questions about it and have him say like "hey why arent you and that kid (you) talking anymore?" and just stuff like that will lead to finding out what a solution is for the problem!
i dont get it. my best friend has two best friends, me and some girl i dont know at all. she says that she likes me alot more then her other best friend, and she always talks about her other best friend. but like, when i look at her myspace, [my best friends friends myspace] my best friend will leave her all these comments, like oh my gosh lets hang out soon! oh yeah, i have a story to tell you!!! oh my god, i know i love youuu. thats so funny! and she never leaves me comments like that. i mean, i dont use the computer much, and hardly go on myspace, but i dont think ive ever heard that come out of her mouth before to me. and then she leaves this girl picture comments and will be like, you look so pretty here! i love it. i never get stuff like that. and okkkkk. im not trying to sound stuck up, but im alot prettier. she weighs like 150 pounds more then me, [this girl weighs 250 pounds] and i just, i dont understand, why she does thaT? like on her myspace, im first and like she says like in her heros im her best friend.
i know, i guess im kinda jealous. but im alot more confused, then jealous, and im really hurt. if i tell her im upset, i dont think she will care at all, because she told me she doesnt care if people are mad at her. i also wonder if she ever talks about me to her other best friend...
what should i do?
well if she talks about her other bestfriend, she might be talking about you too. she sounds like shes kinda fake. personally, i wouldnt trust her so much, because thats kinda mean that she does that, and how she acts all buddy buddy with that other girl. maybe she just wants to make the other girl feel better about herself ahhaah. but try and findout if she talk about you. have someone like bring you up and she what she says. dont be jealous, youurr prettttierrrr!!! :]