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Ok I'm going to give a lot of detail so it can be more understandable:
My best friend of 5 years, Alex and I because really good friends with a girl named Jen in June and then a few days later we became friends with Tara. So Tara and Jen became best friends and we became a group of four. Tara was going off to university though. We had a good summer but right before she went off, her and Jen had a fight but then they made up.
Mid-September, Alex, Jen and me went to stay at Tara's for the weekend to party. Jen and Tara had another fight where Tara's real feelings towards Jen came through and from then on she kept telling Alex and me how much she hated Jen. We didn't tell Jen about this because Tara had a few valid points for not liking Jen that we agreed with.
So Tara came down a few times and the three of us hung out.
There was this one time me and Alex had a fight in October and I was talking crap about Alex to Jen (I was just really really mad) but it turns out that Alex had phoned Tara and talked crap about me and to a few other people to her so eventually we moved on. A few weeks later, I told Jen that Tara hated her and Jen just shrugged it off.
Now last week Alex was going to go visit Tara by herself because I couldn't get off work. Just before she left, me and Tara were IMing:
Tara: You two seem like you have a lot of conflict
Me: Yeah but it's okay we've always been like that. Why is she saying anything?
Tara: No not really
Me: Don't be bothered by her, whenever she gets mad, she just goes and b****es to people
Tara: Or maybe she just tells me because I'm her good friend
Me: No she told blah and blah and blah about blah
Tara: Oh ok
So Alex left and I had a really bad feeling about it. She came home yesterday and today we were IMing and she told me that she wanted to go to Tara’s university. Now Alex has no idea what she wants to be and the only thing she’s seen of the university is people getting drunk on weekends. She doesn’t know about the school or the programs they offer. She would be paying $9000 extra a year and she had a plan to save up and pay for it herself leaving no money for anything else. It was just this plan they made up this weekend and I was like wth you don’t know anything about this school and what if you and Tara have a falling out?
She told me that I was an a**hole for assuming that she only wants to go there to party and that Tara is a really good friend and at least she doesn’t talk crap about her behind her back. She told me Tara told her I was talking **** about her.
I am so furious right now. I never said anything to Tara other than that convo above because you can’t take one wrong step with her. I saw how she hated Jen so fast and I thought it was pretty scary. Now she’s trying to turn Alex against me? And Alex keeps bringing back past fights we’ve had and how she wants to leave the city and stuff that she’s never even mentioned before just because of this weekend. She’s actually seriously considering it. So I left Tara a message asking her about what I exactly said to her about Alex and if she could enlighten me and she hasn’t answered back.
So what am I supposed to do about Tara? And how am I supposed to convince Alex to stay? I’m turning 21 in August and how can I not have my best friend there to celebrate my first year being legal?
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I think that you should tell Alex you really didn't mean to say that stuff, it just came out (that's how it sounds to me) and that you were just really mad about how she was talking about you behind your back with Tara. Don't wait for her to apologize, I think you should be the first person, even if she did the wrong-doing. It will help your friendship having her know that you want her forgiveness and still want to be friends. Don't hate Tara either for telling Alex about what you said. Tara sounds like a messenger out to get you both. hope I helped!!
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I think my freind is telling this girl (whom I don't really care for) stuff about me and this guy I like. I can I find out if she is spilling the beans? (link)
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you should have another friend go up to the girl and ask if she's heard anything about you and the guy. Then have your friend say something like, "oh that sounds true where did you hear that?" and she might tell. If your other friend DID tell then confront her.
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There's this girl I'm friends with. She has a lot of guy friends, and whenever I hang out with her, she's usually around them. See, her guy friends are very nice, and cute, so I usually end up liking one of them, and then losing interest, simply because I can't talk to them (They usually don't have a screen name or we have none of the same classes together, plus I can be shy if I talk to a guy I like in person).
I usually tell her if I like someone, but now I like one of her good guy friends, and I don't want to tell her (This guy friend has a screen name and stuff and I'm more determined to get to know him better). I don't want her to see me as "the girl who always ends up liking her friends and then not liking them the next day."
What should I do? Thanks! (link)
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Maybe you should just try not to like them and go for other guys.
1. I think it would be weird dating my friend's guy friend...
2. You don't want her to see you like that either
3. They may think its weird dating their friend's friend.
Hope I helped!
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Hey Columnists,
OK, here's the deal. I am 13, and I am in 7th grade. My best friend,(9th grade) has been my best friend sence we were like 2 years old. When I was in about 2nd grade, my friend(4th grade), her brother(5th grade), played "Truth or Dare." What we did was dare each other to get naked, and then he would touch us. Well I have had a HUGE crush on him sence I was in 1st grade. This guy is in 10th grade, and on the computer he asked me if I wanted to play truth or dare with him again, but this time just me and him and i can't tell my friend. I said I don't know and signed off. I know that was him on his screename becuase he asked me in person, I pretened I did'nt here. I want to do it, but I can't let my friend know and thats very hard for me...becuase she is my BEST FREiND! Should I do it? or not? THANKS! (link)
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yea defenitly DONT do it. hes just trying 2 take advantage of u... trust me
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Ok, i have a major problem! My best friend started goin out w/ this girl at the beginning of this school year. The problem is, he's not aloud to have a girlfriend. His parents obviously don't let him hang out w/ her outside of school but our families are good friends so i hang out with him every weekend. His girlfriend is incredibly jelous and despises me. She's told me that if i hang with him that she'll "dump" him. He's so happy with this girl and i don't want him to be sad. This girl and i are constantly fighting over the fact that me and him are nothin more than friends and that he luvs her. Well, recently he said that he doesn't want to be friends with me anymore becuase his girlfriend said that he can't! Understand that i luv this guy like the closest brother ever and i've cried myself to sleep every night. what do i do? we're only 13! (link)
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try to talk to him in person about this, because friends will always last longer than a bf/gf. it seems that his gf is trying to take over his life, and you should let him know that. and also maybe try to be nice to his gf, and she will most likely see that you are a nice girl that wouldn't steal her bf. if you cant talk 2 ur friend in person, give him a note or call him.
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