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I'm Erin. This is my advice column. I'm suuuuuuuuuuper open, and I'm always here to answer and help you with your problems. Yeah, many people say I give out good advice and it works. So, here I am now, making one.

Don't be afraid to ask.

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hey, im really having trouble with people at school. i feel like i have no friends and if i do i can't trust them because i know theyy'll turn on me b4 i know it. im so sick of it all and the best thing i try to do is keep a smile on my face and hold back the pain. everyday i come home and i'm ready to cry. you probally wont be able to help me but, whatver. its worth a shot.

thanks (:

you dont think i can help you out? pshhh, i go through this EVERYDAY and i feel the same thing as you do right now. talk to your friends about it, and ask them if you actually can trust them... and if you still can't, write down the stuff that's in your mind in a journal... yeah, it sounds stupid, but it helps alot come out.

and just watch what you say around them, and try to make other frends.

but whatever you do, keep that smile on your face no matter what. it proves to people how strong you are, b/c you ARE strong.

come back if you need more help(:
erin.

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i feel like recently i have been drifting awawy from one of my bestfriends. She is my dearest friend ever and she is being taken from me by this mean, fake bitch. i want to let her kno how much it hurts to see us become less and less of friends, but i dont want her to think im a freak. i dont kno if she would but still...now im not even making sense. I WANT MY BEST FRIEND BACK! please help me:[

well if shes your best friend, she will obviously understnad and respect what you are saying. if she doesnt, then there is something defffffintly wrong.

all you have to do is tell her how you feel... and i garuntee you, she wont think that your a freak.


tell me if it works okay?
thanks, erin.

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hey erinn.
ok so theres this girl that i used to be best friends with, but we always got in fights. im not saying i didnt do anything, but she tells everyone completely different storys, like she was just sittig there and i randomly came up to her and was started going off on her, ad beleieve me, this was NOT the true story. i would say we both eqyally started the fightss. and whenever anything bad happens to her, even thoutgh we arent friends, she blames it on me, ad its gettig old. plus she would always say i wanted to be like her and i wa jealous, but i seously wanted to be nothing like her ad i was sometimes embarrased by her..but she thinks differently i guess. and she still cant get over talkig bad about me and just hating me, and i dont know what to do anymore. please helpp.

okay, confront her about this.
but say it nicely, the meaner or snottier you say it, will just make things worse. tell her that you dont appreciate her doing stuff like that. and if she doesnt listen to you, it may come down to telling the counsler. yeah, you will be a "tattle tale" and everything, and no one likes to be like that, but she made the situation THAT BAD.

just tell her that she needs to stop, and that if she stops then everything will be alot easier than just making the fight worse than what it already is.

thnks, need more help.. come back.
erin.

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okay so i have this guy and hes my best friend. i don't like him anymore then a friend but...well heres my problem. so my friend is going out with this girl from a different school. i don't like her very much and i think shes a bitch. she doesn't bring the best out of my friend either. this girl makes stuff up and has gotten my friend mad at other friends by telling him things other people do that aren't true.i wantt to tell him but i don't know what to doo. help

hard situation, but ive been in it before.

but the easiest, and best thing you acn do, is just tell him... not yell at him, but tell him 'nicely' what you think.

tell him that she lies to him about stuff to get him mad at you, and you dont like it.

and if this girl is saying stuff about his other friends, then they can support you, and then he will realize that his girlfriend isnt being a true girlfriend.

hoped i helped some.
-erin.

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well, okayy. hi erin. i am one of your cousin's friends, delaney, my names rachel. haha. yeah, im your friend on your myspace. soo anywayss, my friend and i are not in the same class/team. she is like, one of my bestest, bestest friends. we are trying to walk together to our classrooms in the morning and and when we see each other in the hallways and stuff we always say hi. but im afraid that when it gets later in the year and forget about me and never be friends with me again, and i am really trying to talk to her a lot and trying not to let that happen, i really am. but i am reallly scraed! i knoww, i am retarded, rightt?
pleaseee helpp!
thank youuuu x3
:D
rachel

heyy rachel, yeah i know who you are, lol. well dont be scared, because things like this are eventually going to happen, but you have other friends too, right? so i mean if she does forget abtou you or something like that, you have other good friends to rely on. but in the meantime, ask her to come over on some weekends, and see if maybe she wants to go to football games with you, and stuff like that. and still try to talk to her as much as you did when you were in the saem classes.

and no, your not retarded. lol.

come back for more help if you need it.

Thanks =]]
erin

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THANK YOU SO MUCH ERIN!
my friend and i are getting along and she is in my team/class and we hang ou a lot. i am trying to be as nice as i can.
THANK YOU SOOO MUCHHH!
:D

your welcomeee (:

im happy to knwo that i helppeed youuu :D

Erinnn.

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umm if u said something asbout one ofmyour best friend hair and they said they ahte u what should i do

tell tham that your sorry, and maybe they will forgive you.

.......cw.


erin.

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um well melanie says she hates lindsay and she is not friends with her when ever she is not around lindsay and she is being a hipocrite and saying stay away from her never talk to her and i won't but she does it anyways and she tells everyone she doesn't like her well she goes to her house like everyday and when we are in school after shcool she always goes to her house she does like everything with her so my question what should i tell melanie or what should i say to lindsay about because she doesn't knoew anything about what melanie says




and one time i was at my friends house and we called melanie and lindsay was there and we are like you don't like lindsay why do you hang out with her and she was standing up to her and stuff like that and when we talked to her the next day she said sorry i had to stick up for her she was right next to me so we said.....

so then a few weeks later she goes to lindsay house and is on myspace and i said melanie you don't like lindsay why are you at her house shut up i never said that and i said melanie wants your password so she told me to do this thing to get her password and then she blamed it on me so now everybody in her family is aggested me and her mom was going to talk to my mom then the next day melanie says to me she was right next to me i had to say it was you or i would get in trouble






so anyways what should i say or do?????
and who should i say it to?????



from the blamed on girl

what you should say to melanie is "why are you telling everyone you hate lindsay and not to talk to her and stuff, and you say that you hate her, but you go and hang out with her all the time?" and that is a really stupid thing for her to do.

and maybe you shodul tell lindsay everything melanie says because melanie isnt just being a bad friend to you, but to lindsay also.

now for melanie to get you in trouble like that, she is DEFFINATLY not a good friend. and you shoudl tell her "just becasue you didnt want to get in trouble, you got your best friend in trouble. and that is not what friends do." and maybe you shoudl also tell her that if she is going to keep lieing to you, her others friends AND lindsay about you, then tell her that you dont want to be her friend. and also tell her that if she dosent tell lindsay the truth abotu all of this, then tell her that you wont be her friend unless she does.

and if melanie says thats wrond to do, its not. melanie is being a hypocryte and a mean person, and worst of all, a bad friend.

and if one day melanie and lindsay arent hanging out, then talk to lindsay abotu it PRIVATELY, and tell her the truth abtou EVERYTHING.

thankkksss =]]
loveeeee erin.

*call me and tell me what happens, or call or something for more advice.

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i had/have a friend who was nice to me and would talk to me a lot and stuff. but when she is with other friends like on ecertain one she like prank calls me and she syas to her friend/s that she doesn't like me. and when i talk to her, i'll ask her something and she lies about everything, like one time, she was over at her friends house and she prank called me and i called her the next day at her house, and i asked her if she prank called me, and she said no. i know she did cause i could hear her voice. now, i am going to start school soon, and she is in my team/class. should i not talk to her, but still be freindly or what should i do? pleaseee hellp me!

it is wrong for your friend to lie to you and talk behind your back. trust me, i have gone through this soo soo much and i still am.

you can still talk to her, and still be nice to her. but talk to her about it, tell her i heard you were talking about me and tell her what she said about you.
*that could just have been a rumor, and she may not have said it.

but talk to her abotu it, if you are still having problems then maybe take a break from being her friend until she realizes that what she is doing is wrong, and that you dont like that she did that.

if you still need more advice, im always here.

thanks =]
erin

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ok well i have this friend and, shes nice and all, but shes getting really annoying.

i wouldnt really consider her as my "best friend"but she ALWAYS tells people that im her best friend. and she calls me ALL THE TIME to hangout, even if we just hung out.

and i dont knwo what to do because i dont want to be mean to her, but i need to get her to back off.

help me!!

well she problly looks up to you and counts on you all of the time.

maybe you shoudl talk to her about it. not mean, and say your being obsessive, but tell her that your other fiends feel lieft out b/c you hang out with her all the time. soo yu have to give your other friends some time besides her.

maybe she will get the hint that she is hanging out with you too much.

thanks =]
erin

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ALOT of people think one of my friends that i've known for a long time is retarded andd has no life and acts like a monkey and once we saw her pick her nose an dlike i like her but i like my other friends to so i don't know witch ones i should like more.and hang out with mthe weird one that i've known for a long time or forget her or hang out with the cool people. that like me.

well if you dont want to be her friend anymore then dont, it will probally hurt her alot.

and if you are just not gonna hang out with her b/c other people dont like her, then thats not right.

i cant tell you which one to choose, but if you are willing to ditch your old friend for new ones that you dont really know, and that are "cool" then go ahead, you will hve the guilt of hurting your friend on your shoulders. and if you dontt, then hang out with them equally.

b/c you dont want anyone to feel left out.

thanks =]
erin

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heyy erin.. i use to have a best friend.. that wasnt really a best friend. she controlled my life, never let me have any other friends.. she was always mean to me and i cried over her almost every night. so then i just got tired of it and me and my other friend started sticking up for our selves. and now that im like popular.. shes reall jelous and she wants to be like me really bad. and shes still super mean.. SHE COPIES EVERYTHING I DO.. i cant do anything without her just copying it. its so bad that right when i put that i am obsessed with iced mochas.. shes puts ICED MOCHAS ARE MY OBSESSION!!

and its driving me crazy.
all my other friends think shes crazy too.

and im really drading haveing to see her at school when we start back.. plus she is on my cheer team.

i deff. dont want to be her friend, [im never going there again!] but what should i do??

-tired of this crap.

thats really hard to deal with. confront her, dont yell at her when you do it though.

but be like, why so you always copy everything i do? its getting on my nerves.

and if she makes a big deal about it and starts yelling, just try to keep peace. and if she keeps doing it, then she really needs some help.

so just talk to her about it.

thanks =]
erin

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welll my freind and my other freind were like bestfriend but now they hate eachother and im in the middle of it ones forcing me to not like the other and the other is accusing me into doing whatever the one wants me to do.. so what do i do bc i love em both to death

well dont be in the middle of it. say you want to stay out of it without hurting there feelings. say it nicely.

if ones forcing you not to liek one, then tell her that you can have other friends besides her.

and if one is accusing you of doing whatever the other girls wants you too, myavbe she doesnt trust you.

but its really hard being in the middle of everything and just tell them that you perfer not to be in the middle.

thanks =]
erin.

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My friend and i have been bestfriends since we were little. We have known eachother our whole lives and now it seems we are growing apart. I really dont want to lose her because she is my "secret keeper" and one who i couldnt live without. What should i do?

well if you are growing apart maybe you shoudl talk about it. she shoudl understand b/c you have been best friends since you were little. if you arent hanging out as much maybe you should call her more and ask her if she wants to hang out.

and you know, maybe she feels the same. you never know. try to talk to her more about it.

thanks =]
erin

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