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Q: my best friend used to be in our group but then she left us for all these gothic kids. she denys being gothic. today at school she wore all black and dark purple. her friend started talking to me and he was sayin ew omg shes so gothic and she cuts why are you her friend. i was so embarassed i looked at her and her other friend just stared at me and he said why are you acting so happy! and her friends do kinda give me chills in this class ther was her 2 guys and a girl of her friends. she never usually takes any shit from people shed stand up for her self and her friends usually do to. but she sat there peeking smiling. after class she said o what a friend to me and i thought she was talking about me. was this like a setup? we were talking yesterday about our old group and she sounded kinda mad. she said i act like i dont know her at school. could she have told her friends. im still in it but i feel like an outcast with out her. but she seems so much happier around these friends. whats with her always being with guys well and girls and what happened im just confused? her friends accept me and she keeps me safe if im around them i have a soft heart shes a great friend but what am i? well im 14 girl shes 13..girl lol shes been my best friend my whole entire life but i gues i do tell my other friend their my best friends..

umm hi jesse i never knew you felt like that, and im sorry they did that to you they told me they were gona see but i didnt think in school im sorry, ANSWER UR PHONE i didnt mean to post this. and people dont leave mean advice to her shes real nice but shy lol i still love you bffl.

Q: I have a guy friend(jay) he is nice and caring. But ONLY when he wants to be. He will say hi in the hallway at school then when class is over he will walk by me and trip me. Then at lunch line he smacks me in the head. But when we sit down to eat he has a polite convorsation w/ me. in classes he acts like an @$$ and throws anything(and i mean ANYTHING *i.e book*) then after wards he will be all like "oh i am soooo sorry i threw that at you......"

It is just to much for me now. He treats me(and my other friends witch are girls) like a guy. IT IS really REALLY anoying.

What do i do? dump him as a friend? (((I have told him to stop but he doesn't take what i say seriously.))) or stay his friend and deal?

ok its a guy and he treats you like his other friends dont dump him as a friend thats plain mean. but is he doing it acting mad or mean. or like its just nothing or play. hes trying to show you something of he doesnt think any different as you just like a friend(thats good). i do that to my guy friends they do it to me. so what if your really want him to stop throw it back and say stop ot hurts or is annoying. its not ina mean way what i said or what he does its normal.

Q: Im 13.
I'm the type of girl who is really shy
infront of really any guys but close friends.
I want to get to know some guys, like
become good friends. But im like reeeeeeeally shy.
What to i do.

guys will become friends with you if you talk to them and are more louder. guys dont really get along with shy girls theyd think ur just in it for the prize. if you never talk youll probly never make new guy friends. most guys want girls to start. so... just talk to guys try to open up to more people. start a random convo with them. talk about food or something. most guys will get along with girls better then guys most girls will get along better with guys i do. before you do it try to become more confident and louder around strangers. guys (and i) HATE posers dont be one theyd probly tell you to fuck off if you come up acting totally different. and they do dont be so gushy or flirty dont be in it for a relationship dont be a poser dont be too shy dont cry and act for attention. just be yourself but be louder and more confident. i have alot of friends that are girls and guys. just DONT TREAT THEM ANY DIFFERENT THEN GIRLS although no kissy and emotional at the beginning. i might add more later well probly will... so far i got this answer from guys so it should help. and not in a mean way but gay guys are hott and make great friends for most girls who have always had girls as friends their normal and if you are like ooo a gay guy they will probly beat you up bc a guy friend i have is gay and did beat someone up for doing that. none of this is mean its just true. just be normal their not a different species their human

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