I play volleyball. I'm not just a normal teenage girl. But I am going through the same crapola of highschool like everyone else.
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ok so my guy friends thought they would be funny and threaten to fight my guy friend from another school. it just started off as funny but then one of my friends lets call him A was making fun of him for all this stuff i told him about me and the other guy hooking up. and A like told the guy to apologize for trying to go farther than what i wanted to. apparently he said other stuff too but neither of them will tell me what it was. well anyways, my friend from another school wont talk to me now but he wont tell me why. and im really confused. i dont know what to do?! (link)
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I'm not gonna lie, that's pretty fucked up. Your guy friend from another school doesn't deserve to be treated like that. Regardless of he's a jerk or not, threatening someone is never funny. And it always ends bad. You should have stopped it right from the beginning. First of all you shouldn't even be telling other guys about you two hooking up, it's none of their business. He has every right to be mad at you. He won't be mad forever, but if I was him I wouldn't forgive you anytime soon. You just need to wait it out and see how he's feeling. And if he means anything at all to you, you'll keep trying to make things better, but since the way you acted, it doesn't sound like you care about his feelings at all.
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Okay, so I've always been very anti-social all my life. I only had a few friends in school, but they were just "school friends" and we never did anything on the weekends. My Mum kept telling me to make friends, so I did.
We've been hanging out a lot lately, and now my mum is becoming suspicious. She thinks I'm lying about who I'm going to see, and I tell her to ring my friend's parents to ask but she says no.
But whenever I ask to go out now she acts really weirdly and I'm starting to have to skip things with my friends, because of the way my mum behaves.
Well my question is, what do I do about it? (link)
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I think your mom is just concerned that if you're spending all this time with your friends, you won't need her anymore. When you didn't have as much friends, you obviously spent more time together. Now when you're off with your friends, she doesn't know what you're doing or who you're with. Even if she knows you're a good kid, those thoughts are still going through her mind, because well....she's a mom. It's their job to worry, especially when kids are freakin criminals these days. Maybe you could just reassure her that no matter who you're hanging out with these days, you know wrong from right and you wouldn't do anything that she would disapprove of, but now that you have these friends, a little more freedom would be nicer.
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sorry if its long.
14/f. me and my best friend were inseparable, until she got a new boyfriend. (i'll call my friend jen and her boyfriend zack.) jen started hiding lots of things from me, stuff we used to tell each other all the time. she started sneaking out and doing vandalism like spray painting, TPing, forking, egging, rubberbanding etc.
she told me this and told me not to tell ANYONE.
but im not sure i can do that. should i tell someone like my mom?
or do I keep quiet...? (link)
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I think you should confront her about her illegal ways. Tell her that she needs to stop before she gets caught and that if she doesn't get her act together, you will tell someone. Let her know that you're concerned about her and that you miss when you guys were close and that the path she's going down now is not something you want to deal with.
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I hav a friend and she has always been great to me. Ok the story is that I like this guy and she did too. But then she had told me she stopped liking him so me and him were hanging out and talking on the phone and stuff. But today I found out from her sister that her and this kid were swimming together because she was trying to out-do me. She is being a jerk and I don't know why. It's making me so mad and I don't know what to do. (link)
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Girls can be your best friend, until it becomes a competition. She's probably a little jealous that the guy she "used" to like is paying you more attention. If you and you friend have a strong relationship, you should get through this rough patch. Everyone likes to have the limelight sometimes. If it continues, talk to her about it, but I think she's just craving attention.
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okay so i have this friend,and we were really good friends in the beggining of the year, then she started being a bitch and talking about me for no effing reason!(i was hanging out with a different group that week) and so my point is,its like she thinks im stupid.like she thinks i steal like all my ideas from her,and like i cant think for myself. you know?ugh shes a bitchhh!what do i do??and no i do not want to talk to her about it,bc that will start another fight and it will be myyyy fault once again.omg please help.
thanks in advance (link)
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I hate to say it, but you have to confront her. Who knows, maybe she's just PMSy, or she's got something really shitty going on at home and she's taking it out on you. You never know, and it's not fair, but wouldn't you rather know and be content with the answer then just leave and spend the whole time guessing? Just be like, "I don't know what the hell is going on with you, but you've been treating me like crap. I have done nothing to deserve that. If you are honestly mad at me for something, let me know, don't talk shit behind my back and leave me confused. But I'm letting you know that this crap better stop because I can find much better friends." That's exactly what you should say to her.
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Although this is long, I dont know where to turn and would appreciate any responses. Thanks.
Hi everyone. I'm 13/f and my best friend is 14/m.
Well, he moved here last year and his old school was kind of bad, but we clicked right away, I helped him fit in, so to speak (even though I'm not the most popular), and now he's the most popular guy in our school, by most people's "standards."
I didn't think he'd done anything bad at his old school, and I still don't.
But, as I've been becoming "closer" to him I've been finding out things like, he seems to have a girlfriend just to "do things" (not bad, that I know of - just like kissing) with her. When I first found out he kissed his girlfriend I cried- I know it sounds pathetic, but he seems to go out with girls who have NO redeeming qualities, and now he's going out with a "sl**" (I hate to say that, but most people think so.)
But she's not the worst. One other girl in our school is really bad, does drugs (well, it's a rumor) and is the sl***iest. She's probably done really bad things with guys.
Well, I feel horrible about this - and I'm still guilty - but, I found out someone's email password from my grade, and happened to see an email that said "____(the girl) got down on her knees for ______ (my bff), just like i did with _____ (some other kid) and started sucking away. But no one's mad at her and they're mad at me."
I bawled for a half-hour, because I couldn't believe that he would do this with someone/let her do it! I just still can't believe it, and I don't know if it was someone else but it is a pretty uncommon name (my bff's) - and I can't ask/tell anyone, because then theyll ask how I knew and I can't tell them I was on someone else's email! (I feel horrible - never again.)
My best friend seemed so nice when I met him. He seemed like such a good boy, he does well in school and has an amazing family but I don't think they know he's like this! I didn't even know! although it's becoming more apparent recently.
I just don't know where to turn. I can't believe he would do that. It's so shallow and DISGUSTING for an 8th grader! (I know lots of people do now - but I really thought he was waaaaay above that. that's gross, and he doesn't even hang out with her.)
I'm having a really hard time dealing with this. I can't even look at him anymore. I don't want to even associate with him! But he's still my best friend, so I can't just leave him like that - esp. when I don't know details.
I just can't believe it. I'm in such a state of shock. You might not know how I feel, but thanks for any advice you give.
I'm really grateful because I don't know who else to ask about this - thank you sooo much for your responses.
-Disappointed (link)
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Disappointed,
You have to know the details before you jump to conclusions. Yes, you saw this email, but once you hear it straight from him, it's not going to get any better. Keep it between you two, and no one else. Tell him what you know and saw and ask if it's true. If it's not then don't worry. It's not your place. If it is, tell him that it makes you uncomfortable, and that you expected more from him as a friend and a person. Considering he has a "not so clean" reputation before he met you, it may be something about him that cannot be changed. The reason you like him is because you guys have a real connection and are friends to the boy who lives next door, not the boy who does dirty stuff like that. But I'm getting the feeling that you have "more than a friend" feelings for this boy, which make the situation worse. But that's another story. The point is that although you could tell him how much it upsets you, it's out of your reach.
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