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see i have a big problem im good at talking to people about there problems and they like talking to me but im not really good at talking about my feelings when they get really badn i mean talking baout boys is ok and things like that. but i found out recently my friend has cancer and isnt going to be alive much longer this persons haveing a really hard time and it jurts me so much i think about this person everynight and i cry to myself at night the person kinda had a heart attack the other day adn i feel that its a warning that this person wont be with me much longer they thought about ending there life and there was nothing i could do i was up all night in tears afraid that when i woke up they wouldnt be there anymore and this person means so much to me and sure its hard to deal with loosing the person but i guess i just need to have faith but its tearing me up inside i hide it from everyone. i know its not good to keep this all inside becasue its takeing me over but its so hard to talk about ive only told one person about the least bit that the person only had cancer and i stopeed at that maybe im just afraid to open up and face that im going to be in a great deal of pain soon. i just need help to open up and to stop keeping it all inside i so much think of calling my friend and telling her everything but i stop and just think i need to open up im hurting so much inside becasue im holding this all in and i guess i dont want the person to see that becasue it will put them in so much more pain but plezz help me if u can i ll rate 5'd if good advice thanxs so much


and srry for the wrong periods and stuff but im typeing fast and trying to get this done without backing out thanxs so much in advance

Oh my gosh. Well, there's a problem really needing to be solved. Try this: have a little girl's night with your friend at your house. Get ice cream and happy, funny (no sad/romantic/sappy movies!!!) movies. When you're both having fun and relaxed, ease into the topic slowly. Unless she brings it up first, then go along slowly. It might be better to do it around the time when you're about to go to sleep. It will be easier because you're going to be more loose. Just say, "You know when I told you that ----- had cancer, well I've just been feeling----. I don't really talk about my feelings much, but I just really needed to get it out and....." Try and let it flow as much as you can without having to think about it. When you're finished, you'll feel like a great weight's been lifted off you.

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I used to be more of the popular type, I was always out with friends. But latley, I can barely name 5 or 6 friends that I'm actually friends with still! All of my old friends went like .. emo, I'm sad to label them, but I can't hang out with them anymore, cause they just won't give me a chance. When I became captain of the cheerleading squad, they shut me out. I can't find anyone else at my school, who I can go shopping with, and just be true buddies. Please help, I'm so lonley!

Don't bother with them anymore. You don't need to try and change yourself for them, and they obviously won't change back for you. However, in a few of your classes, just see if there's any groups that look like a lot of fun and just introduce yourselves to them or strike up conversation with a comment or something recent. Or like someone else said, become friends with your fellow cheerleaders. As long as you stay true to yourself, that's all that matters. Or as a few people may say f*** 'em!
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ok i always feel like i'm comparing myself to this girl at my school, shes soo pretty and she has an amazing bf. She has the cutest clothes and she is just really really pretty and i always try to be as skinny as her or as athletic and i always compare myself to her and i don't know what to do to stop myself b/c this is not me at all and i need helpp quick i'll rate 5s for any thoughts!

I used to have the same problem. I would compare myself to the hottest or most popular girl in the school who had the hottest boyfriends or whatever. But after a while, I started telling myself, "You know what, she may be hot or whatever everone else thinks about her, but I bet she has a sucky life on the inside. She has to keep up that appearance, and the way she acts or no one will like her at all." Here's something that I do as well, I take a sheet of paper or just make a list in my mind and write/think of all things that make me look hot, things about my personality that make me cool. Stop trying to compare yourself to her because in your eyes, you'll always seem lesser to her because it's what your mind makes you think. Start wearing a new style of clothes that shows off your figure, change your hairstyle, wear a new ype of lip gloss. You'll start to feel more confidence in yourself and guys seem to like that. I hope my advice helped you. If you have any other quiestions just email me at pinkbunny_112@yahoo.com

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blue_bunny

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ok there is 6 of us(13 13 13 11 12 11) we cant drive there is no one to drive us. can anyone give us ideas on what to do? WE ARE SO BORED!!!
PLEASE HELP!

Ok... There's Truth or Dare(given) I Never, that's a game where everyone takes turns saying something that they never did, and whoever has done that would have to drink something, or eat a piece of candy or just do something like that, and you can just keep doing that until you get bored or something. Since you're obviously on the computer too, I would suggest going to a site called www.EbaumsWorld.com . Go to the link called soundboards . Click on anyone you want, and then you can do some prank calling.

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blue_bunny

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