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hey whats up? Hey i have a question and i seem kinda confussed about it. Anyways I worte a letter to a guy that I like and In the letter I really expressed my feelings about him. I really feel like i shouldn't give it to him or not. Whats the best thing to do? I really poured my feelings on that paper tho. Iam seeing him soon . So i need little help here before i give it to him.

hey, thanks for askin for my advice. about your letter i think that from my own experience you should read your letter and first make sure it isnt too much i tried writing a letter once and wellll i kinda blabbered and sounded obsessed(thank god i didnt give it to him) anyway i think you should go for it, take a chance and see what happens. you might regret it if you dont kinda like me. if it doesnt work out thers others but chances are if ther are at least some signs that he likes you then this letter will show him and give him the confidence to ask you out! good luck and tell me how it goes!
-kim

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This is kinda a long one but I really need good advice.

There are these three girls I'm friends with at my school. We were all like a group of four and basically the "popular" group if my class has one. Well at least I was really good friends with them. Maybe I'm just paranoid but it always seems like two of them talk about me. I'm pretty sure the third one doesn't because she's always really nice to just about everyone. Well me and one of them got into a fight the other day and aren't talking. She's really close with the other one I think talks about me. I'm pretty she's mad just just because her best friend is. But the thing is, she acts all nice to my face and stuff.

I have other friends to hang out with but most of them aren't in most of my classes. Going to school is hell anymore though. I have my boyfriend and that's like it. I can't really explain this dilemma to him. He knows vaguely of it and that's like it.

I know what my "friends" can do. This one girl was really popular and everyone wanted to be friends with her and they turned her into a complete loser so everyone hates her and talks about her. I don't want this to happen to me.

The girl whose mad at me is not the apologizing type and I'm not apologizing to her.

So what do I do?

I rate 5's!

hey, spunds complicated, although i dont know how serious this situation is that caused the fight i do know that if you hang out with the type of people that purposely turn someone into a "loser" then maybe you should reconsider being friends with them...true friends are ones that you dont have to say sorry to, ill have a hug fight with my best freinds and then the next day we'll go see a movie. I dont know how close you truly are to these 3 girls but just try talkin dont give in but dont be rude and stubborn. be a moderate and try to see the other side. good luck!
-kim

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This is long...sorry...but if you read this and answer I promise to rate you a 5 and I will be so greatful! thanks in advance for reading this. I have this friend named nicole (fake name) and she has been my best friend for about 2 years. She gets really annoying and is pretty stupid, and my family doesn't like her very much. She doesn't have a lot of money and her parents are completely uninvolved in her life. My parents do everything for her and we get nothing in return. She never really does anything to show she appreciates it and I really don't like that and neither does my family. So recently she's been pretty rude to me. She ditched me twice. At lunch I sit with nicole and kelly (fake also) and 3 other girls who im kinda barely friends with but mostly I only talk to nicole and kelly. well kelly is "popular" all of a sudden to nicole but no one really likes her...and no one really likes nicole because she's so annoying. I know nicole doesn't care about popularity because if she did she wouldn't be so weird and act so nerdy. We're not popular but we're not geeks, I guess we are known as just normal group, except to the geeks we are known as popluar, so i've heard. Well nicole has just been obsessed with kelly and she blows me off or is too busy to hang out with me but not kelly. I have many friends in school, like a ton, but I usually only hang out with friends once every week or maybe even less then that. I only really hang out with nicole. But shes always so busy and always grounded so I kind of have no friends outside of school. I make an effort to hang out with other girls I know at my school but it never really works out, not that they don't like me just our plans don't really follow through. Sorry I'm writing a lot but I wanted you all to understand the background of my question. So here it is...Today nicole got mad at me and I had no idea why and so her and kelly totally ditched me at lunch and sat with someone else and I asked kelly is she mad at me she said no there was no room at the table...when there were plenty. I am so mad at nicole I seriously was about to punch her because suspension was worth punching her. She totally takes advantage of me and I keep going back to be her friend. My parents and bother think I should stop being her friend and there a feeling in me that I want to but then there's also a feeling that's not willing to give her up. The main reason I don't stop being her friend is if I do then kelly wont be my friend and I'll have no one to sit with at lunch and no one to talk to during class because most people in all my classes are popular or totally nerdy and all that stuff. But today seemed like the last straw and I don't want to be her friend but I'm afraid of what will happen. I'm hoping once I start high school I'll make new friends and totally ditch her for good, but thats about 6 months away and I don't want to go with nobody to hang out with during summer if I stop being her friend. I really love her and shes so funny and fun to be around. If I didn't love her, I would hate her and think she is the stupidest person ever, and I would never consider being her friend, if you know what I mean. I love that she doesn't care what others think, but sometimes I hate it because she is truly embarassng and since not a lot of people like her, I think that's why nobody ever calls me to hang out because they probably think I'm just like her. Basically I want to know all of your opinions about what I should do. Stay her friend, ditch her, wait a little longer, etc? Please help I have no idea what to do!!! I will rate you 5 if you answer no matter if I like your answer or not, just because you read all this. By the way, im 14 female. thanks so much!

hey, been ther we girls hav so much drama as my parents say. heres what i think you should do: try to talk to her about how u feel. i know its sounds kinda stupid and hard to just bring up with out them gettin mad but if their truly your friend they will listen. when me and my best friend started to drift because she did volleyball and started to hang out with all new people and never had time to go see a movie or even just chill, i just kind of was rude back to her for a few days and then we had a huge confrontation at my house one day and i just went crazy yellin all the things that she'd done and all the things i hated about her. well afterword i knew she truly was my best friend because she told me she had no idea and was really sorry. and now we hang out all the time and she doesnt ignore me or ditch me and im even friends with her newer friends. if she gets mad or if your freinds get even worse then just stop hanging out with them and stop talkin to them...dont just drop them as a friend but make them realize what their doing to your feelings. i hope my advice works and if you need more advice you can email me at koolkiwi12@yahoo.com
good luck!
-kiki

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