Iv been here for a few months and I belive that helping others is a way give others hope in there lives my advice is straight forward .I have my own problems like anyone eles out there but I keep looking for the answers .sometimes life isn't easy or not fair but you live and learn every day .I hope that anyone looking for the advice they need truly helps and if you need my advice I'm here for you .I might not have all the answers but I will do my best with this said good luck to all
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i'm in my first year of college and sometimes, I tend to get a little stressed socially sometimes. There are girls in my classes and girls who are my friends that are just pretty, smart rays of sunshine who never have any problems talking to boys or making new friends. I get really jealous. I get really tense and anxious when i'm with a friend and another girl (or guy, especially a guy) comes up to us and starts talking to her and i get all these negative feelings at once (jealousy, anxiety) and just freeze up and can't even make an effort to socialize with the new person. On the other hand, sometimes i have better days and i'm a little more confident, but these days are uncommon. For instance, this past weekend was one of the most amazing weekends of my life. I was so happy saturday and sunday i felt like i was sitting on a cloud. And now all of the sudden it's monday and i'm depressed beyond belief. I'm paranoid that the friends here that I absolutely love are going to lose interest in being friends with me and are gonna pay more attention to other people and i'm gonna have to be friends with people who are boring like m . I don't even know. I just know that i am depressed beyond belief at this moment. It's amazing how i could go from the happiest I've ever been over two days to having the shittiest day ever today. I feel like I can never be consistently happy the way i was over the weekend. I knew that ecstatic feeling was too good to be true and all things have to crash and burn eventually with me. I just wanna be happy like everyone else is and i feel like that'll never happen. help (link)
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Well I don't think that the people you hag around with are happy all the time they just are able to hide it better .I mean you can't be happy all the time .but in your case it seems to me you might suffer from depression .I go through the same thing where one moment I'm the happiest guy arond and then its like one person can ruin it realy quick for me .but don't wory about your friends getting bored with you .it hasn't happend yet right .don't fret on things that might not happen look at the bright side of things you are in collage and ther is a lot of people to meet there its like an ocean full of fish so don't wory about that just be your self and don't panic take a deep breath and and then get out there and enjoy what life has to offer you might be suprised and if all eles fails try try again
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I need help talking with a good friend of mine who has been in an emotionally abusive relationship for 10 months or so. The relationship has recently fallen apart and I want to help her understand that it was abusive.
While she was in it, whenever I tried to talk to her about it, she saw it as an attack and our friendship suffered. It never got to the point where I brought up abuse because I didn't want to lose her entirely. I kept stressing that the relationship wasn't healthy and she bought into that. She had excuses for his behavior and was okay with it because he did good things for her to make up for the bad. She has been in very abusive relationships in the past so her perspective may be a bit skewed. Compared to the others, this one wasn't nearly as terrible.
The relationship has consumed her for a few months and I haven't seen or really talked to her in a long time. The few times we did talk or see each other, it was because she needed something. She used me and after awhile I stopped letting her. We aren't as close as we were and she wants to rekindle the friendship. She feels bad for what happened and is trying to only have positive friends in her life. She lost almost everything she had because she gave everything to him. She means a lot to me and I do not want anything like this ever happening to her again. Right now, she is blaming herself. She thinks that she was obsessive. I am not sure if abuse has crossed her mind, but my guess is that if it has, she has dismissed it.
I haven't dealt with a situation like this before and I want advice on how to approach it. How can I turn her thoughts around and show her that she wasn't obsessive, he was controlling and abusive?
Should I wait a few weeks for things to settle down or bring it up right away?
My idea was print out the warning signs and show them to her. Go through each one and explain how that was exactly what happened to her. Is this a good idea?
What are some things you can say to someone that has been emotionally abused? I've looked at websites, but I'd like some advice from people too.
I do want to give her another chance at friendship. How can I keep her from using me, but at the same time not hurt her? She is in a very fragile state right now.
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First of all women that fall in an abusive relationship and keep comeing back to people that are abusive is because of one thing .she has very low self asteam she thinks she can't. Do better or get someone that will treat her right .she is in denial of it all .and after years of abuse makes it only worse .but if you are a true friend and it seems like you are give her time .and on the other hand don't let her emotions get get the best of what you have for her .be firm and understanding .the signs that you have of abuse that you have printed out is a good idea to show her and I think you are on the right track .she needs to know especaly in black and white .but explain that you are on her side and want too help .tell her that you care about her and don't want her to get to where she was before becase there is more to life then what she had and she can do better for herself and that you are there for her .she will come around eventualy but be patiant wit her it does take time to heal
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19/F. This is the third time this week I'm crying myself to sleep :/
If it weren't for work or school...I'd have nothing to do! I just feel really sad. I have some friends and they're all nice people, but none of them "get me". I just don't feel a connection with any of them.
I'm a friendly person and I'm not socially awkward (promise). However, I'm not a super social person. I'd much rather hang around with a few people I already know then continuously meet random people. What can I do to change my situation? (link)
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First of all do you think you might have social anxiaty disorder .I'm asking this because you say you don't connect with people .I have the same problem where I pretty much keep too myself other than at work .because I don't connect with people .I don't have any friends at all .I don't go out to the social seen cause I. Get nervous around a lot of people and don't know how to act .iv hadd this problem for a long time .but it might just be the type of person you are .it does get lonley at times but going to see a councelor might help you overcome your fellings and find a solution to your problem just keep in mind you are not alone
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