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So my friend asked me to come to her vaca house but i didn't want to so i said i couldn't my mom said i should have plans with her, so she called me and asked me to come over to her house for most of the day tomorrow, i don't want to hurt hr feelings, or blow her off, but everytime we have plans it's soooo boring, it's fun to be with her when your in a group of people but alone it's awkward and no fun!!! What do i do????????

13 yr/f

find things that you have in common, and if those are things you can do then do then do them.

but the best thing to do is to not think about how bored you are, but think about how you can fix it

hoped i helped

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Long story short, I used to be best friends with this guy. (he's 16, i'm 16/f) Anyway, this year stuff's been rocky and we both have been trying to get back to the friendship we used to know, it's not working, it's been about 6 months. I think, at least on my part, I can't remember how I was ever his friend 'normally', like without being so close, but that's how I need to be now. I can't expect to hang out with him all the time, and call him/him call me, etc. How can I get myself used to being okay with being just normal friends? And also..how can I treat him like a normal friend?

(If this makes no sense, what I'm trying to say is I still see him as a really good friend of mine, though he doesn't for me. he's willing to be my friend as long as i treat him as a 'normal' friend as he says. anyone, HELP!)

well just stop trying and let it come to you naturaly. its easier to forget how you were friends and focus on whats happening now

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ok well i'm pretty good at keeping friends (when i'm in school) but anyways i don't know how to keep them interested,you know? people get bored of me fast,i hate it ! i just stop my energy for some reason after a cirtain point. how can i keep my energy up? i'm not sick of them, its nothing to do with them,its me. i just loose energy and stop being so talkative,its weird because i'm usually so much more talkative. any help? this is probably confusing.sorry.

well mabe these people aren't intrested in you enough that they need to be your friends. you know when you can talk to someone every day and not lose the conversation is when you know you have a friend

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Hey actually ive notcied you give some pretty good advice so i decided to hit you with a a problem that i need advice on :]

Kay well for starters, im 14/f and going to high school next year. This guy whom i known since grade 5, his name is Bryan, is acting like a bitch. Im not sure if hes using me or what he wants from me. My friends and i have decided to go to an amusement park next week. He is coming, but he acting like a bitch about it. As in, he wont call my friend to ask for a ride because "hes too busy" but honestly thats just an excuse and hes not taking the time to actually pitch in. It feels like hes only using us for this trip, then going away to camp all summer. He does hang out with us at lunch and after school but still, theres something about him that shows that hes not intrested in us. I dont know if i should uninvite him or just let him use us for the last time because we're not going to see eachother anymore since of different high schools. What should i do?! BTW, everytime i confront him about it he always make excuses and i really dont want to take it from him anymore. Thanks!

well, this guy has some issues to work out with himself before he can even think about going with you. I think you should confront him one more time and tell him that its his last chance to get his story stright. He need to realise that if he doesn't bring this friendship back to a stable basis that he may never see you again. if he really cares he won't let that happen. I think you should watch him very closely and think of all the time he has used you and compare that to how many times he has pulled through. if that doesnt work the personally i would forget him because his excuses won;t make up for his actions no matter how many he makes.

hope I helped

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im going to a new school next year, and ive asked alot of questions about that already. everyone is like, just be really outgoing and stuff like that. Well, i am an outgoing person and really crazy.. but im also EXTREMELY shy around people that i am not used too. I know that i can picture myself being outgoing, but then when i am in the situation, i have horrible nerves, like i turn red REALLY EASILY, or i shake, or i just say the wrong thing! its so horrible, but are there any tips to calm the nerves, or just not be so shy, and hesitent?! thank you so much.

you have to believe in your self and your ability to present yourself in a manner that makes you likable. Trust me I'm going into my first year of high school next year and I'm really shy (even around my best friends). Don't let nerves get to you, you have enough to worry about anyway.


Hope i helped.

P.S. if you ever need anything just ask.

14/m

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heres my deal... i like two people. chris and pete. i have known chris since third grade [now in 9] he has always liked me. my best friend sammy is also good friends with him. she is having alot of problems in her lifee right now, she is on the verge of killing herselff, almost. chris and pete are really good friends with one another, the other day we were playing truth or dare and i made out with chris, when pete was there. BUTT theres anothere boy in this too. his name is tommy he has liked me since sixth grade. chris likes me and sammy, i dont know what to do because if i keep making out with him as friends with benefits then i done know what it will turn into and sammy is a good friend to me but i feel guilty about doing this and not telling her. also chris keeps saying that pete likes me but i dont believe it that much, cause he doesnt show it. ps, i like people for there personality. and please dont say that chris is just trying use me becuase he would never do somthing like that. i know himm to well for him to just go somewhere and just make out with me the hole time. i need some advicee.

mabe you should come out with it (not that there is a secret to begin with) And just tell them what is actually happening. and if you actually like that guy you need to tell him. making out as friends is not a good idea unless you are playing a game.

hope I help
14/m

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My parents are getting a divorce shortly mainly because my dad is 38 wanting to be 20 again. I have a bestfriend that comes around alot and she thinks my dad is hot and he knows that. He says that she is very attractive and so on. He text her all the time. Me and my friend work together and my dad will go in and talk to her then leave without saying a word to me or he will go in when im not even working like he has for the last 2 weeks according to my friend.

The other night i was pretty drunk and my friend and i were talking to my dad. I laid down on the floor and dosed off and i hard noises coming from my friend ( like her and my dad messing around ) after my sister came in the room i got up and went to the bathroom and started crying. After 10 min my friend came to check on me and i asked her if she was messing around with my dad and she said "no, i would never do that ___ i would never do anything to ruin our friendship". And of course i believe her she my bestfriend.

Lately my dad is very attached to his cell phone every time it chimes i know its my friend.He sleeps with the phone right next to him most nights and if you touch his phone he flips out. Well tonight he left his phone on the table so i snooped and i looked thourgh his pictures and i found one of my friend naked (from the waist up)

IM so hurt by this i dont know if i trust her shes lying to me. We're supposed to be bestfriends. Shes tells me she annoyed by my dad but that pictures proves that thats a lie. I dont know what to do anymore. I dont want to tell her i was looking through my dads phone and found this. I'm Graduating tomorrow and shes going to be there we are supposed to move in tomorrow as in get an apartment.

Please help im falling apart over this
thanks

you should tell her confont your dad and then forgive them

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i always THOUGHT i was outgoing, but people are telling me i'm boring and that's why i'm losing friends. well i really wanna be outgoing and likable and i miss my old best friend. i really wanna be BEST friends and do everything together but i dont know how to start. right now we talk a little bit but all we say is hi. how can i gradually get her to WANT to be my best friend?

i really need help. =/

just be yourself and ease into it dont let it eat you up

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okay heres the deal, i know abuse is bad. and my friend said her mom hit her with her ring, and theres a huge black & blue mark on her face now. however, this girl is known to lie. so i dont wanna say anything, but shes been telling me this for about 2 years now, and i know a good friend would say something, but im afraid of the outcome. one time someone DID say soemthng, and her parents lied their way through the whole thing, what should i do.

anonamosly call the police station not 911 and reort abuse and she will never know

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ok. so i'm 14/f. and i really feel like i have no friends. like, people are nice to me, but i don't feel like i have someone who i can really talk to. and i don't want to talk to my parents about stuff that i would talk to my friends with of course. i have a half-sister that is really easy to talk to, but she works like ALL of the time, and she lives like, 3 hours away. i feel like everytime i get a friend, i loose them. and i feel like if i was in a group of girls and a different group of girls had to be picked out to hang out with, i would be last picked. or, sometimes i feel like i'm a last resort. what i mean is, one time, one of my really good friends called me and asked if i wanted to go shopping, and i was like "sure!!" and we went to the mall and were shopping and stuff, and i said, "we should have seen if so and so could have come too" and my friend said "yeah, i called her first, but she wasn't there" and i was like "oh". ya know what i mean??? so my question is, do you really have to have friends to get through life? i'm going to be going into high school this coming year, so will i make friends who i can actually keep around???? i need help!!!! thanks.

hey i will be your friend because im very open. i dont care who you are. go to my web page and e-mail me and we can talk as long as you want. i will make time for you

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