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I have a friend that lives in my appartment complex. She's always phoning me and asks if she can borrow one of my DVD's. I always say yes because I own lots and she's pretty good about returning.
Well I just got two movies from my dad, Willy Wonka and The Fog. She asked me already if she could borrow them and I told as soon as I finished watching them.
She just phoned me about a half hour ago and asked if she could borrow one of my movies. I told her sure. When she came over I told her she could watch anything except for those two movies that I hadnt watched yet. Then she got mad and said" well then I guess I won't be borrowing anything because those are the ones I wanted to watch". Then she left!!
I felt angry, like she's just using me to watch my movies. If she was a true friend wouldnt she have at least stayed for a visit to chat?
Am I overreacting or was that down right rude? (link)
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I think that was rude. Maybe you can ask her to watch a movie with you. Tell her that you havent seen those, and you were about to watch them and maybe she would like to stay. I think she might want something more from borrowing ? or maybe she is PMSing...idk..you have to talk to her...
GoodLuck
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i have a friend who moved here last february & we have become really good friends. i mean really close...we can talk to each other about things that i don't think i could even tell most people. i just feel like i am missing something, because i don't know about her past. i know she has a dad, stepmom & stepsister (her stepmom has been married to her dad for only a little over a year but they are luckily very close). however, i have no idea what happened to her real mom. she has never mentioned her ever...i don't know if she's dead, if her parents are divorced, or what. it never use to bother me, but now that we are so close i just feel like i should know something. i know that she proabably has never mentioned her for a reason (she might be sad or angry perhaps?) but as her close friend i feel like i should be able to know somehting. do you think i should bring it up? if so how would you go about doing that (and if something bad happened with her mom i really don't want her to get upset or angry). do you think it is appropriate for me to say/ask anything at all? if you were in this situation would you ask?thanks! (link)
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If I were in your situation I would ask her- Just wondering, where's your real mom- and then add in something really quick like-you dont have to tell me if you dont want to- You have to give her space. Maybe you turst her a lot,but maybe she hasnt trust your enough to let you know what happened...and then if she does tell you what happened...say something comforting afterwards if it's neccesary. Be supportive. But it might be a touchy situation, so dont forve her to say it. And then when......I think you should ask her whenever you guys are like just sitting down to watch T.V or when you guys are shopping. Like during a time where you can ask her, and then get her mind off it right away. becuase you wouldnt want her to be sad all day.
Good Luck!
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