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Q: okay so i have a friend,lets call her jenna. and i have another friend,lets call her kristen. me and jenna have been bffs since kindergarden but in 8th grade,jenna found new friends. and she did EVERYTHING with her new friends,including talking about me/leaving me out.

over the summer,kristen and I became pretty close.we both like the show,24(not the channel)and were both obsessed with it.i dont know if shes just using me or not,because i already told her that i "lost the seasons of 24" but then we were still friends. but sometimes i question,that in high school she wont be my friend anymore.

and jenna? well i dont know everytime i talk to her, i HATE her. you know? idk if i should be her friend,bc everytime i talk to her, im so jealous of everything she does. i mean she ALWAYS wins.
i mean shes so nice and stuff. but i dont know what to do

please help
i really need advice here
all myyyy friends are going to a different high school :(
thanks so much in advance!

Well, Jenna doesn't sound like a very good friend....talking about you, leaving you out? I bet the only time she talks to you or hangs with you is when her other friend aren't around. You;re her back-up friend and believe me, she doesn't care if she is hurting you...forget her...find some new friends.

As for Kristen? I think you both have stuff in common... But just in case, why don't you try talking to her...she might reasure you that she is your friend, and if she gets mad at your suspicions, I suspect that she is using you....overall...Kristen is the better friend, not Jenna.

Q: there is this girli used to be bestof friends withfor about 2 years, and recently i have beenhaving huge problems with her brother and family, and i have kind of grown apart from her aswell... she is a really nice girl andfun tobewith but i just feel like i need time away from her, it is like she smothers me..always calling, always sowing up at my house, inviting herself to go out with me and my friensd, or me and my family (and my family hates her) she never gives me any space... and so well i want a break from out friendship for a while.. some weeks, maybe a mont or two... but i do not want to be rude and bitchy to her, i dont call her anymore (but she remains to call me) i dont invite her out anymore (but he always invites me out and i make excuses to not go)i dont talk to her on the internet (yet she keeps sendin me emails and offline messages) i would think she would getthe idea in her head that i dont want to talk to her, but she obviously hasnt... so what can i do? i dont want to be rude, because she really is a good person.. but i dont know what to do... i know i wont be able to just talk to her and tell her, because i feel like that is not nice...and i am running low on ideas...

any sugestions??

I have had a friend just like this...and yes you can use the word 'Annoying' because it is true, she is annoying you isn't she?

What I did with my friend: One night she called me and I was just sooo irritated...I was like "I think I need a break from you...I need to think about some stuff."

It kinda felt like I was breaking up with her, lol. But she was like "Okay, call me when you're okay" and that was that...I called her a few weeks later and we were fine, no fights, not anything. We were cool, and she wasn't on my backside anymore.

Q: I hooked up with my friends ex-boyfriend. They were going out for 2 monthes and she broke up with him but she may still have some feelings for him. I hooked up with him the other night. Should I tell her? I don't want to risk losing her as a friend since she is really close but I don't want her to find out from someone else if other people happen to find out. Please help! thanks

You have to see it as, what would you say/think/or feel if she did it to you?
If your friend still likes him I think you should give it a little bit more time. Just stick with flirting with the guy until your friend gives you the okay to go out. Ask her before you and the guy hook up again.

Q: So I play basketball and so does my "best" friend Sarah. Well, halfway through the season my coach decided to make her swinger to varsity (she plays both varsity and JV) and I stayed on JV. I was happy for her but ever since she got put up she's been treating me horribly. Like, whenever I try to talk to her or hang out with her she completely blows me off and she told me before she got swinger that she wouldn't act that way cause 2 of our other teamates are acting the same way. I want to be her friend and I'm happy she made varsity but how do I tell her she's acting the same way she said she wouldn't?

Pull Sarah aside and tell her what she's doing, and tell her how she acts now. If She doesn't listen or avoides you then say to her 'If you're going to treat me like this then we can't be friends.' You may want to be ehr friend, but you don't deserve to be treated so. Find a new friend and hang out with him/her.Sarah might see what you mean and think that she was acting stupid. Then after some time, you will be friends again.

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