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So you've probably seen some of my questions about how I don't have any real friends and today being my birthday just proves what kind of friends I have. I don't hype up my birthday because if you're my friend you would've remembered like I get it sometimes you have a lot on your mind and forget but this happens every single year, if I don't tell me friends "hey today's my birthday" or if I don't text them the day before "tomorrow's my birthday" I won't get a birthday wish. The only person that's not in my family that wished me a happy birthday was this girl who I don't even talk to anymore, we drifted apart I tried keeping the friendship with her but she stopped cause she has more relatable friends now. Every time it's my friends birthdays I always remember to wish them and even try to make it special for them but for me they don't do anything other people get texts and stuff at midnight on their birthdays I got only one from that girl so I let it slide at that time now it's nearly 12 noon ad literally nothing how much you wanna bet if I say it's my birthday on snapchat they're all gonna message me happy birthday? What can I do about these friends? The ones I really wanted a happy birthday from I texted them a Happy NYE to see if they realize NYE equals my birthday cause they know that so far no reply yet. Don't say they may be planning a surprise cause they're not it happens every year even at my birthday party last year. The only time they treated me like it was my party was when it was time to cut the cake either than that it was like I was a guest at somebody else's party no one paid attention to me, when we took group photos I was pushed to the back when clearly the celebrant should be in the middle of the front, they would talk to each other no one would really try to talk to me they would leave in groups to go take pics no one wanted a pic with the bday girl. I turned 17 today (link)
First of all, I am so sorry this has happened to you. I can imagine how upsetting that would be for you.
I would say that you should tell your friends how you feel about this. If they don't react well to the fact that you are upset about this, they aren't being very good friends.
If this is the case, I think you should make some new friends. I'm not saying you should stop being friends with them, but just try to make new friends.
I hope this helped. Happy 17th Birthday. You are special, and someday you will find good friends who remember your birthday and not only make you feel special then, but feel special everyday.


I have a friend who sits at our table in middle school but she takes my friend away and I get pissed and now I barely hang out with her I found out a day ago that the friend thinks that my enemy is mad at her and she takes to much time with my friends and I tell her that my enemy isn't mad at her but she says that she is mad at her and I think that she just wants to take away my friends I really need to knw wat to do please i need help or else i could even strangle her what should i do (link)
I understand that you probably feel quite left out and as if you are losing your friend. I know this may seem hard, but try to join your friend and the other girl. Maybe ask them both to come and do something after school together. Though you may not want to, just try to have fun with them both.

Once you have done that, and if you still feel as if you are losing your friend to your other friend, try talking to the girl who you feel is taking your friend away, and tell her that you feel a bit left out and you would appreciate it if you were included a bit more.

I know you'd probably rather the other girl just not be friends with your friend, but you shouldn't really interfere with their friendship. I think, as I have felt your way before, the best thing to do in that situation is to just try to be friends with your friend and the girl who you feel is taking your friend away.

Good luck!




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