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Q: My friends and I are trying to get this one boy from my classical music class to start to appreciate rock music and rap music, pop music etc. He isn't responding to most of it and is giving answers to rap music like, "You don't know what he's saying!!" Is there an easy way to introduce him to this type of music?

Introducing people to music can be hard. I would suggest introducing him to some light pop, maybe JoJo or someone like that. If you want to introduce him to Rap try light rap... Not Eminem or anyone like that but someone who raps about life, not drugs or sex... Maybe TuPac...

Good Luck
~*MaRiYa*~

Q: ok well i started to like my best friend, and i was talking to him one day, and he asked me who i liked and i couldnt lie so i said it was him. acctaully, i asked him who he thought it was and he said he thought it was him, so i said it was. ever since then we've still talked and stuff, and things only feel a little different. today, i told him i didnt like him anymore. he asked me why and asked if it was because i liked someone else.. while in my head i was thinking aww i imed him back and said no, its because its screwing everything up between us. then i got booted off. but i dont know what to do, i wanna stop liking him but i cant!

You can't help who you like. It isn't possible. If you like him there is obviously an attraction there. It isn't rare that someone likes there best friend. Try to figure out what you two have in common. Think for a while about what's attracting you to him. You don't need to stop liking him though. Just sit down and talk to him about it, maybe ask him out.

Lots of Luck
~*MaRiYa*~

Q: I have a close friend who I usually get on well with. However, yesterday evening he told me that he is homophobic because he believes homosexual people mess up the whole cycle of life and they are selfish. I told him that people have the right to be who they want to be but he disagreed. Eventually I said that we could just forget it and agree to disagree but he wouldn't leave it. I told him I didn't want homosexual friends and refused to speak to him. I badly want to be his friend but he refuses to just forget our disagreement and not talk about it again. He just keeps saying that he is right and wont accept that it is a matter of opinion. I don't want to lose him as a friend, what should I do?

Well this matter is a little strange. Honestly I have homosexual friends and homophobic friends. I don't think it matters if you have a homophobic friend and want homosexual friends. Yes, you are right it is a matter of opinion. I think that if he doesn't see that everyone has an opinion and that you just basically stated your opinion he isn't a good friend. Most likely he will get over it and forget your little disagreement (That is if he's a good friend.)

Lots of Luck
~*MaRiYa*~

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For a few years now I've been the one that all my friends come to when they have problems. At first I thought it to be annoying but soon after it all started I realized they were coming to me because I'm good at giving advice to them. For a few years I have been helping them with almost everything. I've had complete strangers come up to me at school and tell me their problems, asking me what they should do. One day this girl sent me an IM, she had gotten my SN from Xanga, she asked me what she should do. She wanted to kill herself. I won't tell you anything from our conversation simply because I don't talk about the problems people come to me about, all I will tell you is that she is still alive to this day.