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Q: My friend is jealous of me and i didn't think it would be a problem like wahooo she's jealous of me doesn't make a difference. But then i told another one of my friend's that she was jealous of me and like would be at different moods like one day she be sooo nice and caring and loving adn the next day she would be like ignoring me hangiung around other people and like telling me stuff that really hurt me. My other friend said that it is jealously and that she is trying to get me mad at her and then she'll use that against me. I don't believe she'll do that but i jut don't understand her anymore. I feel she might be trying to replace me. I sometimes don't sleep or eat becuse i thinking about what lifew would be with out her and i miss her so much when i try and hang around different people or if i don't talk to her... i don't want to lose her but maybe it might be for the best if she is gonna be really mean and hurt me alot i really reeally don't want to do that. Help me what should i do...??

I know you care about her and sometimes people just do mean things to feel better about themselves, but you don't want someone in your life who is just going to constantly upset you on purpose. I had a best friend like that and I talked to her about how she would say mean things to me but in a joking way and she said she didn't know she was hurting my feelings. So you should talk it out with your friend and hope she changes but if nothing happens then maybe it's time to move on.

Q: I'm 13 and female. Ok, my best guy friend is startin to act all wierd. I mean, he used to be so nice and sweet to me and give me all sorts of advice on guys. That was before he got with his girlfriend. Then he got with is girlfriend and he was still just as sweet and kind, but then they broke up and now he's so different. It's hard to explain. He's not as sweet as he used to be and he doesn't give advice, he just says,"ur screwed then" and he's always talking to his ex-girlfriend. I don't mean to be jealous, but I do get jealous easily. He really has changed. I know he says I'm his best female friend, because he told me. I don't know how to ask him what's up with out sounding totally bitchy or jealous. Please help. I'm an advice comlumnist,too and I guess everyone needs help once in a while.

~K~

Make sure he knows that he can talk to you about anything even if you just have to say it bluntly "you know you can talk to me about anything." It seems as though something is troubling him if he changed so quickly. Just sit him down and tell him that he's been acting different and that it's starting to affect your friendship.
*~Krystal*~

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Hey I'm Krystal and I'm a junior at Bowie High School. I really like music. I listen to rap and punk/rock and some country. Some of my favorite rappers are Snoop, Jay Z, Eminem, Twista, Chingy, and Ludacris. My favorite bands are Good Charlotte, Yellowcard, Something Corporate, The Starting Line, Finch, Incubus, Our Lady Peace, Green Day, Linkin Park, Greenwheel, New Found Glory, and Blink 182. Besides music I really love to dance, anything from ballet to hip-hop. My favorite sport is basketball. I love the Spurs and the Sixers oh and I loathe the Lakers!!