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Kinda long....ill rate a 5
alright well about a year ago i started hanging out with this girl lets call her brooke. i was 17 when i started hanging out wit her and she was 14...well before i started hanging out with her i had soo many friends(not to brag or anything like that) i mean i was always out and always had something to do...well i used to be friends with this other girl before i started hanging out with brooke...me and this other girl stopped being friends because she got a boyfriend and then they got engaged and moved in together and all that crap...well i started hanging out with brooke and since ive been hanging out with her ive pushed all of my other friends away. Now brooke has a boyfriend. I mean this girl lies to everybody about everything and all she ever wants to do is get high. Now a few days ago me and brooke got into a fight and now were not friends anymore...i dont know what to do i mean i pushed everybody outta my life just to hang out with this one girl and now she doesn't wanna hang out with me anymore..im really stuck and i feel like i just wanna die...please help thanks! (link)
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Sometimes when we find a really cool person to hang out with we tend to push other people away. Now if your other friends are true friends they will understand and start wanting to hang out with you again. Besides it is never too late to make new friends.
I had a lot of friends in high school and then after we all graduated I ended up with one friend, a husband and a baby. She was single so we stopped talking for a while until she met her hubby and had kids then we started talking again. Now we are best friends and we really only have each other outside of our family.
I hope you realize it really isnt your fault that you started hanging out with "brooke" exclusively. You just simply found a friend you felt was worth your time. And your other friends just didnt really fit at that moment. So try to talk to them and see what they have to say. If they want an appology give them one and hopefully things will work out for you.
If they dont then you can always try to make new friends. And sometimes that turns out to be the best thing for us.
Good luck,
sassie
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Well, I'm a horseback rider and I'm at the barn AT LEAST 3 days a week. Most of my barn "family" are the coolest people in the world, but there's one girl who I can't stand. A while ago, we were both at a show and I gave my mare on her lead rope to my mom so I could go get a brush. At the time, this girl's mare was no where near mine, but she had to get ready for her class so she led her towards mine. My mom didn't see the girl's mare and let my mare back up. Well, my mare kicks and she kicked this girl's mare hard. Luckily, her mare was fine, but my mare had a cut. My friend and I tended to it and everything was fine, but this girl won't let me live it down, even though I wasn't even there when it happened. The other day at the barn, she made so much fun of me and starting yelling at me to watch my horse's butt as she led her horse by. I can't ignore it because riding is my thing and as soon as anybody criticizes me for anything (except for my trainer) that has to do with it, I get offended. How do I deal with this without resorting to smacking her repeatedly and vicously with my crop? (link)
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Sometimes you have to be the bigger person. It sounds like she is being a bit childish. Obviously it was not your fault so dont let her insults get to you. You are not to blame, you weren't there. Just try hard to ignore her and when she starts in just act like she isnt there and keep smiling. And if your "family" starts talking about it set them straight. Dont let her bring you down. She is only one person. And at the moment you are better than her because you have not taken any action against her. Let her do her little insult thing. It will get old fast. Especially if you ignore her.
Keep your head up and keep riding.
Good luck
Sassie
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I am mad at my best friend. I don’t want to be but I am. She has a new friend that I don’t know I guess I like her and I’m fine that they are friends and all. But lately shes been ditching me for her other friend. We were supposed to hang out and she ditched me. she has ditched me twice in the last week for her. Now she is doing cheerleading with her, and before she started being friends with her new friend she used to tell me how she would never do it. shes changing a lot. I know I cant live without her because she has always been there for me and she knows more about me then I know about myself and vise versa. we are “not friends anymore” and its killing me. to tell you the truth all I really want from her is an apology and I guess we could move on, but I have a feeling she wont say shes sorry because she is the type of person who wont admit they are wrong. for the past two years she has been ditching me for her boyfriends and I haven’t done anything about it. Now that shes ditching me for “her new best friend” im really fed up with it and I did something about it, but it seems sooo wrong. (link)
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Sometimes when we have best friends who spend a lot of time together we tend to start acting, dressing, talking, etc. like them. And then someone else new comes along and they seem to be better because they are different. Sometimes the thrill of being different wears off and sometimes it is time to move on. Best friends do grow apart from time to time. Some times a little space is good.
I grew apart from my best friend for 4 years and then we finally started talking again. Only because her so called best friend tried to steal her boyfriend. So now we talk almost everyday.
I think you should just sit down with your friend and find out what is going on. And try to be understanding. Don't wait for an apppology because that my never come. Dont let the little stuff get to you. Just voice your opinion and if she feels she needs to move on to different circles of friends dont try to stop her. Because eventually she will need a true friend, someone she can trust, when things dont work out the way she had hoped.
Good luck
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me and my friend have been friends since 1st grade ( im in 9th now )she known she be a drama queen when it comes to boys and stuff....well she always comes up to me and tells me why she is pissed..even thought its something really stupid..i tell her to calm down and dont take your anger out on other people..well her sister is my ride to school and just recently her car broke down so i rode with my brother and then my friend said she would take me the next day but she didnt and her car is fixed and my friend doesnt know if she will take me anymore ...i dont know if im just stressed out or takeing my anger out on the car situation..but me and her sister are really good friends and all and when i came to school with my brother she started talking to me like nothing was wrong...am i just over reacting?? please help because i dont know if i should be mad or not ill rate high (link)
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It sounds like you need to sit down with your friend and ask her to lend an ear for a change. I think you feelings go beyond the car situation. It sounds like there is an underlying problem between the two of you. Can you think of anything that either of you could have done or said to upset the other? I mean sometimes friends grow apart. High school is tough. It is a whole new world and people start changing. You should talk to your friend and find out where your friendship stands. But don't be upset over the car situation because that is just a minor thing and not something that should come between friends.
Good luck
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