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My friends really think I've got mental problems! Not seriously, but it's getting out of hand. I have always been like a kid--- i still love cartoons, video games and i still talk like a kid when im not nervous; like if around my friends, Im completely myself. And thats always been a problem because whem Im myself, Im crazy and hyper. So lately, my friends and people i hardly know from my school are saying that I have a mental problem. I know it sounds dumb, but I hate it!
I told my friend that there is nothing wrong, and they all say they are just joking around when they say i have ADD or OCD, but the other people at my school dont know this. Sure, school is almost over, but I really dont want to continue with this stupid rumor! And I can't even set the record straight that I have no problem, because the rumor is based on how I act, which is kidishly. I really cant sit still or I play with things and I make up wacko words.
Is there a way to show, well sure, im not normal, but just not crazy? Thanks.
14/f

If lots of people are noticing this and telling you that you're crazy then maybe they're right. Heh. No one wants to believe that they might really have mental problems, but the good news is that there's treatment for almost every kind of mental illness.

Ask your parents to schedule an appointment for you with a psychologist so that you can talk to a professional. They might confirm that you're perfectly normal and healthy! If they notice that you have a disorder they can help you work through it. You don't have OCD, but you might have ADD or you might just crave attention so severely that you act crazy to get it. These things can be fixed! It's better to find out young what your issues are so that you can work them out before your brain is all hard-wired.

Girls who talk in a little girl voice usually have had a very traumatic event occur when they were young. Were you sexually assaulted as a young child? You may have even blocked out the event in your brain to help protect yourself from the memory, but it's there in you somewhere. A therapist can help you remember, face, and work through traumatic memories.

If this is your issue you really really really need to start therapy as soon as possible before you start acting out and recreating the trauma you lived through. That is the cycle of human trauma. We subconsciously seek out the kind of trauma we lived through unless we've worked it out.

Start therapy and find out why you act the way you do... it'll help and you'll be able to control your craziness.

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There's this girl,(lets call her B) who's been saying mean stuff about me on her blog, like how i'm annoying and blahblahblah. Some of our friends(we both know the same people)read her blog,and my crush knows her pretty well.I'm worried that B will tell my crush bad stuff about me,and he'll get a horrible first impression of me. Also, I don't want B to go around telling everyone how she finds me irritating etc. What should I do ?
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Are you annoying? Heh.

Everyone is entitled to an opinion and some people take it as far as judging others and talking about it, that's just part of life--get used to it. There is something you can do to minimize the drama of the situation though.

Confront her. Now, I don't mean you should step to her with an attitude because then she'll REALLY have it out for you. Just go to her without any ego at all and ask her if you can talk to her for a minute. Tell her that you realize that she's entitled to her opinion about you, but that you would be really relieved if she stopped talking about you to people and writing about you in her blog. Ask her if there's something you did to offend her and if you could make it up to her somehow.

I'm not suggesting that you ask if you could make it up to her because I think you did anything wrong, in fact I'm making that suggestion because then she'll feel guilty about talking about you and may try to be really nice to you if you present yourself in just the right way. That's why being completely egoless when you talk to her is so important. Egoless but direct and confident; you don't want to come across as a whiny bitch so speak purposefully and hold your head high, but let her see the hurt in your eyes.

If you're not annoying like she says you are then your crush will recognize that for himself if he's not a sheep, and if he is a sheep then you're better off without him.

Remember: direct, confident, egoless, and hurt eyes. And those, my friends, are the ABC's of manipulation.

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