Hey. I'm Amanda. I like giving advice about anything I can. If I think you're asking something ridiculous, I'll tell you. But, even though I think you're a moron, I'll try to give you good advice. Anywho, I'm under a lot of stress right now, and I think helping other people and realizing I'm not the only one with problems is helping some. So, please feel free to ask me for advice. I'll try to respond nicely and sarcasm free, but I wouldn't hold your breath.
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I'm 5'8, blonde hair, green eyes. I'm usually on the high honor roll, although math sometimes prevents it. I'm a Junior. Uh..I haven't gotten my license yet, because of parallel parking. Curse it. Um, and I love Pandas. I don't eat them. It was just an inside joke last year (Pandabalism, I mean.) Alright, that's enough of this. Now..go, scamper, type. I want to read your problems and try to help you. And maybe even laugh my ass off at the same time. Har har.
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Sorry, this is so long but please take the time
to read it.We'll call my friend Trea (not her name)Ok, now Trea is the kind of girl who always tries to do the right thing. This boy hit me(we're still under age so it's not against the law.) He put a bruise on my arm Friday. So on Tuesday I (i'm a girl) tried to get him back. He is a lot quicker and stronger so when I went to hit him he pushed me downand I have a sint arm. Wednesday, (today) I went after him again because he had pushed me down Tuesday. I didn't expect to have everything happen that did. Trea, tried to stop me because he pushed me down and I scraped my elbow Wednesday. I was going after him again. I told her to leave me alone (I was mad) and not to tell anyone.My other friend told her the same thing. I went after him because my friend held Trea back. She secretly went and told the teacher on meand the boy. I had almost caught up with him and Trea grabbed my shirt from behind. I couldn't get loose because I was hurting and didn't bother to fight back. She took me to the teacher and they kept asking me questions. I answered as many as I could. They asked me why I hadn't told anyone about the fights. I didn't want to because they usually don't do anything. I can't talk to the boy or his friend (I like his friend but that's not the point) because the teachers won't let us. I don't usually cause trouble. This is my first time. My real question is, is Trea my true friend or not? (link)
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Uh, excuse me for sounding rude, but DUH. Of course she is. She just didn't want you to get hurt AGAIN. And quit going after this guy, I mean, obviously he's stronger than you if he keeps hurting you. And remember, violence is not the answer, my friend.
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Is it possible to love a boy who failed kindergarden? I LOVE a boy who failed kindergaden. I just found out. He is soooo cute, though. He's my age and evything. I do't know what to do. it isn't that I don't like him and it isn't because I'm afraid my friends will tease me. I go out with him now. He moved and now he goes to my school again. The only problem is... when do I get to see him? PLEASE HELP! THANKS,
coolgirl57 (link)
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Dump him. He's a loser.
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MY BF IS MOVING OUT OF STATE AND I LUV HIM SOOOOOOOOOOO MUCH! I CANT STAND NOT BEING AROUND HIM AND I WAS GOING TO ASK HIM IF HE LUVS ME! WE TELL EACH OTHER WE LUV EACH OTHER ALL THE TIME BUT I DONT KNOW IF HE MEANS IT I AM REALLY SCARED HE IS GOING TO MEET ANOTHER GIRL! I LUV HIM AND HE SAID HE COULD STAY IF HE WANTS BUT HE WOULD HAVE TO STAY WITH HIS UNCLE. BUT HE REALLY WANTS TO GO! I DONT THINK HE CARES ABOUT ME! WHAT SHOULD I DO? (link)
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Alright, I'm not trying to be a bitch, but are the caps necessary? I don't think so. And, spell love correctly, please. Unless of course you're spelling it "Luv" for the sake of mockery, then it's ok, but some how I doubt you are. Anywho...how old are you 12..13? If so, don't worry. It's more than likely not love anyway. But, you seem like you're a sincere person, so this sucks for you. So, here's my advice: If he moves: you obviously can't date anymore. And, I don't think it means he doesn't care about you. But, we are talking about his life here. It would be foolish for him to make choices (big choices like this) based on how you feel. So, take time to get over him, and then get back to reality. Have fun being single, or find someone else. However, if he does decide to live with his uncle: Consider yourself special.
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My friends are bugging me to go to this party tonight, but I'm sick. Seriously. They don't believe me, they just think it's me being anti-social. Should I go anyway and make them all sick just to prove a point? (link)
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No. Unless you're feeling up to it. But, why have to prove yourself to anyone? If they're your real friends they'd believe you. I mean, seriously. And if you're feeling like you need to show them you're not being anti-social, then set up a get together for when you're not sick. That way they can see that you are very social, and you won't have to feel so bad for missing out on a party.
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Once upon a time... I thought I had a really great friend. She and I really spent lots of time together after we graduated from university, we majored in the same programs. One night we went together to a bar, not to pick up guys but just to have a girls night out. During our girls night out she left me at the bar to dance with a guy she met (yes so much for girls night out). I had a drink with me but kept looking at the dance floor over my shoulder to make sure my friend was doing okay since the guy she was dancing with had had quite a bit to drink. I suppose that while I frequently turned to look over my shoulder a man that had been next to me (whose face I cannot remember or recall)had slipped the Date Rape drug into my drink. Now do not get me wrong I'm not a dumb woman, I would never get up and leave my drink and then come back to it, but it must have happened so quickly, just as I glanced behind me. I woke up the next day alone on the couch of a house I had never been to before. I was loosely dressed and can remember only having been at the bar and then waking up. I remember nothing of what had happened that night. I immediately ran out of the house and asked someone what street I was on. When I found that I was only a 20 minute walk from my apartment I snuck quietly back inside the house and tried to find my purse and cell phone. I managed to find my purse but all my money, credit card (luckily maxed right out) and cell phone were gone. I left without them because I was very frightened being where I was. I went home. I went to the hospital later after having discovered differences in myself. I feared the worst and I was correct. I was given a rape test and they found traces of the drug in my body.
I had been raped and knew nothing and remembered nothing. It was almost better that way. The only problem was that I could not remember the man who had been sitting next to me at the bar. I called my friend hoping she could help to identify the man. She immediately told me that she didn't value our friendship anymore because I had deliberately left her at the bar, and as she claims 'and being an embarassment since I was acting so slutty'. I told her about not remembering anything and she called me a liar. I told her that her opinion of me didn't matter, all I needed was to know the name or a description of the man I left with and then I would leave her alone forever if I had to. SHe told me she would have no part in my lies, claiming that she didn't want to be responsible for an innocent man being prosecuted just because "I wanted the attention".
I guarantee you, with the hospital results to support me, that I was in fact raped without remembering.
She continued to spread the rumour that I was a liar and when I had the police contact her she claimed to have never been there with me at all.
All that I wanted was for this man to be brought to justice and that he be unable to destroy someone else's life the way he destroyed mine.
I was never able to positively identify the man and my case remains considered unsolved. Those others in the club told the police that they saw nothing, I'm not really sure if they did or not and the only other person I knew in the bar was my friend.
This incident happened 3 years ago and since I have been able to recover and return to a somewhat normalcy. However, recently (within the past few months) this girl has been leaving messages at my house and work for me to call her. Finally I called hoping she had wished to tell me something she knew or reconcile things between us.
Our conversation over the phone consisted of her telling me that she knew the name and address of the man who raped me, but she still refused to tell me. Saying that she wants me to pay her money or else she will tell me nothing. I'm almost ready to pay her, I want to punish this man so badly. The poeple I have consulted about this told me that she could be prosecuted if I were to tell the police. But I know that if I have her charged or arrested that I will lose all hope of knowing this mans identity, she would never tell me anything if I am responsible for damaging her record.
My question to you is what do I do now? Should I press charges and hope that she will give up the information she knows? Or perhaps should I pay her what she wants and finally get closure? (link)
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I would press charges against her. She's protecting the man that raped you, for stupid, petty reasons. In my book, she's just as guilty as the man. She deserves any punishment she can get. I would talk to the police and have them bug your phone or something, and call her and her get to say all of the things she said before. Bring that bitch to justice along with the man that raped you.
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