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So I feel that I am losing my bestfriend to her boyfriend. She spends most of her time with him & we are only 14. Is this wrong? Like everytime I try to hangout with her, she's always with him or has plans or the next busy with him. I feel that she is way too involved with him at this age. Like 14 years old you should be having fun with your friends, not making your boyfriend your life & priority. At this age is it wrong to be hanging out with your boyfriend more then your friends? (link)
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You are completely right. You guys are fourteen and in the long run its sisters before misters. HOWEVER, ya'll are fourteen and sometimes that mean having to work on getting your priorities straight. She's confused and she doesn't know what really matters to her the most right now. And if she's any friend worth having, she'll eventually realized how wrong shes been treating you and she'll apologize. If not, then maybe it's not meant to be an eternal friendship. One of the hardest things to accept growing up is that all friendships don't last forever. Just because they end, doesn't mean they weren't great. And true friends will ALWAYS be there for each other, throughout a whole lifetime, but that doesn't mean you guys are going to be side by side forever. Good luck and I hope you can keep your patience and have hope!
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I have a bff who is 2 years younger than me. I'm 13 and she's just turned 11. Recently she's been acting obsessed with me and always wants to get her way. I've noticed this, and as you can imagine, it's put me off hanging out with her so much. She's just so judgmental and boring. She'll never do anything fun and new, she just wants to shop and watch boring movies in which are too mature for her, this gives her the idea that she is older than she really is, though she can act like a right old brat at times. I started hanging out with my other friend, who's my age, a lot more, and i love it, it has made me notice how much i hate hanging out with my bff. I need some advise on how to slowly become less attached to the hip with her, in a wat which won't be too obvious to her. Also, what can i do to slyly show her i'm changing? so that she can see we're growing apart. thanks!! (link)
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First you need to make sure that not being friends with her anymore is something you really want.She is going through a very confusing time and so are you. both of you are going to be changing alot in the next five years and you don't want to make a decision now based on this phase that both of you are in. Give it time. you might be right and you may need to move on. But if you aren't you wouldn't want to ruin what could potentially and eventually be one of the most important relationships in your life. Give it time.
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