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hey people, i'm rachel, and i'm 18 years old and i'm from IL. i love giving advice to other people! my friends say i give really good advice, and i've hooked them up with all of their boyfriends who they have had for at least a year and a half already! i do especially good with "boy" questions. lol! but i am totally open to all sorts of advice! ask me anything! dont be afraid to tell me something, or ask me a question, and dont hesitate! i hope i give u great advice, and if U have any advice for me about my page or something, feel free to ask!

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I'm 17/f and I've been best friends with this guy my whole life. Our dad's were friends in high school so it's literally my whole life. His name is Ryan.

Ryan has a girlfriend that I just cannot stand. Last year she got me kicked off of my cheer squad at school and since then I've despised her.

When that happened they were dating and they way she got me kicked off was by showing my cheer coach pictures of a party I was at. At my school, cheerleaders aren't supposed to go to drinking parties and things like that.

Well I asked Ryan to talk her out of giving them to my coach because quite honestly, I never did anything like that to her and I never would have so I still don't understand why she would do such a thing. But anyway, he never talked to her about it and she gave them to my coach.

During this past week Ryan had bought her a beautiful white gold ring with a bow in the middle and in the middle of the bow there was a blue sapphire. He told a few people and it got around to her.

Monday after school Ryan and I were at my locker and she came up to us (him) and asked if he got her the ring. He said yes and she replied with "Ryan I HATE blue! You know that!”

That REALLY pissed me off so I said, "Yeah and I hope he knows you're a bitch too." Ryan told me to shut up and he walked off with her.

What kind of girlfriend would say that when her boyfriend bought her such a nice, expensive gift?

Every time I try to say something about her to him he gets all mad and tells me not to talk about her. Yet, I hear her talking to him about me all the time. And they're way worse things that I would ever say about her. I even have other friends tell me that she says things about me and he AGREES with her!

Today I went over to his house and walked into his room and they were in there. All I heard was "(my name) is such a bitch why do you even talk to her?" and Ryan said, "Yeah she just gets jealous sometimes"

If I were to say that to him about her he's have a fit! I don't know what I'm supposed to do here because it seems that he just doesn't care about me. She’s a bitch to everyone including him but he still puts up with it. Why does he treat her so much better than how he treats me?

omg, i hate situations like this. ask him one day what he sees in her, and why he lets her treat him that way. if he doesnt listen, then just stop hanging out for a little while. then when she breaks up with him, he will have no one to turn to. then he will want you back and apoligize. and i think he agrees with her because he doesnt want to get her mad.

this is my theory :-P

I REALLY REALLY HOPE MY ADVICE HELPS! GOOD LUCK!
~rachel

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Okay, so I've been talking to this guy for awhile. Lemme point out the majority of my friends are guys. I just like them better - they're easier to get along with.
So this guy is kind of a jerk, but he's not really mean. He just like, teases and makes fun of me a lot. I was talking to him the other night, and I said something about talking to much and joked about him "probably want[ing] to duct tape my mouth and hands" (we were talking on line) and he said "you know, I might just have to take you up on that," and we went into a whole conversation about like, tying me up and he made it like, really sexual.
Then last night I was talking to him and I asked him what he wanted (I meant out of life) but he turned it into a discussion about what we wanted in relationships, and then he asked why I was so curious/interested, and I answered honestly first, saying it was "just something to talk about, and gets me into your head a little." and then said (obviously sarcastic) no, it's because I want you. And he thinks I seriously like him! I can't convince him otherwise, and I totally don't. I mean, I like him as a friend, but that's honestly it.
I don't want him to go around thinking I like him when I don't. So how do I fix this situation? I've tried talking to him about it and calmly explaining that I really, honestly don't like him like that and that I was totally kidding, and he said something like "You can lie to me but you can't lie to yourself."
Yeah, he's kinda arrogant. But like...what would you do?
It almost sounds to me like he likes me, but he specifically said he didn't.
So I ask you, what the heck?

omg, he obviously likes you! if he didnt, he would just drop it, guys are like that. but maybe you have the tiniest feelings for him.... to show him that you do not like him in that way, the next time he says, oh i know you like me or w/e, just say, yeah, i like u, u got me. (say it a LITTLE sarcastically, but not alot) and then jsut walk away rolling your eyes. he will think that you are serious, and kind of lay off a bit.

i hope my advice helps, and i hope it works!
~rachel

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lately i have been extremely unhappy, between my friends not talking to me alot anymore and them ditching me, i sit home alot on weekends when all my friends go out and have fun, also theres thisguy i like but i think he only wants to hook up. im just simply unhappy, also i think i am fat and i want to loose weight, lately i have been turnign to alcohol when im home alone so i dont have to be in this world. im always so bored and i just want to get away. i want my friends, i want to go out and party like my friends do, i want a boyfriend, and i want to loose weight. is there something wrong with me.

no, no, no! never think tht there is something wrong with you! it is very normal for a girl to want a boyfriend, loose a lil weight, and hang with her friends. maybe you should take up a hobbie, so tht you are not bored so much. maybe try going to the mall with your friends instead of being home alone, and then maybe you could meet a guy! when i was in school, my friends turned their backs on me and ignored me and ditched me allll the time. i just got used to it, and just hung with them when i could. tht was a bad idea to just leave it as it was, and not do something about it. then finally, i put my foot down and i talked to them about it. they did not understand and just rejected me even more, and then i found new friends. they wanted me back just because i had all the gossip. i eventually changed schools. those people are wut you can call "trash friends". try and find a new group of friends to hang with.

and no matter wut you are going through, never......ever turn to achohal or drugs to "solve" your problems. it will just make your situation worse. like i said, maybe take up a hobbie to take up the time you would have been having achohal.

and about the guy......does he like you, do you like him? BAM! ask him out! dont always wait for the guy to make the first move, because tht can show tht you are lazy.

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