Hi there!! My name is Melissa, I'm 13, and I'm a teen adviser who would like to help answer any questions that you may have about life and friends & family and thoses thing you cannot explain, such as U.F.Os
If you need advice about Anything, please feel free to ask me, or visit my friend's website at www.freewebs.com/bt4t or my own at www.freewebs.com/chikadvise, You'll receive lots of support and advice at either place,(i strongly recomend bt4t). Also, feel free to join the site. New members are always welcome.
Remeber, I am not a professional, but I will do my best to answer any of your questions.
I am currently considering a career in writing, probably journalism, Anyway, I know a lot about friends and family problems. I have had my share of friends disputes, new schools (new states) and anything else that can happen. FURTHERMORE... i really love those interesting, and kind of "out there" questions, so ask me.!!!
!!!I am only 13, so it is not like I am anywhere close to a professional, But, I can probably help.
Hope to hear from you,!!!
XOXO, Melissa
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Ok well I just started high school and I made some friends and then the newest one i made..she's just so happy and like a kid and everytime i think of her or see her, I just think "I was like that..or atleast I could have been like that now if I didnt' have a bad childhood....even if i was like her now, i wouldn't be as pretty as her.."
And now even though she's my friend, I'm starting to like secretly hate her REALLY bad. This always happens with many friends that I make.
What the hell is wrong with me? Why am i like this? i dont want to be like this but..something like this always happen (link)
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the reason this happens , sounds like your envious. mabe thats because you just dont seem to like yourself, and you whant to be more like her, or other friends.
the trueth is you need to like YOU, for who YOU are, and stop comparing yourself to how your friends are like. your problably just as pretty, if not in your own way. you just need to say to yourdelf, that "hay, i can be just a happy, or peppy or as pretty, and i am" you need to know that you are, and show it.
xoxo,melissa-bt4t
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oh god i hate this so much im going into high school soon and none of my friends are there. and summer school was stupid because i dont fit in with these ppl. it took me so long to make friends that actually care about me and i have better friendships than most ppl can have in their whole life. but i have no one to help me because now i feel like every girl is really girly and im not. they make me feel like a guy. and i dont know but im starting to want to dress like a guy and not like a tomboy but like i just hate being a girl. i just dont get it i hate this school and i want my friends back and i still want to transfer schools for like next year even though people say it will get better. i dont want to change i like my life fine the way it is. i just want my best friend back. hes the only one who understands me and i love him so much... (link)
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you shouldnt have to fit in, be who ever you want to be. alot of guys like tomboy girls, the feel closer, and who knows, once you get alot of guy friends, alot of girls might get jelous, now isnt that better.pissing off alot of pretty little diva girls.
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I have this friend that i love to death but i keep alot of stuff from her. I keep stuff & lie to her sometimes because i feel that she judges me based on what i decide to do in my life.
i lost my virginity to a guy that she hated. At first i didnt tell her that i had sex with him but then i broke down at work and started crying because i was really stressed out because i thought i was pregnant. When i told her that she looked at me and told me i shouldn't have had sex with him and that i am stupid for doing it.
Another night i was hanging out with another guy friend and i was drinking with him and i ended up messing around with him ( we did not have sex ). but we ended up getting in a fight and never talked anymore. And she told me i shouldnt be drinking with guys because they can take advantage of me and so fourth.
a couple of days ago i asked her if she knew guy named ______ and shes like yes and you don't need to get envovled with him hes worse then _____ ( the guy i had sex with) and he got in alot of trouble with the police in high school. After she yelled all of that trash to my face she then asks me how i know him and why i asked her if she knew him. I gave her a spirk and she told me to stay away from him. But then i went and asked my other friend if she knew him and she said that he is one of the nicest guys she has ever met in her life.
Im really sick of her judging me about how i talk about guys or what guy i get invovled with or what i do with them on my time. Yea maybe she is making sure i don't hurt myself but when she ask me why i asked about him after she yelled at me im not goin to tell her i think hes an awesome person and i reallly want to get to know him..
i know i dont really have a question and im kinda rambling but what can i do to get her to stay off my case and quit judging me im tired of it im my own person and i do what i want..... (link)
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you are absolutly right. you really should tell her to just "but out" sometimes.if she is such a good friend she should try helping you,and understand your situations more, rather than make you feel worse or put you down.sure, she may not like you for a while for telling her, but she needs to hear it.(you know,... tough love)
xoxo, melissa-bt4t
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dear Melbt4t,
My two Best Friends used to do EVERYTHING togather. But now, since they had a huge fight and thier friendship is over, I feel like I always have to choose between the two. it is like if i hang out with one friend,then the other one will hate me!there's no way im going to choose one over the other! what should I do about this? (link)
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Dear Divided Between Friends,
There is no reason for you to choose between your closest friends. The best thing to do in this situation is to use communication. The first step, is Talking to your friends, “Together”; even though they may not like it, you have to tell them how you feel, and why. The next step, is finding a solution. “Together,” figure out ways that you can hang out with both of your friends; how they can be more understanding. Who knows, maybe some day you ALL will be best friends again, but for now, the most important thing in ANY relationship is to communicate with each other.
Xoxo, Mel
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