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I just made a new friend from volleyball at school, my best friend is jealous because now i also hang out with my new friend. she says i ignore her but never do...sometime it feels like she's the one ignoring me like shes mad at me. We even had a fight just yesterday but i dont think the problem is solved because she still acts different around me.
Its like She can have other friends but i cant
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Your friend things that you gonna spend more time with the girl cause yall have a sport that you both like to do. Your firned is probabyly going through the state of mind saying: Firstvolleyball then the movies then shes gonnaforget all about me. You need to tell her that she's your best friend for a reason and that you and her will always come first.
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There's this boy that I've known ever since 5th grade (we are in 9th grade) we are very close besides the fact that I NEVER SPENT TIME WITH HIM BESIDES SCHOOL!!! Yea we would talk on the phone, text and stuff but, I would LOVE to go somewhere with him one day but there are 2 problems:
1.) I am afraid that if I am alone with him, he might put the moves on me and we might have sex! (Only a kiss will do)
2.) I am afraid that if I go to the movies with him or something, that he might try and play me by taking me somewhere far, leaving me alone or embarrassing me.
What can I do to overcome my shyness and how do I explain to him that I am shy?
P.S. I gave him some excuses! I don't want to seem like a liar or that I don't want to be with him because I DO! it would be like a DATE or something.. My FIRST date! (link)
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Date- when two couples go out. If yall are friends it would considered chillin together but if yall are a couple then its a date. Now if a kiss is the only thing it takes before he gets in them pants then something wrong. You need to learn how to control your hormones andbody but thats of topic. Now if he tells you that he is not going to do anything you gonna have to trust him. Just tell him that your a shy girl and that you dont wanna think nuttin more but friends going to the movies. Then if he tries to kiss you just tell him no. and keep doing that If you can control yourself and if you know your boundaries everything should be ok.
Hoped i helped atleast alittle.
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okay,so there's this guy that I like, and I really want him to notice me,but I'm not sure how to do that without making it obvious you know?Please please help give me some ideas! (link)
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i mean da most you could do is be yourself because if you look for a guy then he may not be the one for you. YOu should let the guys come to you, but if you want some tips then here it goes: HAve a very cute outfit. im talkin bout a nice short skirt with a cute spaghetti shirt with a nice jean jacket and some shoes. Then if u see one of ur friends talkin to him try to have your friend help you slip in the conversation. Make the conversation about something he know and you know. For example he may have done good on a test that you didnt or vice versa. Talk about that and say that you need a tutor or you'll be gladto tutor. if that doesnt work then just try to casually bump into him adn make a fit about sumthin. then yall sjhould start talking.
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ok, well theres this girl im not friends with anymore. her name is kelsey. last night i was with a guy who im not going out with but its almost like i am. kelsey and me arent friends anymore because of a stupid fight we had in march. its really stupid so i wont explain. so just to spite her, when i was with steve (the guy) and he had me pushed against a wall and then i started making out with him. im almost sure that she saw because she was the only one other than us in that hall and she walked right by us. i thought it was really funny last night at the dance but now i have a weird feeling about it. she might tell her mom that i was acting like a slut, and im afraid that her mom would tell my dad. i kind of regret this... my question is... how should i handel this all...? what if my parents do find out... i need some sort of explaination... or answer (link)
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I don't think she would that and if she does then that just means she's jealous. I think wat you did was nice. Just handle it as if nothing ever happened. If shestoops that low then something is really wrong with her. If your parents find just say that it the kiss was an accident and that they guy you met isreal nice. Try to make seem like you found someone that makes you happy and isn't that what should be more important and that your ot havingsex like other people.
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my best friend is a guy. he has been going out with a girl in our group of friends (who i can't stand) for about a month. whenever she isn't around, he is goofy and talkative and fun. but when she is there..it's like i'm invisible. he'll answer whatever i say to him with a short answer..but he'll never say anything to me besides that. after a meeting for our dance (we are both on the committee..along with his gf) i tripped him as he was going out the door. usually he would grin and say something clever..but he just kept walking and didn't say a word. i was talking to my friend about it and i decided i would just go along with it while we were waiting for our rides and see what he does. so we just stood there and talked..like right next to him. i didn't say a word to him. once she left, he came over to talk to me. i didn't want to be mean, so i would answer him..and eventually i was talking. i want to talk to him about it..but i don't want to make it seem like i'm jealous..even though i pretty much am. i just don't see why i have to be completely invisible. what should i do? (link)
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The reason the guy is acting like that is because he doesn't want to play arpund with you alot and have his girlfriend think she's cheating on him. If he does they the things you want him to do then he's afraid his girl would be like i can't believe you so he thinks maybe when sh'es around i wont talk to you that much until she leaves. Also, the way he acts around yall, he might think thats not the way he should acts around his gurl. Its all about showing the true you something he shouldn't be scared to show.
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My best friend and i have known each other since 3rd grade but now she is HORRIBLE! She tells her other friends that she hates me and says mean things about me to other people! At scholl she ignores me and she is rarely nice to me! She is not as loyal and truthfull and just nice as she was! I need help! Also we have each others secrets! Please no smart ass comments! thanks
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Well its simple shes changed and she aint da gurl she used to be. The easiest thing to do is forget her and just stay to yourself. I mean if she acting like that den she must of not been a good friend to start out with.
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ok i have a really close guy friend that i like a lot. and he likes me to and he is always telling how he wants me to be his girlfriend and that he wants to be with me except we wont hook up until we find a way so that we could see each other more often.(he lives 20 minutes away) but anways most of the time when i call him he says i am going to call you back and he NEVER calls back.. what should i think of this? should talk to him and be4 he says anythin be like "if you dont want to talk to me all you have to do is say so" can so one please tell me what to do. i dont want to hurt i just want to know he never calls back. (link)
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Well dat happens alot and you shouldnt take anything by it, but if it bothers youda most just ask him. There's ever anything wrong in asking why. if he likes you dat much he would understand that your hurting.
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ok so my guy friend lives around the block. directly behind me. so i just hop the wall and go through his back yard and im at his house lol..well ive had feelings for him FOREVER. and last time we hung out...he later told me he thought about kissing me...when he said that i didnt want him to know i liked him cause i had a bf at the time so i was like um ew kyle..thats gross. but now we havent really hung out for a while..and i hope he still likes me. hes always busy hanging out with his friend..who happens to be a girl.he NEVER IMs me anymore, i always IM him now. whenever i ask him to hangout..he says umm...maybe. i might hangout with my friend..but ill let u know after i call her. he used to always ask me to hangout..ive already asked him if hes mad at me..hes like no not at all..so i donno whats going on..advice? (link)
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With guys its not easy to open them up. You wanna know if he likes you without puttin yourself out dere. You messed wen you told him dat kiss was gross instead you should have said you kno i would like to cause i like you alot but dat wouldn't be rite to my boyfriend. Den he should see dat you care in a relationship and dat makes him want you more. The reason he hangs out with another gurl is because he really wants you. wat you should do is apologize and tell him how you really feel. and if he doesnt feel da same way it wasn't met to be. he prolly wanted more out da friendship and realized he wasn't gettin anywhere so he stopped.
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