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So there's this guy I like and he sits next to me and my best friend in almost every lesson. Sometimes we don't talk but sometimes we act really friendly. We don't flirt or anything because I'm too shy and sometimes it would be awkward if we did because he's one of my best friends in class. But last week I started to like him a lot. But I don't really know what I want. Sometimes I feel like I'm too close to like him in the way I do and sometimes I think he likes my best friend. I haven't told anyone about this because I'm too shy and I know that my friends would make fun of me and tell him. I really don't know what to do so please help. He's not too good looking but I don't like him for his looks because he's really lovely. Please help xx

First of all, I think it's great you don't like him for his looks! It's very healthy, and mature to look past someone's looks to who they are on the inside. Another note is, if you can't tell your friend a secret that puts you into a vulnerable position, then you have to accept that there are gonna be a lot of things you won't be able to share with your best friend, if she's not willing to take it seriously. How we share things, is how we bond. So make sure your aware of where you stand on sharing things with her.

The next solution is don't make any decisions until you know what you want. You wrote you really like him. Enough to date him? If so then you have to be honest with him. Find a moment to tell him how you feel.

The worst he can do is say he doesn't feel the same way, which is okay, because that means there's something better out there, and you have to let it go with kindness and understanding. No matter which way you look at this it's a growing experience.

If you're not ready for dating anyone, and you just want to express your feelings then that totally okay too!

There are tons of ways of expressing how you feel without everyone having to know your business. One of the ways is write then down on a piece of paper at home, and rip it up. Write a letter you'll never send, or draw, paint, sing, even put a song that reminds you of him and dance to it. Put a song that helps you let go, and move on and dance to that. Know that you're the most important person in you're life right now, because you are.

You're entitled to your feelings, especially when you have some privacy. But don't do anything until your absolutely ready! I think above all you need to figure out what you want.

Can you see yourself dating him? Do you want to date at all? Do you like being single, and just being with yourself for now? Do you like him enough to be honest about your feeling and overcome your shyness for him?

It's all up to you. You're in control of what you choose to do, so take your time. No matter what happens it's all gonna work out!

Best Wishes & Good Luck!!!

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My Bestfriend is also my crush. We've gone to school together since elementary. In 6th grade he asked me out and I said yes. A couple weeks after i broke up with him because i wasnt ready for a relationship. Now in 8th grade, Im starting to have really deep feelings for him. He knows I like him but he doesn't feel the same way. What should I do? Should I wait for him? I'm 13 year old Girl and in 8th Grade. He's A Boy, 14, and in 8th also.

When things are meant to happen, they simply happen. It's one of the hardest lessons one has to learn. Unfortunately, if he doesn't feel the same way then there's not much you can do to change his mind. If you're meant to be with one another it will happen, but for now, as hard as it may be, you just have to let it go. You also have to realize if he doesn't like you then he doesn't know what he's missing. He's missing out on an amazing young woman, who is worth loving, and if he can't see that then he's not worth it. You have a lot of years a head to find someone who appreciates you for who you are. You won't have to wait for them, it will just happen.

So for now... i would say focus on being yourself, and truly realize how wonderful you are. Maybe he will see it then, but you can't force anything to happen, or anyone to like you, and you shouldn't wait around, because your a.) to cool to do that and b.) have too much self respect for that. One day a guy will see it, whether it will be him, or someone else even more special then him, and then letting things go, and letting fate do it's thing will seem so much more worth it, then waiting around for a boy who can't see that you're a diamond among pebbles.

Good Luck & Best Wishes!!!

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