What are some good sleepover ideas for 13 year olds?
Okay I'm not sure if this is for girls or for boys, but my God daughter is 13 and these are just things that she enjoys with her friends.
If you go out to Wal-Mart, K-Mart, etc. they have these cheap makeup packets you can buy and have the girls do make overs on each other. They can paint each other nails, put on lip-gloss, and draw on each other with things that will wash off easily in the shower and things like that.
Another must is music and movies. What type of music do they like? My God Daughter LOVES Justin Bebier, One Direction, and Big Time Rush. Download them, or even just have YouTube handy and let them sing along and dance around to their hearts content.
With movies, make sure you pick up enough popcorn for everybody. My God Daughter has a thing for Josh Hutcherson now, and it used to be Zac Efron. Find out who they are crushing on and have a movie get together with sleeping bags in the living room and on the couch and let them giggle and laugh over how "cute" they are. If your 13-year-old hasn’t quite hit that “he is cute” stage yet then find other movies or music that she really enjoys and can laugh at with her friends.
Another thing is games. Play charades, cards, and board games. I know that sounds old school, but trust me they still work! Even video games, if you have a Wii/Xbox there are TONS of games that even girls like to play such as the beauty shop make over and dance games.
Also, maybe even baking. Deeping on how many girls there are let them bake a cake or some cookies and let them veg out while watching a movie. If you’re not keen on the sweets have them help with dinner, unless you opt for some pizza, which is always good for hungry teenagers.
If they are boys I'd say definitely video games, and movies are still a go as well as the food. Obviously, the makeup and dancing are probably out of the question, but board games and imagination can still go a very long way with 13-year-old boys too.
I hope this was somewhat helpful. :)
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I had a Friend who was one of my best friends. In fact he was more like the little brother I never had.
About a month or so ago, he got back with his ex, who had cheated on him in the past. He said at the time, he felt like he was making a huge mistake, but he loved and missed her and she felt the same. I said as long as he was happy, I was happy.
Anyway, she recently kicked off at him about us being friends and he explained to her we are only mates and we have a brother/sister relationship. Bearing in mind He's 19, I'm 24 and I am actually engaged to my partner of 6 years and I love him.
There has never been anything more than that between us and never will be, we were just very close. Anyway she was fine with it after he'd explained.
She then kicked off about a week ago again, and sent me a message on facebook pretending to be him, saying don't ever speak to me again.
When I questioned him about it, he said he was sorry, but he couldn't speak to me ever again as he needed to save his relationship. I was absolutely devastated.
I then got a message off his girlfriend, saying she didn't appreciate our relationship as we "flirt" too much. Her interpretation of flirting is a few messages from me saying "hiya sweetheart are you having a good day?" or "have a good day babe"
We've always spoke to eac hother like that by the way.
She went on to explain that she dosen't like the manner in which we speak in and feels it's not acceptable for us to speak that way. I said to her she is obviously insecure because I have a partner of 6 years and I love him. There is absolutely no reason for her to think otherwise.
Anyway my friend said they had argued about it and now as a result he's cut all contact with me. She's told me never to speak to him again and she says that he says the same. She said she feels better now nobody is going to call "HER boyfriend" sweetheart.
I think it's absolutely ridicilous and I haven't stopped crying for days. Not only have I lost one of my best friends, I've also lost someone who was like my brother.
I'm so angry, hurt and upset because I know she's made him choose between us, and while I wouldn't have wanted him to choose her over me, I wish he would have valued me as a friend and told her straight that she is being ridicilous. It shouldn't have even come to this, there's never been anything more between us. I'm absolutely heartbroke, but I've respected what he's said and not contacted him, but I did message him saying that I'll always be here.
His girlfriend is obviously very jealous and insecure.
I just don't know how to deal with this. I know I can't do anything but she is controlling him and it breaks my heart.
When I apologised to her during our conversation for her being upset, she said fair enough, I know there's nothing going on between you. So why was there still an issue here?
He's blocked me on everything by the way.
First, I'd like to say I'm so sorry to hear this situation has happened to you and your best friend. My response is not going to be short, I’m sorry.
In my personal opinion and experience, it can be EXTREMELY difficult to have a platonic relationship with the opposite sex and have romantic relationships outside of them. To be honest it has been a struggle for me in the past so I feel I can see both sides of this.
I was homeschooled for a while I was very, very sheltered and really didn't have a lot of interaction with kids my own age until the middle of high school and then college and a job. Whenever I first started becoming more sociable in high school I thought everyone was my friend, but of course high school is high school and it always ended up being either the guy liked me and i didn't feel the same way or i liked the guy and he didn't feel the same. I struggled with it.
To make matters worse every relationship I've been in (except for my last one) I was cheated on. Therefore, I can understand the very insecure part that your best friend’s girlfriend may be going through. It's heart wrenching when you don't like yourself at all and you feel like you don't deserve the guy you are with because you are constantly comparing yourself to other girls that maybe getting his attention. Someone in her shoes feels so little about themselves, sometimes so little that it can be dangerous to her own well-being.
HOWEVER, I had to learn that just because I was in an abusive relationship in the past and been in relationships where I have been cheated on DOES NOT mean that EVERY guy is just like them. I also had to learn that it is possible to have guys who are seriously just like brothers to you, which I now have a few of and don't know what I'd do without them. They are awesome and we all know where we stand. It's truly just pals being there for each other when needed and hanging out. I unfortunately had to learn the hard way, and by that, I mean I lost my last boyfriend who did not cheat on me to MY jealousy and insecurities. Surprisingly enough because of that break up was how I found my first best guy friend.
With all of that said, now that I know better and realize I am an adult and the people I have relationships with are adults as well, I don't have to always be afraid that my high school years will come back to haunt me.
What I'm trying to say is, you are right, and in my opinion, this girl is in the wrong, but I see where she's coming from and I feel incredibly sorry for her. It's something she is obviously struggling with and I wouldn't wish that struggle on anyone. Eventually if she can't cut this out and stop trying to control every single person that your best friend and her boyfriend talks to, eventually she WILL lose him. He will realize he has had enough and won't be able to stand not being himself or being with people who really care about him. No matter how much he may care for her if she can't allow him to be himself and has this "tight leash" if you will on who he can see and talk to, eventually it will get tiring. She can't stop him from talking to people (including the opposite sex) forever.
That's why they have those silly clichés about how important trust and communication is in a relationship. As well as why it's SO important to love yourself before you can expect someone else to love you.
With all of this in mind, the best thing I feel I can suggest to you is to try to wait it out. You have completely put yourself out there. You have apologize to both of them (even though you didn't do anything wrong, but you were being the bigger person which is fantastic), you tried to talk to both of them about the situations and to reassure them both about how innocent your friendship is, and you let your little brother/best friend know you will always be there for him.
I truly don't feel you could have handled that any better than you already did, Hun. You said he has blocked you in every way, which is so unfortunate, but at this point the best thing I feel I can tell you is to, again, wait it out.
He will realize that it is going to get strenuous to be under so much pressure from someone. I'm so embarrassed to say I've made a guy feel like that too (the difference was the guy I was with admitted to having a crush on this girl but said it was platonic which is the worst thing you can say to your girlfriend who has self-esteem problems.) Again, he probably will just get sick of her flipping out and getting so angry and upset by every person he talks to.
I've seen it many, many times. Not just me personally but from friends and friends of friends.
You have done everything right that you can. IF you do ever get the opportunity again to talk to him, I'd try to find a way to talk where his girlfriend is not going to see everything. Just simply say, "I know that you feel you are doing what is best for your relationship. I get that, and I completely respect you and how you feel you need to handle this. I would just like to let you know you have felt like family to me, I miss you like a brother, and I truly care about your well-being. If you feel you get to a place in your relationship where we can be friends again just know I will be here with open arms."
Once you've said your peace hopefully, he will realize how great of a friend and person you are even more than he already knew before, and will come around. If not, hopefully when things do fall apart, and believe me if his girlfriend keeps this up it will, then hopefully he'll know that you will be there to catch him when he falls and can learn from this situation. Also, pray that his girlfriend can learn from this too. I know what she is doing is so aggravating, trust me, but this poor girl must be going through an awful lot and feel so low about herself to be causing this much turmoil to keep him away from you. Try to forgive and not be angry, feel sorry for her and wish her that best that she will learn to love herself and to trust so she can have happy and healthy relationships.
I hope you and your friend reunite soon. It really is a tough situation. I hope I could help give some sort of different perspective in a way that is somewhat comforting.
Try to hang in there, continue to do the best you can to be patient. Know you are a good person and great friend, and he will come around and you will be the one to help him get back on his feet. Good luck!
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