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i really like this kid, like alot. my friend tom said that hes gonna ask me out, but he doesnt know when. i really wanna go out with him, but everyone hates him and they say hes wierd and stuff. but i dont know, if he asks me out should i go out with him?

People probably don't understand him very well. If so, they probably hate him for the sole reason that he's different than other people. Or....they may want him for themselves (if other girls have said that).

I think you should go out with him since you obviously said that you like him. Other people's opinions (especially non-best friends opinions) don't really matter in the situation.

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Alright, well.

Me and this girl recently met and we became like, instant best friends. She calls me whenever she needs me, I call her whenever i need her, so on and so forth. And we have a cool time together whenever we hang out and she lets me know I'm her best friend.

But whenever we're hanging out with 1+ people, I know it sounds sort of selfish, but I feel ignored. I'm not an attention whore or anything, but I'd still want SOME acknowledgement from my best friend that I'm alive, you know? I don't know if it's cause me and her hang out so much it's like a breath of fresh air or what, but I've tried limiting space for a week or so now and we finally hung out tonight, and it still happened. I had to tell her three times I was leaving cause her and our friend were talkign to eachother. I just feel unimportant and unacknowledge whenever we all hang out together, so I just wonder, why bother inviting me to hang out with the two of you at all, you know?


What would you do if you were in my shoes?
Like I know I could try talking to her, but is there anything else?

Get in the conversation. Your friend wants you to hang out with her and her friends, so join in on the festivities. Friends chat indepentantly for random amounts of time, so it a converstation with a group of friends, not everyone can be speaking or being spoke to at the same time. If your friend does this quite often on a regular basis like she'll talk with her friend the entire time there, then next time in private you could say something about it. You can always chime in in the conversation though about whatever topic that might be being talked about. If you do say something about it to her, try not to say it in a way that she'll probably take it as you're an attention whore or that it might affect whether or not you hangout with her and her friend(s).

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im a sophomore... soo this guy who i met last year and talked to him sometimes during school... well i ran into him a few times sometime after school started back this year, and after a little bit he started runnin outta class to see me in the halls, would come by my locker after school to talk to me and walk with me to the bus, and call me every night sometimes numerous times if i didnt answer, for like at least a month straight. i was never mean to him i was always nice and stuff but all of a sudden he quit callin, quit comin to talk to me, and is giving me the cold shoulder. he'll walk right by my locker without even looking at me, and the other day when he passed me i walked up behind him and tapped him on the shoulder to say hey and happy birthday and he was just like 'what!?' when i tapped him.. so i was like well fine then i was just gonna say happy birthday... and he still didnt say anything else so i walked on. whats up with this?

dont say talk to him because obviously he's not talking to me haha and we werent really good friends to begin with anyway so honestly i really dont care but im jw what that behaviors about.

and also i dont have feelings for him at all incase youre wondering.

It sounds like to me either:

A) Something happened to him personally and he's just trying to cope with it. Some people from a death or something among those lines actually become an introvert (shy/reserved) when trying to come to terms with things. Wait a month or so and see if his behavior changes.

or

B) He had feelings for you, but he realized that you weren't interested so he took it kinda personally. This is a guess at least from what you said. Usually, if I like someone I do the exact same things that he was doing with you at the time. If he's a "nerdy" guy like me, that's his way of saying he likes you. However, yes I took in the other things you said into account as well.

Hope this somewhat helps.

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