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Q: my best friend lies to me allllll the time. about probably everything. i never know what to even believe anymore. like nothing huge, but just small stuff. like i'll ask her what she did tonight, & she'll be like oh i went to the movies with my sister. & really it was her other friend. & i don't know why she lies about this? i dont care if she went there with other people? i hang out with other people too, ha? i confronted her about it, and she said she wouldn't do it again. but obviously she still is. what do i do? i don't even know if i should bother being friends with her.. i kinda feel like shes holding me back.. nobody really likes her.
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Friends don't really lie to each other.
It's one thing to tell white lies every once in a while to maybe avoid hurting their feelings but lieing about what you did that night is rediculous. It's not something that your bestfriend should do.
You don't just want to sit there and wonder if she's really telling you the truth.
You should sit her down and talk to her about it one last time and if it doesn't change, she's not worth having for a friend.
Say "You're my bestfriend and everything. But you lie about everything! You don't understand the concept that I don't care if you hangout with other people. You don't have to LIE about it. I want to be able to believe what you say, not wonder if you're really telling me the truth."
She should understand :)
Hope I helped.
Feel free to ask further questions to my personal inbox or update me on anything that happens :)
-Kayla
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Q: me and my friend got to know eachother in myspace and known eachother for 3 weeks we've been talking to eachother on online a lot and she said"it feels like we've known longer even though we met 3 weeks ago" but in person its kind of different cause theres some awkwardness when we talk in class what does she mean? and have you ever felt that way?
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Well,
of course it's going to be awkward because you barely know anything about each other.
I mean, you may know things about each other but you barely know each other's personalities.
That's most likely what's causing it to be weird.
If you hangout more often and talk more, it will gradually begin to start less awkward and maybe become a really strong friendship.
Who knows?
You'll never know until you try :D
And yes, I know exactly what you mean. I've been there. It goes away, trust me.
Feel free to ask me further questions or update me on how everything goes for you.
-Kayla
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Q:
Let's just say "Sally" and "Bob"..
Well Sally has a boyfriend and her boyfriend don't like me.. Well over the days.. he told Sally that i texted him saying "im bored" and "Your hot"!
and Sally just texted me out of no where "I FREAKING HATE YOU!!!!" and that i need to leave her and her boyfriend alone! and i dont even know what i did untell a little birdy told me today that he told her that i texted him that stuff! so now she is mad at me and the little birdy asked her if she was mad at me because i didnt do it and she said "yeah because Bob would never lie to me and make me sad" and blah blah blah! so i dont know anymore!
It's like...
Just because you (Bob) don't like me,, that doesnt mean that me and Sally can not be friends.. so he just wants us to fight and not to be friends i guess.. because Supposebly i like him! HAHAHA NOOOTTTT!!! and i tried to tell her that i never texted him and that i don't like him but she believes her boyfriend! so whatever.. she thought that he wouldn't lie to her.. well he just did! and if i did text him then he would know my number (BUT HE DON'T) haha!
And i would NEVER hurt her because she "was" my friend and i don't even like her boyfriend and i never will.. but i guess she don't believe me..
so now she is saying that i'm not a true friend and that she should of known before that i was not a true friend and blah blah blah!
And Sally was one of my best friends but i dont know what to do because i've tried to tell her that i didnt do it!
what do i do??
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Aw,
well it seems to me that she really doesn't know what a true friend is.
Is this her first boyfriend? Because if it is, she may have just got caught up in having a boyfriend.
The honest truth is.. chances are they're not going to be together forever. And she'll realize what she's lost. Her best friend.
Maybe you should try calling Sally and telling her that you hate fighting with her and ask her to please listen to what you have to say. Explain to her that you never texted Bob and that you would never do that to your bestfriend and if she was ever your bestfriend, she will believe YOU. Not some boy.
I really hope everything works out okay. I'm sorry that your friend doesn't know what she's missed. She will soon , hopefully :D
Feel free to ask any further questions or update me on how it goes.
Good luck.
-Kayla
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Q: 14/F Sorry this might be a little long.
So there's this girl who's been at our school for awhile now maybe a month or two let's call her L... there's been two new girls after her, so she's not really the new girl anymore... So my friend, let's call her E, has been friends with her for awhile (L was at a school with a bunch of people from our school, so it's not like she doesn't know ANYONE), so she hangs out with us.
I kind of liked L at first, but now she's getting on my and my other friends nerves. She's sort of clingy to us, and she kind of doesn't shut up. She talks about weird things, like how she talks to ghosts and how much she loves her little brother and how much she loves bologna...etc.
Now, I'm not a mean person at all. I'm always really nice to her and I talk to her and stuff, but she seems to ignore me a lot, and she doesn't even know my name still. And no, I'm not exaggerating that, she really doesn't know my name, or any of my other friend's names (except for E). She's also really mean to my some of my guy friends, and two of my girl friends in particular. With my guy friends, she doesn't let them sit at our lunch table and yells at them and calls them creeps. With my 2 girls friends, she picks at their interests/disinterests and is always yelling at them and being a bitch to them
So yes, I know there's really nothing I can do about it. And yes, I also know I might sound like I'm being judgmental, but I'm trying really hard not to be. I always give people chances and I'm really nice to people, but she seems to be passing up every chance I give her, and she's mean to me, so that's not fair.
What I'm asking is, how am I supposed to tell E that no one is really warming up to her? I know E is allowed to be friends with whomever she wants, but I can never, EVER be around E alone or talk to her privately without L crowding around us. E is totally oblivious to her behavior. So I need help on what to do! Thank you so much!
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Hm. Seems like a pretty tough situation to me.
The best thing I can advise you to do is to arrange a day for you and E to hangout ALONE and go to the movies, go shopping, or just hangout at yours/hers house, doesn't matter. And calmy and as nicely as possible, suggest subtly that all of your friends are telling you that L is rude and disrespectful to them. If E starts acting irritated, make sure you add that you don't mind if E is friends with her and you're not being jealous or anything. Tell her it's just an observation.
If she gets angry at you, tell her you're not trying to be mean and control who she hangs out with. You're just simply telling her like it is. And if she still doesn't understand after that, then idk. She's probably not a true friend, as much as I'd hate to admit that. :/
Any true friend would accept yours AND your friends criticism without getting angry or irritated.
Please feel free to ask me further questions or update how the situation goes.
I'd love to hear back from you :D
-Kayla
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My name is Kayla.
I'm 17 years old.
I'm open about anything and everything so feel free to ask whatever you want :D
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Website: E-mail: Gender: Female Location: La Porte, Texas Occupation: High School Student Age: 17 AIM: Member Since: February 1, 2009 Answers: 20 Last Update: February 12, 2009 Visitors: 2198
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