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Hi, it's my 15th birthday coming up soon, and I want to do something really good, like have a big party or something. The problem is, I want to invite all my friends (which span over a WIDE area - i have friends from loads of schools), but they don't all know each other, and some don't get along that well. Also, my best friend is a year younger and at a different school, but absolutely NONE of my other friends know her. I really want to invite all of them but I don't think they'll all enjoy it - especially my best friend as the only person she'll know is me. What shall I do? (link)
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You could tell your younger friend that she can invite a friend to come with her. So she can have someone to hang out and you can meet someone new. She won't feel lonely and you can roam around and say hi to everyone else without feeling bad.
Hope it helps
Ithielden
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The man I'm about to tell you about is a friend that's married. We were co-employees in the same building. Our relationship started out from insults, literially! He's 6'7" and I'm 5'2" so you can imagine the short and tall insults we through at one another. The insults turned into jokes and jokes changed into long conversations as we appeared to be on the same level in so many things. The conversations turned into unexplained feelings that couldn't be denied by either but we were friends and he got engaged.
He's now married (about 2 months)but still wants to keep our friendship knowing there are underlying feelings that neither of us seem to have a firm grip on. We tell ourselves that we can be friends but who's kidding who? He got genuine feelings for me and I know this! We've talked about it but he's decided to let these feelings, out of nowhere, take him wherever they might lead! He's (we've) had these feelings before he got married and at first I thought it was going to be okay, but it seems they've gotten strong since then.
I've tried to put him out of my mind by substituting him with work, other friends and family but it doesn't help when he calls just wanting to talk or ask me to meet him. Nothing's happened between us physically but I'm feelings that's only a matter of time as there's a lot of chemistry and sexual tension between us whenever we're together. I've always prided myself in not getting involved with married men but in this case we're a little different since we started out unattracted to one another and it's grown into feelings that won't seem to go away for either of us. He's tried, or so he's says, not to think about me and concentrate on his marriage, but he can only for a few days before he calls me. I can't explain what I feel for him in words as I've never felt this way for anyone! I've always been able to turn my feelings off and on when it came to men as my first and only love saw to that. My girlfriend thinks we're falling in love (the real thing) with one another. Our relationship has grown over the past 2 years but I don't know if I can control what might happen between us. He's the first to make me feel anxious. The first man I've longed to be with in over 20 years. I've only been in love once in my life but this feels so different! He invades my dreams, for God's sake!
I need someone to put this in prospective for me. Confirm that it's wrong to feel this way about a married man, especially when I can't act upon those feelings. Is this really love or are we all a victim of circumstance? How can you be married to one but have strong feelings for another? Okay, there's much more to this story but this is the jest of it. Is there someone out there that can help? This time it's the advisor that's needs the help . . . . how ironic???? (link)
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Be careful before you do anything because this 'feeling' may either ruin or make your friends better. I would think about three people in this situation. The wife, your friend and yourself. Balance out the problem and think what would happen to all of you if someting 'did' happen and then think what would happen to all of you if something didn't.
Hope it helps a bit
Ithielden
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