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Im Melanie. 16 Years old. Junior at My High School. Im good at giving advice. Very good! I will help you out, and tell you all I know, Im not always right, no one is. But ill tell you what I think, and the truth. I wont put it in nice terms ill say it as it is...........
So about me Some more-
I love to laugh, and I think laughing makes everything better. I like helping people, and seeing them smile.Im very opinated. I love shopping. Im very Blunt. I text a little to much. I am like the worst at spelling. I like to be tan all year long. I wont go anywhare without my sunglasses. Im all Italian! There so much more you can find out about me, so just ask and I'll tell you.

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My friend moved this year to a big new school far away. Now we feel like we are losing her. She's changed. She tells me how shes been getting drunk and stuff. She always brags about her friends. She's listnening to bad music. We were on her top friends list on myspace for the first day now we are at the bottom. Now, when we talk it's like two sentences and we stop talking. Shes 14. What can we do to get our relationship going again?btw 13/f

Your friend could be getting drunk and listening to bad music, just to fit in. To be accepted. To be cool. People do some crazy things, just so others will like them.
Its hard when you move and you need to start all over by making friends. yeah she had you as a friend, and still does. But the fact that she lives and go to school somewhare else and socializes with different people plays a big part in this whole thing. It will take time for her to relize what she is doing and how she is acting.
Just talk to her and be like, I just don't want you to forget whare you came from. And who your true friends are. Tell her that you feel you guys arent as close as you were before. And your willing to accept the fact that she changed but your not willing to accept the fact that she's slowy pushing you away. Tell her about all the good times you guys had together and all the great memories you share. She will come around don't worry. Tell her your always going to be her friend, no matter what. You gotta give it time. Just talk it out. Things will get better.

Hope I helped you

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my friend Leo has a huged crush on Ana, but she doesnt like him in that way. she loves him as a brother and so do i. the whole time he was getting all hot and bothered because he told me that he was getting that way cause he was looking at Ana (all she was is staying in line, at the book store) i dont know why he was getting all hot about it. Ana notice it and she was getting grossed out about it. i understood it but what is his deal. does he want her sex and/or minnd? i know men can have feelings for a girl but they can live it in his pants. honstley what is his deal?!
he even told me he likes me too. he never changed he was like this ever sents i knew him.

Maybe he does really like you both, and now is going to show you how strong his feeling ours, explain that you guys are just friends and you only see him as a brother to you, nothing more. He should understand, but if you do try to make it work with him between you or your friend, just rember to tell him that whatever happens you still wanna be as close to him as you were befor going out, you know remaining friends. Well I hope this helped
-----Melanie

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I found out my best friend and my boyfriend have been hanging out one-on-one. It upset me, I really love him, but I know how my best friend is with guys and that just worries me.
My boyfriend and I got into a big fight about it, and my best friend promised it wouldn't happen again. But then, they hung out again tonight. I'm not sure what else to do, they know it bothers me. They're aren't doing anything, I mean she has a boyfriend, but I'm uncomfortable with them hanging out without me there.

She is your best friend the last thing she wants to do is hurt you, talk to her again, explain that is bothers you and then you will see she will stop. You also neeed to talk to your boyfriend again and tell him your uncofortable about the whole situation.. if he loves you he will stop... and if you talk to both of them and neither will stop seeing each other one on one then just totaly for get the whole thing because you do not need to be stressed over this..But I hope things work out with you 3
-----Melanie

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So last year in an extracurricular, I met this girl named Paige. We instantly became best friends. We shared everything and her family accepted me like one of their own daughters.

This year, Paige has a boyfriend, Joey. Joey and I don't get along...at all. She, more and more, has chosen him over me. Like, at lunch, I'll go to talk to her and she'll be talking to him, and then won't talk to me.

I am realtively popular, so I have other friends, but this is the first person that I talked about boys with. The first person I really met in high school. (We're sophomores now, both 15.)

I basically told her all of this, and we had a conversation last night about not making enemies and why I won't be mean to her enemies (They aren't my problem and I don't want drama.), and she told her boyfriend everything. I assumed that everything that I've told her was in confidence, and it had been until now.

She has changed. I am taking her on vacation with me this weekend to San Diego, and since she won't be with her boyfriend, I assume that we will get along well, but I don't know if I should just leave her alone and wait for them to break up, (though they've been dating a year this August) or put extra effort into this friendship.

I made her a notebook and it's gorgeous and it's for us to write notes in, and I've written to her, and she hasn't been writing back.

I generally get along with people's parents, and I talk to her mom now instead of her on AIM and stuff. It's going to be awkward tonight.

Is she trying to hint that she doesn't want to be friends anymore? Am I overreacting?

Thanks.

I can relate to this a whole lot because I was in the same situation, You need to relize something, a FRIEND is someone who will always be there for you no matter what, yeah, you will fight but in the end its all good. If she is your bestfriend she will always be there for you, Maby not right now but you will see, it will be like old times. She is wrong to put a boy befor your friendship, because guys come and go, but friendships can last life times. Your not overreacting at all she just curious she may love him now.. and not see you for a while but one day she is going to sit there and say(what have I done) she not pushing you away, she just dosent relize it, she needs you to be there for her, sit her down explain how you feel, a girl always need another girl to talk to, if you tryed talking to her about it a couple of times and it hasent worked out, then let it go. You will move on, it will be hard at first and you will miss her and you will laugh at all your memories but its not your job to make sure you guys stays friends forever, its just not ment, she will come around one day, and relize her mistake and what she did was wrong. just dont worry about it. I hope my advice help you out.
-----Melanie

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