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Q: In the past, my best friend, used to ditch me alot. We had a big discussion on it. I said how it really hurt my feelings & all this stuff. So then she told me, she didn't mean to do it, & she was very sorry, & would never do it again. She promised & everything.

Then, just yesterday, she did it.
I went to this beach, like I don't know a week or two ago? & thats basically, all I've been talking about. & I kept saying I'm gonna invite you ok? & shes like ok, I can't wait. So I was all excited right? & then I'm like.. "I think were gonna go down there tomorrow. I was wondering if you can go?" & shes like "Yeah!" & so then.. around 6ish that day, I went to the park with my family & got ice cream. So, when I get back, shes all.. I can't go with you tomorrow, I'm sleeping over Kahlies house. & I got really really reallly really mad & upset. Because, I've been looking forward to it, for forever. So, since I was so angry, I just blurted out, I don't wanna talk to you anymore. & like stuff about being her best friend. So, then when she got to Kahlies shes all.. "Well, I can't believe your doing this when Kyle is about to dump me!" & then I just signed off. Because, I got mad.. that shes more worried about her boyfriendm, then losing her best friend? So yeah, I don't know what to do. I acted like I didn't care anymore, because I was tired, & wanted to go to bed.

What should I do? Should I continue to be mad at her? Or should I just forget about it.. & forgive her? I'm just upset, & need some advice. ASAP.
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HI good question. First of all I just want to let you know that it was great that you stood up to her and told her the truth about your feelings. I had trouble with that a couple years ago too. If she keeps on ditching you are going to have to get used to it and realize she probably is not going to be as loyal to you as you would like. As far as the boyfriend thing, to me it sound like she is more in to boys and relationships then you. ( no offense ) I am more into friends to. If she is more worried about her boyfriend you should talk to her about her boyfriend and comfort her if he does break up with her. I think you should talk to her again and hopefully it will smooth things up a bit. But do let her know that you will be there for her if she ever needs you during bad relationships. If you love her as much as it sounds, you should not stay mad at her, but you should not just forget about it.

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