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Hey I'm Erin! Ask me if you need advice or just have a suggestion! ThAnKs EvErYoNe! SiNcE YoUr HeRe, AsK Me! **ErIn**
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ok i have this friend named addison and he says that we r friends but then he tells people behind my bac that im a pain in the ass and that he hates me and wants nothin 2 do with me. what do i do?
Well that doesn't sound like a good friend! Are you sure he tells this to people? Or have u just heard this from other people? MAke sure you hear if from HIS mouth, and not just through the "grapevine" *LoL* Confront him about it and try to clear things up with him. If it is true what u hear, then maybe you should reconsider who your real friends are. Hope this helped.
xoxo Erin*
erin is the specialest girl i kno! thanx again erin! ur super cool! ~*~k8ee~*~
EEE! So are you katie! I love u babe! ur the best!! YAY for K!! lol im glad we have biology togher! without it i wouldnt have met u! then i would cry! because k8ee is so awesome! thanks for everything uve done for me and listening! ur one of the few i can trust!
*ErIn**
erin
im in such a bad place rite now. i just had basically an hour long break down including writing a note to myself so i dont tell/offend ne one else, crying, and just feeling completely crappy. i hate feeling this way. i have friends and i kno they love me, but i feel like im making every1s lives miserable. im not thinking ne thing desperate or life threatening or anything, so dont worry about that, im just in such a bad place rite now! i just wish so many things were different, and i were a better person and i had some1 that i could talk to w/ total trust and they knew who i was! but i dont have anyone like that! i have a best friend, but i cant fully trust her. and it SUCKS SO MUCH! i know that i sound very desperate and needy right now, but if u could try ur best to help me, i would be so greatful. thanks so much!
Oh, I'm so sorry. Never ever think you make other peoples lives miserable. And no, you don't sound desperate and needy! Writing is a really good way to actually let your feeling out. It helps you realize whats wrong without having to, like you said, tell/offend anyone. Once you've written it, go back and read it, and it will make you feel a little better. I have like a thousand notebooks with things like that, its kind of like my escape from the world for a while.
I completely get where you are coming from wiht the trusting thing. I trust only like three people in my life, so when somethings wrong, I don't really feel like I have anyone to talk to, just like you feel. I wish I could help you with this, but I can't. I can be there for you anytime if you would like someone to talk to, because I COMPLETELY get how you feel. If you don't want to talk to me about it, then that is fine too. I/M me though if you do want someone to talk to, because I will listen to you 100% and keep whatever is going on between us, or you can call me, I know what it's like to have no one to totally trust or go to when I need them. I really hope I helped you and good luck! Feel better!
*erin
Erin-
I have this friend, and i love her to DEATH and everything. Recently, shes been asking me alot of random questions asking me if i hate people that change alot, i know deep down insdie shes talking about me and it kills me to know that she thinks bad things about me. She talks about how the person got a HUGE head and stuff every since like a month ago..and a month ago is exactly wen i started going out with this guy....shes one of my best friends and so i cant get mad at her. and every time i ask her who the heck shes talking about shes like no one and i go is it me shes like im not saying who it is just answer the questioN! it makes me really mad!! wat do i do!!?!?
LoViN THe FrIensHip..HaTiNG thE fRiEnd..
Tell her that you don't want to her about it. Say its not nice to talk bad about people, and you dont want to be part of it. How do u know its you? if it is, thats not friendly, if its not, then u dont want ot be caught in the midddle cause it could turn around on u! hope i helped !
dear erin
i have this friend, who never says thank you! never! this other friend of mine (whos super sweet!) does all this stuff for him all the time! and he never thanks her in any way shape or form! its really rude of him, and its starting to get on my other friends nerves, and i can totally see why! what should she do? thanks so much!
Well, I don't really know what this other friend should do. They sounds like someone I know *really* well though! And this other guy sounds like a guy I know too. And this situation is *very* familiar. Well, I think this first friend should stop being so kind to this other friend. She has probably been used alot and is sick of it. She probably doesn't deserve all the crap she has been through before this guy didnt say thanks, and even though she thought the friends she made were different, she realized that some were somewhat the same as those before! They use and take advantage of her! And she is sick of it. And out of everything that she has done, she just wants him to say thanks, in some way shape or form. So I think she should just wait for someone to say thanks besides the one person who always does (*K8*- who is the sweetest person ever)
*erin
Thanks for the advice!
Hey!YOure very welcom! I'm Happy to give anyone advice. I enjoy helping, even if Im not that great at it. Its the thought the counts, and Im glad you all ask me, it really helps me too.
xoxo erin
dear erin
im sorry this isnt a ? but u said u didnt have ne new messages, and i wanted to give u one! thanks for the cute picture you made me! its so fun! i have to find a way to print it lol. i totally will tho... well i g2g, but i hope this makes you happy to read instead of nothing! lol. have an awesome week! :)
love katie!
p.s. ur an awesome advice giver!
haha thanks katie!
dear erin,
what do you do if one of ur friends talks bad about you behind your back? i know for a fact she does this, because she says all the mean stuff to my best friend, who tells me. but she acts like nothing is wrong to my face! i don't know what to do, because it really makes me mad, but if i ask her about it, she turns it on me and says how much i hate her, even thought i don't! please help! thank ya!
I am very familiar with this subject.In my opinion, I'd rather know what a person thinks of me by them telling it to my face, versus talking about me behind my back. One thing you definatly should NOT do is talk bad about this friend behind HER back because that would just bring you down to her level, and what would that get you? Though you are going to hate this, you HAVE to talk to her. Take her aside (it's better if she is in a good mood) and talk to her about it. Even though you might not realize it, your tone with her is probably not the nicest tone you could have. Don't accuse her of talking bad about you, but instead just calming ask if the things you heard are true. Keep calm through the whole time, and don't start ignoring her because you THINK she might be saying this things. I could go on about this for ever and have ALOT more advice about this. If you want you can IM me, and you should have my screenname because thats how you got this link! Good Luck and IM me if you need more help, I've been down this road ALOT and know how it works! Hope i Helped!
xOxo ErIn