So basically my friend and I are like...bff. On day she texted me saying "I think we should spend some time as not best friends". I felt extremely mad and discouraged, but I knew I should keep cool. I answered saying "tell me why you are mad, and I will try to fix it". She said that there is no way of fixing it and that she doesn't want to forgive me. The text messages have been going on for about a month now, and when we see each other in person at school we she completely ignores me. I really miss my friend. How can I get her back?
Did you do anything to her, that you may not want too talk about....
People just don't get mad at you for no reason...
And if so, then it's clearly an excuse she's using not too hang with you...
But in the teenage World, lots of friendships ends because of he say/she say...
So her anger can stem from what someone else may have said...
So either you confront her about it...
Or you just move on...
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So the only guy I truely have feelings for and I now live about 2 hours away from eachother. His name is jason and I went to go hang out with him about 3 days ago and I was supposed to go to my dads at ten pm to stay the night then I would go home the next morning. Well while we were hanging out we drank a bit and I noticed he was spending alot of time with my homegirl mariah and it pissed me off so I made out with his best freind matt. Then like 2 hourse later me and mariah walked to round table to meet this girl that wanted to hang out with us. Her name is leighanne and she is not allowed to chill with me alone so her mom sat in the parking lot of the pizza place, and me and mariah told her if she wanted 2 drink that we would go get the bottle and bring it back 4 her. So when she gave us the money we bought a bottle of vodka and went back to jasons house (ditching leighanne with her money/bottle). Anyways me mariah jason matt and this guy martino all drank the bottle then we went to a place where there was more drink and we drank there then left. We went to this pond where me and jason had a really long talk about our relationship that turned in to a huge fight. Mariah and Matt left and Jason told me he wanted me to stay the night at his house so we could talk some more. Me not caring about my ten pm curfew went back to his house with him and martino. .......Well I guess earlier Leighanne (the girl we ditched/jacked) snuck out the back of the pizza place with her boyfreind and when her dad caught her it was already 12:30 am. My dad was with her dadd and they were looking for us so when they found her since she was obviously mad at me for ditching her she told my dad where jason lived. So My dad shows up at jasons house and is telling his parents im a runaway which is not even close to true. I was simply 2hours late. THEN I see leighanne walk up with her dad and I was unabled to stop myself from putting my hands on her. I guess I hurt her really bad (thats what my dad says). But besides that Jason is so mad all that drama was brought to his house and he refuses my calls and wont reply my myspace messages, He even told mariah he is pissed at me cuz he thinks i was a runaway. I am unabled to explain to him anything plus he was already upset with me that day for making out with matt and our fight. Since im so far away from him also I cant just go find him and talk to him in person. I feel like it may really be over between us and that hurts especially that it ended this way! Plus I really want to call and make sure leighanne is ok and talk to her. I know I was EXTREMELY messed up to her that day but at one time she was my best friend. That day just pretty much fucked up my life! :::My parents dont trust me to come home on time! I lost A best friend! And may have lost the love of my life.
Well lesson learned. I don't mean to be cruel, but from what you say I beleive that you deserve the affect that has come to you. In life theres a cause and theres an affect. So you make your causes the best, if you wish to recieve a positive affect. In one day you betrayed three people, your boufriend, your parents and also your friend. And from what I'm reading, you don't seem like a very good person. You seem very negative, and you need to worry about trying to turn your life around if you want better future responses. You acted very selish towards everybody, ad you seem perplexed as of why your parents don'trust you and your friend and your boyfriend want respond. Andd you had he nerves to put your hands on that girl after you did her wrong in the first place. What I suggest you do is start apolizing to the people you've hurt. And after that you start to get your life in order... Because the way you're going is to nowhere land... You may not like my response all that well but I don't really to much care fro high ratings... And I not good at telling you what you wanna hear I tell it like I see it... The best of luck to you and I do hope you get it togeather
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My friend told me that she is gay and I do not want to be friends with her anymore. It's not that I don't like her as a person but I cannot grasp the fact that she has become a lesbian. Just months ago she was dating men and now she is claiming homosexuality. I don't like it and the entire thing makes me uncomfortable. I'm trying to avoid her now more than ever since she has confessed her sexuality to me and I feel that I need to just tell her to her face why I no longer have interest in our friendship. How should I tell her? What should I say? I don't want to come off as cruel by saying, "You're a homosexual and that makes me too uncomfortable to continue a friendship with you," but at the same time I think it sounds most appropriate because it is the truth.
I know it isn't fair of me to not tell her why I have been avoiding contact with her. I know I should tell her but I'm not sure how I should go about this. I was thinking a neutral setting would be most appropriate but I don't want to embarrass her if she gets upset in some form.
Does anyone have experience with this or any ideas of how I should handle this matter? Thank you.
I can relate to you on this question. One of my best friends came out about a year ago that she's bisexual now. And at first I was really uncomfty around her. I never had anything agaist gays but I never was really close to someone who was. I felt that she would start looking at me inappropiately, and she would start bringing women around me, and doing stuff with them. So I advoided her, for as long as I could. But you know what I started to miss her as well. As friends we both went threw alot of things. and I started to think was my friendship with her really worth losing. So I had a talk with her, and I told her how I felt. She was relieved that I wanted to still be her friend. And she promise that she wouldn't say or do anyting inappropiate when I was around. But 1month later she realized it was just a phase. And she really wanted men. and currently she's engaged to a MAN. Weather she remained gay or not, I would have stayed her friend. A good friendship is not worth giving up no matter what. And as friends you experience changes. You may not know what changes you may make make in life. So would you want your friends to abandon you????
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19, female.
my best guy friend always tells me that i never tell him anything. and that he feels like he doesn't even know me anymore. but i mean what am i suppose to do, randomly just say everything about me and everything that i'm thinking and everything i've been through?
i wish i could tell him....
that i've been hurt so many times in the past.
that my heart wants to trust him, but my mind tells me not to.
that i'm rarely happy, and that i just fake it.
that i have an anxiety disorder and am taking medication.
that i can't find a boy, nobodys ever good enough for me.
that i'm insecure.
that i'm jealous when he gets close to another girl.
that i put everyone before myself, which has ruined me.
that i've been used by my friends, and when they screw me over and run back to me i'm always there with open arms..
that i can't trust anyone, yet i'm so vulnerable to everything.
that everytime i'm with him, i can't stop smiling.
that i love him, that i'm in love with our friendship.
that i'm drifting away from my family.
theres just so many things i can tell him. how do i though? honestly...
Wow! It seems you have a lot going on inside. And to be honest wit you, I can relate to you on some things. I've also been misused and treatly unfairly in relationships and friends as well. I've been vulnerble, and I've surely let others take advantage of me. And to this day I'm still dealing and coping with certain issues. But you know what help me threw alot was, the support of true friends and a great family. Maybe your friend can help you if you only open up to him. And if he is a true friend he wouldn't think any less of you, if you tell him whats going on. And maybe by opening up to him, it could help you in a way. It's always good to vent. And I think you have someone to vent to so do it. Get him face to face and tell him what's going on with you. And you might be suprize at the successful therapy it is to confide in a close friend. Best of luck.
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I need a good place to sit down and talk with my friend. Were in 9th grade so we can't go drive somewhere but what are some general places you can talk to someone with no distraction?
I would go to a park. I'm sure theres one some where in your neighborhood. I would choose a bench off on it's on and there I would chit chat.
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