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My friend is 13/f. She hangs out with a lot of bad kids (whores, druggies, etc) and they end to party and get baked..A LOT. Well today she went down into the room wheere everyone was gettin baked and I was like "what were you doing down there?" and shes like "I was tryin to get meghan out of there" and I was like "ok.." but I don't believe her. It seems whenever I ask her if she does something or did something she denies it. I just want her to tell me the truth. I'd rather have the truth than to her lie about that to me. So what can I say to her to make sure she tells me the truth? (link)
trick her into it...be like man theres gonna be a party and they gonna be drinking and smokking i think ima try that tonight you want to try it with me

if she says yes then slap some senses into her


iof she says no then obviously she doesnt do that stuff


its like this. im basically the only black gurl in my skool. there are a few black boiz but they have gurlsfriends. i try my hardest to get a boifriend but it seems like no one wants to go out with the black gurl. wut should i do so that i can get a boifriend and not be left out cuz just about all my friends have boifriends? (link)
i would always say dont rush into things they will come to you...but if you really want a b/f then pick one guy out of the guys in school and try to be a cool ass friend with him and trust me in no time he'll be yours


this might be kinda confusing but my friend is goin out wit her bestfriends brother and he is goin to break up with her and i found this out. he wants his sister to tell his gurlfriend he wants to break up but she doesnt want to and shes afraid that if she does that it will ruin her friendship between her and my friend so wut should we all do because me and his sister know that he's goin to break up with her but we dont want to tell her and we dont want them to break up because she really likes him. (link)
if you and that guys sister think dat its going to break her heart if he leaves her...
then tell your friend be like i found out something and tell her that he is goingt o break up with her...and convince her to break up with him first...

then he'll feel stupid and your friend will be hurting but she'll be releaved that she did the breaking up in'


So my friend graduated high school last year and she invited me to her graduation party. Her boyfriend was there- who is a year behind her so he's a senior this year- and I almost immmediatley liked him from the start of the party. I feel like a horrible person.

This situation only got worse. He's in my Drama class this year and I'm not sure if I flirted with him or not. We did this thing where we brought in what described who we are (I brought in a blank journal) and when I was done I passed by him, and smiled: but no, it gets worse: *he smiled back.*

I feel horrible and I just don't know what to do. Help! (link)
a smile isnt flirting

its a friendly guesture

now if he winked or blew a kiss at you then thats flirting



okay i have a friend and i am on the phone with her and she wants me to come over and i dont know if i want to go bacause i dont really like her sisters and i dont want to go what are some good excuses you can think of that I can get out of this i really need this help my mom said i could but i dont want to so she asks me and i say i dont know but i need a excuse but i dont want it to be mean so please give me some good excuses


love brittany
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call her early that day and tell her your on your rag and that you have really bad cramps and dat you wish you could go but you cant even get out of bed


ok, well my best friend[[lets call her CJ]] is going out with this guy[[lets call him bobby]] and she went out with 'bobby' and she cheated on him, then they broke up, i went out with 'bobby', we broke up, and now he's back with my best friend...except 'CJ' is known to cheat on alot of her boyfriends.
i just dont want 'bobby' to get hurt..AgAin
wat should i do?!?!?


will rate high [[if you dont give shitty advice]]-lol
thanks! (link)
to tell you the truth you might think is this shitty advice but its just the truth...

if he went out with her she cheated on him and then he went with you and broke things off and then got BACK with her then obviously he likes getting played


and sooner or later he will open his eyes and see that she aint worth it


so i say just try to be a good friend to him so when he does open his eyes ur the one he turns to..and BAM he's urs again


16/m

i need a way to get back at my friend. The dam SOB is stealing everygirl that i manege to hook up with, this is drivin me mad!!!. its like he doing it on purpose. I meet a girl, i go out with her, then outa nowhere she meets him and she wont talk to me and the next day i see em 2 hangin out or what ever. I WONA FRIKIN KILL THE DUDE!!!! and i would if only i didnt know him for like 5 years.

any help/advince? (link)
do the same shyt to him...he wants to play slick and take ur gurls then next time you see him with a female he likes ...take her from him ....just be really nice to her offer her food, anything to drink, take a wlk with her, make everything feel like its about her

i bet you she'll fall for u and forget about him then he'll b pissed...
mission accomplished


well is it weird that im a girl that thinks its better to have guy friends. cause there not all about drama and are really funny. well a bunch of people say that cuz im nice and i hang out with guys that means i like love them or something. and i really dont feel that way about them.
what do you think
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who ever you pick as your friends thats you business and noone knows why you pick them over girls but why should they care..if any girls come up to you saying dat you hang around with them cuz you want a b/f or soemthing stupid like dat be like and your only coming up to me and saying dat cuz you wish you were the one hanging with a bunch of guys...and then walk away


So this girl I'm not friends w/ anymore got REALLY SKINNY and she thinks she needs to lose a couple more pounds when she's really tall and is like 20 lbs under weight!!! Her friends (that I'm still friends w/) tell me that she hasn't been eating much anymore and I'm worried about her but I don't want to get involved in it bc technically it's none of my business since I ended the friendship (although the girl doesn't seem to realize this) And her friend told me that a bunch of people tried talking to the girl's mom about her not eating and her mom didn't do anything about it. We're all concered but aren't obsessing over it yet. What should my role in this be? Should I stay out of it or should I talk to her about it??? (link)
talk to her...cuz obviously if you are worried about her you still consider her your friend and you care about her..it was ur mistake for ending the frienship and you should step up to the plate and see whats wrong with her




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