15/f.
So i feel like im loosing my friends i have currently. I have these other friends who i am getting kind of close to. And i made new friends who are friends of my friends. Now two of the people im getting close to I've known since i was a little girl. These friends arent the best, they smoke, they drink, its all about sex. Im not saying i dont drink but i only do it ocassionally. I really would love to hang out with thme because they are real friends, they stick up for me & listen & help me out. But im not up for the whole partying thing, thats basically all they do & know. I would have no problem going to a party, but i just dont get it. I dont know what to do. should i still be friends with them, should i dump them as friends and get different ones, should i talk to them about it? i dont know. any help would be nice.
Awesome. This is one of those things I know for a fact. Statistics (and personal experience) show that you are an average of the five closest people to you. You engage in the same activities, learn the same things, make similar decisions, and (if you keep them long enough) end up making about the same amount of money as them. No Joke.
You don't want to be a party girl? Don't hang out with party girls. They go to partys and party hardy. I'm not saying shun them or cut them off; love them where they're at. But be build quality relationships with people you look up to. People who either have what you want in your life, or have the same wants and desires as you do.
Good luck on your freind search. I'm actually going through one right now myself...
-Evan
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I am so sexually confused! One second I'm bi and another I'm
gay! I am 14yr.s old a freshmen, confused on what my sexuality is. People says I'm gay, but I still think girls are cute, but I would
rather go with a boy. So what am I!?! Need answers...
It's insane that people get so crazy over topics like this. Are you gay?? Are you striaght? Lez? Bi? Trans? Who knows, who cares? At 14, this should be the LEAST of your worries.
I would try some relationships with girls first. Don't get me wrong, I am not trying to be anti-gay or anything, but from personal experience, and from people I know, it is emotionally more satisfying to be with someone of the opposite sex. I've known quite a few gay AND bi people, and most of them have been happier with the opposite sex. Not all, but most(and this is from JUST the gays and bi's that i know, not everyone i know). I'm not saying it's easier, because it's not (it's pretty hard), but it IS more rewarding.
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This might get a little lengthy.
My friend and I got into this argument last week in which we realized we both thought the other a bad friend and we had been kind of been unknowingly avoiding each other because one thought the other would be a bitch and all of that fun stuff. Typical female passive aggressive bullshit. We talked it out and made up. Then I invited her to see this concert with me of one of her favorite bands, since I had some free tickets.
Today we were sitting in English and she starts ranting and raving about how shes going to a really good place to eat right after class gets out. We both don't have any class after English. I kind of hint that I want to go because it's my favorite place but I just assumed it was a one on one thing with another friend so I didn't come on too strong. 10 minutes later she brings it up again and says to our other friend, Hey you should come with me! I'll sneak you out... just ditch the rest of the day! (she doesn't get out early like us).
So let's recap. I just saved her 30 or 40 bucks by taking her to this show with me tomorrow, plus I'm going to be giving her a ride, and she knows I had nothing better to do and could have gone to lunch with her, and yet she sits there and begs this other girl to go, and she said last week that *I* was the bad friend.
I assume I should confront her about this before the show so I don't have to spend the whole time with her being pissed off... but I just wanted to double check I was being reasonable and maybe get some pointers on how to go about starting this.
you saved her $30-40? Was it a nice thing that you did for her? Or does she OWE you for it? Obviously, if she doesn't appreciate it, you don't want to be dropping money on tickets for her... but that's a different matter.
As for the lunch thing; don't hint, ASK. I mean, if you really want to go, just ask, right? Some people are really dumb. You can throw hints and clues and even suggestions and they still don't pick up on it. Sometimes you HAVE to ask.
I would definatley talk to her about it though, it's good to talk and get stuff worked out. And if during the course of the conversation she says something you don't like or agree with DO NOT raise your voice. Bite you tongue. Some of the best things I ever learned from people I did by just listening.
Hope all goes well with you,
-Evan
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