I have spent a great deal of my life learning about my shortcomings and how to deal with them/change them and incorporate these changes into my life. I tend to be helpful to people in various life situations through my own life experiences, which I feel is the only way a person can truly relate. I have been in Recovery from Drug Addiction for over 7 yrs. and currently have 5 yrs. "clean" (and sober).
I have been involved in the Mental Health System for over 15 yrs. and am currently on Medication for Chronic Depression as well as an Anxiety Disorder. I am openminded and honest.
If I feel I can help you, I will do my best. If I feel I can't, I will let you know.
Incidently...
I go by the name of Butterfly because I believe that I myself have undergone many changes...a metamorphose...from an old life (the Caterpillar) to a new life (the butterfly)...from being closed in/up to being free...
"What the caterpillar calls the end, the rest of the world calls a butterfly"...Lao Tsu
In Faith,
Butterfly
Gender: Female
Location: Toronto, Canada
Occupation: Life
Age: 38
Member Since: February 16, 2004
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My friend is really annoying. She's always complaining about everything. Her grandma spoils her rotten, so I know her life is not that bad. I want to tell her o shut up, but I don't want to hurt her feelings. What should I do? (link)
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First and foremost, I'd have to ask myself if this person is really a "Friend". I know friends can have their moments, and if she is a true friend perhaps letting her know in a respectful way that she is annoying you would be a good idea. If she isn't a "true" friend, I'd sorta keep my distance and possibly let her know that you find her somewhat annoying (respectfully) and that you don't need a friend like that. We do have a right to choose who are friends are...and we are who we associate with.
Secondly, I'd ask myself why it is I find her annoying...you mentioned her grandma spoils her...perhaps, in all honesty, you are feeling a little envious or jealous? If you are, that's ok. Everyone gets those feelings. Maybe letting her know this could not only stop her from annoying you, but might help you understand your own feelings and why you feel them a little better.
Hope it helps...
Remember...when we point a finger at another person, there are still 3 fingers pointing back at us...perhaps understanding ourselves better can help us deal with the annoying things in others. :)
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